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writes:I have a very difficult situation...2 months ago my mom finally accepted my boyfriend. I love him. and i;m so sure he's it. I'm 16 years old. My birthday is in two weeks...Anyway it was difficult to get him accepted because I'm the only girl and the youngest in my family...I'm a good girl I've always been very close to mom. Thing is i gave my mom a bunch of headaches and heartaches until finally I'm so happy. She's loosened up with him but she doesn't know me and him are sexually active...We just found out I'm pregnant and he's ecstatic...he's picked out names. I can't be over a month..and I really feel that maybe my only option would be to get an abortion. My family is catholic and very traditional and I feel that I owe so much to my mom...she doesn't deserve such a big disapointment from me...Idk if i9 should tell her...maybe she will never let me see him again..Please give me some advice on such a big decision in my life...
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 August 2009): Of course you have to tell your mom because she is the person who is in the best position to help you. If you are Catholic you will never forgive yourself if you have an abortion. Yes, it will break her heart but you should have thought of that before you had sex. That was DUMB. The next thing that may break her heart is if you insist on keeping the baby, which means she will have to pay for your mistake because most 16 year olds can't take care of a baby. None, in fact. How can you earn enough money? Ever checked the price of diapers? Pediatrician visits? How can you provide guidance for a kid? Your MOM will have to do those things while you go on about your life being a teenager and having sex with your bf and oh, don't forget the joy of picking out NAMES! Any other teenage girls reading this, go get birth control. Better yet, abstain.
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reader, chibi vampire +, writes (30 July 2009):
 hunny no matter what, you HAVE to tell you're mom. even though it would hurt her. and its not all that bad cuase thats how society is today .. she should accept it .. and im glad you're bf is glad about it .. hope you guys last .. cuase love is a mystery .... ;\
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): I can understand that you don't want to disappoint your family, especially your mum, but you need to tell them.
I know this will be tough as she has just accepted your boyfriend. She'll be angry, disappointed and upset, then when she finally calms down, will probably come around to the fact that you're pregnant. Then you have to decide whether to keep the baby or not.
If you're going to have an abortion you shouldn't do so because you're scared of your parents reaction.
I think it should be a mutual decision between you and your boyfriend, because if you decide something based on what your family thinks you might regret it or resent them in the future.
Good luck, keep us posted.
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 Hun this is going to be difficult because you're basically torn into two. trying to please your mum and also trying to please your boyfried.
now what you BOTH need to think about the responsibility you guys will have i mean your mum will probably be really upset and angry as you are the youngest but i am sure your family will help you out if needs be.
i mean you need to think financially if you and your boyfriend can afford things for the baby and if you guys have the time to be there for the baby because a baby is a HUGE responsibility.
but you should definately tell your mum i mean she maybe able to help you make a descision.
sure she'll be mad but when it comes to it you're her youngest daughter and she wants to protect you and be there for you ANYWAY she can.
i hope this helps hun :)
best of luck.
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, chibi vampire +, writes (29 July 2009):
I think should should not get an abortion, u should speak to your mom, she is ur mother she loves you. don't do something u could regret. Try to speak to her alone, and to tell her how u feel. Your mom might be a little angry at you at first but with time she will get over it. but u should tell her cause it would be worse if she finds out from someone else. no one can understand u more better then ur own mother.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): you should tell her. your bf sounds like he wants it
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reader, RCK  +, writes (29 July 2009):
Well your mom will find out eventually and hopefully the situation won't be worse. Get it over and done with and tell her. Be prepared for the worst and let it rip. If you tell her now she may help you make a decision that will effect the rest of your life. Before you tell her though make sure you have a plan in place or a place you can go for time out. You might want your boyfriend there with you too.
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