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writes:dear cupid, my life is ruined by insane jealousy. i cannot bear any man i have been with to even look at another woman, not even on television. my blood boils with rage when a good looking woman especially if they are young and sexy are present. i feel my men are making comparisons between me and these sexy young girls. what can i do?
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reader, hanid +, writes (20 August 2009):
hanid is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you so much for taking the timeto answer my question.hope you will always be happy in your relationships. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2009): Try rethinking your relationships with younger women. You are thinking of them as competitors, rather than younger versions of yourself who might benefit from your guidance. I occasionally meet women who seem to dislike other women period, and it feels awful for the other women, to be hated for no reason other than being present. Think about how you can improve relationships with women in your life, and don't focus so much on the relationship with your man.
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (29 July 2009):
 You can do nothing about it except to accept the fact that their are millions of gorgeous women out there. You probably are lamenting the fact that you are getting older, and maybe feel you missed out on something. But who's fault is that?I suggest since you seem to feel that it is affecting you that you see somebody about it, because you aren't getting any younger, and you cant defeat gravity
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reader, Bostoncutie4u +, writes (29 July 2009):
Hello, I should start by saying that i used to be like that too. But after 12 years and many many problems, my relationship with my fiancee is stronger than ever. I have to admit that my jealousy was the cause of our many problems, i couldnt bear the though of him looking or talking to other women. I have since learned my lesson. It started a few years ago. Our relationship was in turmoil and i wanted out. I thought only about the problems and did not see the good in him. I wasnt ready to throw it all away but was really really confused about our future together. I ended up turning to another man for what i thought i was missing. I did this on three occasions and each time faced so much regret and remorse - but most of all the hurt that i had caused him. I feel really really bad for what i had done and broke up with him because of my emotional instability of feeling so horrible about what i had put him through. Needless to say, We are still together and this man has never cheated on me ever. I dont know why i did not trust him or was jealous probably because of my insecurities about myself. I have since learned my lesson the hard way. I nearly destroyed my relationship. I want so much to make it up to him by letting him experience another woman but he refuses to sleep with anyone else. Says he wont do it cuz he loves me !!! I was so stupid to do this - but it gave me the strength to allow myself to be less insecure over time because i had simply done what i feared he would do. So u see karma bites u in the ass unexpectedly. I just want to add that after 12 years, we still have a fantastic sex life together. I am in the process of giving him the gift he so deserves. A threesome with another female. Call me crazy but he truly deserves this and me being bi-curious most of my life well its a win win situation. He gets his payback and i get to watch and participate. Not to suggest by all means that u should do this - it takes alot of trust and security in a relationship to pull it off. But i know in the long run it will make me feel less horrible by giving him the opportunity to do what i had done only with me there. While not all can agree with this I hope it can help put your thoughts and feelings into a broader perspective - jealousy only ruins relationships and makes us do horrible things and that is the bottom line. As truthful and honest as it is. Thanks and hope this helps
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