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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I dunno what to do, i have been with my boyfriend on and off for about 2 - 2 1/2 years. We split for about 6 months in 2008 and i had no idea that in 2009 we would get back together. When we split after i while i decided to try dating again, and i met this guy and we decided to meet. Things were rubbish, i wasn't able to think about anything else but my ex and how much i love him. I told this guy that i had met all about the situation between me and my ex and he really helped me out, and told me to try to rekindle things with him. I stayed in contact with the guy i met we talked alot about how things were with me and my ex and his new relationships etc and became quite close friends. In june 2009 my ex and i decided to give it another go and got back together things were great and in july we even went on holiday together and that brought us closer. I checked my emails when arriving home after my holiday and i had an email from the guy i had met asking me how things were, so i replied telling him the good news that my ex and i got back together etc and we even had a long phone converstation. My ex went through my call log and found that i had been ringing another boy, and now can't look at me, we had a huge arguement and he keeps telling me he doesn't know whether he can trust me, and he feels like he's not good enough for me and that i'm obviously not satisfied with just him. Yes, i admit when he first found the call, i denied it and then persisted to lie. I eventually told him everything the truth, about meeting him when we weren't together etc and he told me i made him feel sick. And that i shouldn't need to talk to him as i already have a boyfriend. Things are bad between us, i've seen him twice since the phonecall and there has been no sexual intercourse, no cuddles or kisses. No real converstation and no trust. He can't even look me in the face and this morning he wouldn't even change infront of me. He hasn't ended it with me, but i'm scared hes going to. I don't like this other guy in any other way than a friend and i'm prepared to have no contact with this other guy if it means i can keep my boyfriend. I just want to know what to do and what to say to my ex to make him believe me or try to trust me again. please reply with help fast.
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reader, bodylotion +, writes (31 July 2009):
 Your boyfriend is being totally outragous , stupid and totally jelous. You have done absolutley nothing wrong. You and your boyfriend were on a break at the time you met this new friend. Explain to your boyfriend you had no sexual or physical contact with this friend when you and your boyfriend weren't together, so why would you jeprodise everything you have now to cheat on him? It just doesn't make sense. He needs to learn to trust you and allow you to have male FRIENDS. There is nothing wrong with females having male friends and males having female friends, even when they are in a relationship. I undertstand you lied about the phone call, but this was because you was scared of losing the lad you love and you did tell your boyfriend in the end. Your boyfriend seems to have trust issues, if you can't overcome the trust issues everything is sure to end. If there's no trust, there can't be a strong relationship.
Good luck .
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