A
male
age
30-35,
*eopard150
writes:Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 9 months. She is on holiday at the moment in Italy with her aunt, but she has gone camping, and has her own tent. For some reason, I keep thinking she is going to cheat on me, depsite the fact that she tells me that loves me and wudnt dare do anything to hurt me. But I keep thinking, what happens if she meets some Italian guy, and falls for him? We are in a long distance relationship atm, I am in england, she in holland. So she has nothing to lose going for an italian guy instead of me.Our birthday's are the same (august 13) and we said we wud spend it together, but her parents said they might stay in italy for longer, so i might not be able to spend it with her. Do you think there is a chance she could be with some Italian guy at the moment? Or any guy in that case? I am so worried because I love her so much... please help, and ease my conscience!
View related questions:
long distance, on holiday Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 July 2009):
 Forgot to add :
It is QUITE possible to go on vacation to Italy and NOT have sex with a tall,dark and handsome Italian.. :) Specially if she is already in love.
A
female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 July 2009):
I can see why you have trust issues, BUT just because your EX cheated doesn't mean this girl will.
Don't set yourself and her up for failure.
...............................
A
female
reader, bodylotion +, writes (30 July 2009):
 When your ex cheated, your girlfriend now would of had no idea you two were going to get together, and she proberly was just being loyal to a friend. Don't hold this against her and presume she's going to cheat. Just because your ex cheated, does not mean your girlfriend will do the same. Talk to her about your concerns, however i personaly think if you keep accusing her of cheating, you may push her away and your relationship may end.
Good luck.
...............................
A
male
reader, leopard150 +, writes (30 July 2009):
leopard150 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell its cos my ex was her best mate, and she cheated on me, and my gf at the moment knew about it but did not tell me. Or maybe because I think shes too good for me? I dont know myself why I dont trust her, but I cant help think some guy is just gna sweep her off her feet!!
...............................
A
female
reader, bodylotion +, writes (30 July 2009):
It's simple your paranoid. Beleive your girlfriend when she tells you she loves you. You obviously DO NOT trust your girlfriend which is a major issue in a relationship. No trust, is there really any point?.
...............................
A
female
reader, Charlpop +, writes (30 July 2009):
 The number of people who meet people on holiday who don't speak the same language and fall in love is incredibly small. I can only think of two - a woman in a magazine, whose 'love' made a fool out of her anyway, and Shirley Valentine.
It's natural to feel a bit paranoid when you're so far away from her, but you should trust her a bit more.
You wouldn't cheat on her, so what is making you think she would cheat on you?
If she's got a background of unfaithfulness, this might explain the worrying, but otherwise I don't think you have anything to worry about.
I hope I eased your conscience!
P.S. Happy Birthday for the 13th =)
...............................
A
male
reader, lonestarchalk1 +, writes (30 July 2009):
 you asking the question in the first place raises concern that its probably probable she will, and yes, I am sure she's playing around in Italy, you mean to tell me if your in Italy with all the beautiful Italian women you wouldn't full around? If you didn't your not much of a man dude.
...............................
|
