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writes:I was molested by my step dad @ the age of 4-12 when i said something to my mom she dint beleave me i was 15 when i finally said something. I was put in a foster home right away, my mom dint want to look @ me. I was to testify but befor that he died of his kidney bursting. i felt so much release not havin to face him @ court. im 28 now and 7 of my brothers and sisters talk to me, but still blame me for his death when they get mad they say dont talk to her she killed our father my mom still dosent beleave me she said he was like a god to her, crazy huh, well im tierd of them acepting me then they dont its mostly my younger sister, when everone starts to talk to me again she turns them aganst me. i dont know wether to talk to them or not? i mean do they beleave me after all these yrs i dont know wat to do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (30 July 2009):
I am glad you came to some peace by saying goodbye to them, that just shows you how much common sense they have if they don't know why you don't want to see them anymore. Sometimes friends are better than family, you don't need people that only want to hurt your feeling's and make you feel like your a piece of crap. I am really sorry your mom wasn't better to you and it is a shame that she would pick a man over you but she has her own issues. The bottom line never let anyone abuse you family or otherwise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI Had Wrote my youngest sister n told her just to forget about me that remember everything was my fault so for all of them to stay away i dont want any to face people aroundthat to remember what her sister always tells her everything was my fault She doesn't have to pretend she don't know what happened she writes back telling me she sorry that I'm mad @ her and doesn't understand why?? How much more of a point do I have to make that we shouldn't talk????
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (29 July 2009):
I'm sorry that you went thought both traumas. I have a friend who was molested by her father as a young girl. She's a beautiful successful woman, but she too had told her mother, who was in such denial she took her husbands side. He too died, before he could face justice. I'd strongly suggest getting some help with this... when you talk to an objective third party, hopefully you'll soon realise what a powerful force denial is. Your siblings don't sound as if they've dealt with this process well at all... kind of like an entire family convincing themselves that their mother is not a drunk, when she's passed out on the living room floor for the 20th time in 3 weeks... You did nothing wrong, he did, and you mother should have been more willing to believe you. Hopefully you can patch things up with her, and work things out with the siblings.
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reader, RCK  +, writes (29 July 2009):
Don't take such stupidity from your family. I think you need to work on yourself and find peace within yourself. Go to counselling and speak to someone else rather then your family. The man involved has passed and there is nothing really to gain from the hurt and pain that your going through. Unfortunately there probably won't be a way to make your family see what had happened to you. You are a strong beautiful person and you did not deserve to be treated like that as a child. Now it's time to heal your wounds. Good Luck
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (29 July 2009):
I am sorry for your pain, I can see how that would hurt being constantly rejected. How in there minds do they feel it is your fault because his kidney burst that is just ridiculous to even hear. I know you may long for a family and for things to be right but lets face it your mother is wrong for not believing you over a man and for not protecting you from him and your sisters and brothers are wrong for not supporting you . Me myself I would personally not be bothered by them anymore who needs to constantly be hurt by people that really don't love you. Get yourself some help and leave them out of your life or you will continue to hurt and I am sure you don't want that.
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