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writes:I am a bisexual woman who is dating my soulmate. He is a great guy and has all of the qualities that I have dreamed about since I was a child. I love him so much. But I am bisexual and I do have my moments where I crave other women. But I have always been inecure about being intimate with another woman. I'm not that way with men which is why I'm so confused. I get extremely nervous around an attractive gal. My boyfriend and I want to have a threesome with one of my close friends. But I'm just not ready. I'm afraid that I'm not good enough and that she will fall in love with my guy. I know he loves me and will never EVER leave me, but I've been cheated on twice in the past (by an ex boyfriend and ex girlfriend) and I grew up with a cheating father. I feel hurt and confused and what's awful is I don't know why I feel this way. If you can help or have any opinions/related stories let me know.~The psychiatrist who can't help herself.
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reader, Renee okc +, writes (29 July 2009):
I see your problem if you are this insecure, I would advise that you dont do it only because if your relationship is great then why bring these problems into the mix. Until you get right in your mind what you really want to do don't do it. Why don't you want to share him but you want him to share you it sounds like you want your cake and eat it too. The problem is you can't predict the out come so until you can go with your first mind. Please don't make him pay for other people's mistakes if he isn't trippen off having the threesome then let it go for now and maybe come back to the idea later in the future. If I were you though I would look for someone that I wouldn't mind being in a three-way relationship the key word a relationship and this way all of you can feel secure together. Think before you Act
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reader, MistressNataliee  +, writes (28 July 2009):
Yep, im in the exact same situation, im a very jealous person and i worry myself daft thinking if he gets with another woman, i wouldnt do it, listening to your problem has made me not want to do it too, shows im not alone. A few hours of fun aint gonna be worth weeks, even months of you worrying. So not worth it. xx
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (28 July 2009):
It says you are 16 to 17.
I'm going to assume you are older.
Bringing someone you know as a friend into bed with your man is a BAD BAD BAD BAD idea.
You are going to have to see her and he is going to have to see her and you are going to be watching them both like a hawk for ever and ever.
If you are going to have a threesome then advertise online and get someone that you don't know and will never see again.
She doesn't know your guy and since she will only spend a few hours with him and there won't be a lot of conversation, she won't be falling for him or anything else like that.
Tell him ahead of time that you are feeling insecure so you need him to pay you more attention than her.
Since you have been cheated on before and are obviously a bit insecure about this I would question whether a threesome is the right thing for you at all.
Many bi sexual women survive in committed relationships, they just watch porn to get over those little urges that crop up every now and then.
Good Luck!! xx
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