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*aria12345
writes:i have been with my boyfriend nearlly 2yrs now. i am 18 and he is 21.we use to kiss and cuddle all the time but now we dnt do it very often. he never gives me sex i get it once a week. i am a pretty girl i am slim and smart dressed i like to make my self look and feel good i just dont understand why he is like this.he always masterbates every night some nights to porn some nights not.i have told him i dont like him watching porn but he just says stop been childish it aint like i am ever going to meet them. then he lies saying he hasent looked and he has, he is watching it behind my back.but it makes me think what is he really thinking off when we are making love, me or porn stars?please help me.thank you x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): thank you for all your support i hope he stops watching it i have told him loads of times i spoke to him last night about how i was feeeling and he understood me so i now think that he is knowing how i feel and it has made him realise how much he is really hurting me. but i still dont think he will stop watching it. men never listen to women i have have times when i just want to leave and never see him again but my feelings get in the way.
thank you very much again. love maria x
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I have the same situation with my boyfriend of 2 years. after the first amazing year of our relationship i discovered he was addicted to porn, ive been fighting it for about 8 months now. He knows it breaks my heart, and ive cried and yelled uncountable times. heres the deal. i can tell you have the same opion about porn as i do. I mean its ironic when a man pleads his love to you and on the other hand gets aroused by another women. to me he is emotionally cheating on me .It is really hard to keep a healthy fun relationship with this problem..look, if your not importnant enough to him to stop then you need to stop the reltaionship now. There is no relationship without trust and respect. but on the other hand, if he is showing gradual improvement on the subject, maybe theres hope and you would need to support him a lot and show him how much you love him. just stick by his side the whole time and maybe he will pull through if he sees you believe in him
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2009): I have the same situation with my boyfriend of 2 years. after the first amazing year of our relationship i discovered he was addicted to porn, ive been fighting it for about 8 months now. He knows it breaks my heart, and ive cried and yelled uncountable times.
heres the deal.
i cant tell you have the same opion about porn as i do. I mean its ironic when a man pleads his love to you and on the other hand gets aroused by another women. to me he is emotionally cheating on me .
It is really hard to keep a healthy fun relationship with this problem
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look, if your not importnant enough to him to stop then you need to stop the reltaionship now. There is no relationship without trust and respect.
but on the other hand, if he is showing gradual improvement on the subject, maybe theres hope and you would need to support him a lot and show him how much you love him. just stick by his side the whole time and maybe he will pull through if he sees you believe in him
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): Sounds like a phase and right now when you make love he is probably in a phase of thinking of the porn stars instead of you. some guys watch it secretly but if you know about it then he has no respect and is arrogant to tell you, he's using you im afraid and like the other person here said if the porn stars were there he would replace you with them. sad but true. just hope these porn stars are american and not british, that way he'll neevr meet them lol.
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reader, sp0307 +, writes (30 July 2009):
Sorry to hear your boyfriend is doing this.. but all guys go through different phases in their life..
I used to watch an excessive amount which led me to my first sexual experience ever with a girl i rarely knew and didnt even like... and it was AWFUL (words will not describe how bad it was and how bad i still feel about it). .but it made me realise that its not about sex its about someone you love and care about which takes time and ever since i havn't watched porn and vowed to never again which i definetly think i will.
Now with your boyfriend it seems the other way round. He had you which I must say is lucky as i have never had a loving relationship (which i really want) but now dreams about sex with random strangers even though its through porn.
Maybe its just a phase? Or maybe he'll realise that hes being stupid when he has someone ot love him right next to him which lots of guys dont and really want. In my opinion he should appreciate you more and if worse comes to worse if he ever experiences what i did and if hes like me he'll realise how dumb hes being, if not hes never going to learn..
Hope it goes well for you :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 July 2009): men simply sont understand do they....its not a question of the fact they will never meet these women...itas the fact they fantisise they could....is it supposed to make women feel better when they say 'Ill never meet tham' It pretty much implies that IF they could youd be quickly forgotten.......he is basically saying that if I could meet them Id choose them over you in a flash but dont worry cause I wont meet them
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