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Archived questions from: September, 2009 (see latest in Troubled relationships category)

Troubled relationships: Help and advice

I don't want to watch him die

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My bf is 25 and im turning 23. He's got high blood pressure but taking medication right now. Should we even think about getting married or should we end our relationship? I don't want to see him die. I don't want to be left alone to deal w...

Is my ex my soul mate?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5504 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - I am 28 years old. I lived for 2 years with my fiance in that time,we NEVER MARRIED because after giving me the engagement ring, he realized he was not 100% sure about marrying me, according to him because of the age gap,he is 57 years old now and ...

Relationship going down the drain because of my depression

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Relationship going down the drain because of my depression. My partner just does not understand why i hate the thought of going to sleep and why i cant stand waking up to face another day. Why i cry myself to sleep every night. He says i should just ...

Isn't reality better than fantasy when it comes to sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My Psychiatrist BF who is 41 has a 'collection' of over 100 DVD's almost ALL of which are about hetero anal sex, and a few male sex ones. He says he is only "curious" but this 'seems' different to me. I think in the past he had turned to it to ...

Giving it a try again with the ex, only now he's gone distant again after his friends saw me out with my girlfriends!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi, i dont know what to do im so confused.... i got back wid my ex and i think he is doing the same as he did before useing me... when we first met back up it was so good to see him again we had a few drinks and a chat he cudnt stop saying sorr...

Can anyone make any sense of this???

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - I am in desperate need of advice. I began seeing this girl back in the winter of 2007. We became official before christmas of 07 on the phone when she was in her hometown. She called me and asked me what we were because some guy was 'chasing her...

Another "I need space" story.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Hi, I just wanted to find out if you guys think I should worry or should just move on. I admit that we had some fights here and there. Just recently my girlfriend left for a internship for 5 months more than a thousand miles away and she prom...

I struggle to trust men and I think this has taken its toll on my relationship, how do I stop my boyfriend from leaving me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone ! I need some help. I have ruined my relationship with my boyfriend. I love him a lot and so does he. But in the past i had unsuccessful relationships and due to my past i couldn't trust my boyfriend. I always fought with him and blame ...

He said he needs time to think.....does this mean I have lost him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5088 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Ok well here goes had a huge fight with my BF of 6 months this weekend after a night out, I ended up leaving his house at 5am in the morning and going home in a rage, i call sunday and he wont answer my calls or the texts, we usually speak all the ...

Has he changed his mind about getting married?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been together for about one year. A couple of months in (when we started talking about exclusivity, etc.) we discussed what we were looking for. I'm 29, and I don't want children and haven't really thought much about ...

How to tell my girl of 6 years that its just not there anymore

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Ok so i have been with a girl for six years and we have had our ups and downs like every one else, but the problem is ive sat down for a long time and asked myself do i really love her? i have feelings for her and i do like seeing her but not being ...

Girl I'm interested in was violated and I don't know how to date her/talk to her!!!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Hey everyone, I need some help here. I care about this girl that i've been (kinda?) talking to, but something really bad happened recently. I was with he one night, drinking, and another friend of hers came in to chill too. He sketched me out,...

You don't know what you've got until its gone

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - my ex and i had a very complicated relationship. he is in the military and early on in our ldr he was asking me if i would consider moving with him in the future. he sort of pushed the topic on me and ended up pushing me away. i closed up, and soon ...

How can you love someone and get turned on by other people?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (M) - Here's my story. My girlfriend and I have been dating for eight months and I am now convinced that I'm in love with her. So here's why I'm writing now... A few weeks into our relationship I found out that she gave me several STDS, some were easily...

Other than cheating, what might make a man suddenly avoid intimacy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 5 months now and we're already in love with each other. We started being more intimate and physical after about a month of dating (we both like to take things slowly) and we always have fun with each ...

After the accident, he won't be intimate with me anymore. Why?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Hi my name is Nicole and I am 25 years old. I have been dating Justin for almost 2 years. We have a great relationship and he has never had a problem showing me affection. 7 months ago we went to a party and we got into an arguement and he stormed ...

New and improved boyfriend or more limbo land?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - Okay, so I told my boyfriend of 5 years that I wanted a break. He just didn't seem that into me. We are both 48 and he just wasn't popping the question. He kept saying when the house is finished that he is building, he'll figure the rest of the ...

Maybe if he thinks I'm sick, he'll drop the tough guy act and want to get back together?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

30 September 2009 (F) - i want my bf back but idk how long or if that will happen and i dont want to wait around for him to realize what he let go and what we had. do u ever really get over ur first true love? our break up ended bad and we havent talked since, iv e...

Was I right to break up with him over abortion?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, I was on here recently discussing an issue I was having with my boyfriend of six months. He doesn't like to spend time with my family and friends, and said he doesn't want to. http://www.dearcupid.org/quest...

I'm tired of being burdened with issues. Can anyone help?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I have graduated highschool but returned for a semester; not because of poor academics, but because I was not in the right mindset during my senior year to be thinking about University.. It was a year when I was just really getting to finally know ...

Emotionally abusive daughter in law

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3780 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My daughter in law in emotionally abusing my son. I stepped back from their relationship some time ago as they were having problems. My support or advice was not required by his wife. Her mother and I started to contact each other by text or email ...

What do you reckon he wants?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hey everyone! just need some advice here. I have been in a relationship with this guy for almost seven months now. It is long distance but nothing terrible and over the summer I broke up with him because he was acting as if he wanted out himself ...

Any ideas on how to make things better between us?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Ok here is the issue, my boyfriend thinks that I act like a 26 year old child. I will admit that at times I do act like a irrational. I have asked him what he wants me to do to change the issues in the relationship, which I am willing to do. The ...

Is this a case of "we love each other but can't be together"?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I am a recently divorced, 40 year old woman who lives in a small town - my former husband and I are good friends, and I am well-respected in the community. In June of '08 I was reconnected with a local man, he's 51, because we have a few ...

Should I work on it or leave it now before it gets worse?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I've been dating this guy for 15 months now. I am so sure that I am in love with him and I was so sure he felt the same way. But at times he gets mad over something and decides to change his mind. The last time we fought he told me he didn't thi...

He always threatens to break my face and I cry. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi my name is piya(24)dating(28)for the past 1.5 years.we love each other a lot and he promised me to marry me.but for the past few months are relationship has turned completely sour.we love each other like mad and cant do without each other.hes got ...

I love her but am no longer attracted to her

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Can I endure a relationship with a woman I love very much but to whom I am no-longer sexually attracted to what-so-ever, even though as a result that would mean having to look for extra-marital sex? ...

The qualities she originally found attractive in me now bother her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Ok here goes..I'm a 34 yr old man who has been dating a 31 yr old woman for the past 8 mo. Our relationship is good and we are serious about the future. We have come to a huge roadblock in our relationship as far as moving in is concerned. We live ...

I feel like my ex is just using me now...how do I get over him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My ex broke up with me after 5 years together about 6 months ago. We had been together since I was 17. We've been sleeping together pretty much since we broke up. In the beginning he would say things like "You're a girl I'm thinking about marrying ...

The argument was blown way out of proportion and he asked me to move out! Was I over-reacting or was I right to expect an apology?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Last month when my b/f was away on business, I noticed that someone had tried to egg my car but missed almost completely. I wasn't sure at the time that it was even an attempt, but I found broken egg shells and a slime on my tire. I washed it off ...

My boyfriend is physically/emotionally hurting me but he doesn't think he is

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4366 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost two years now. when we first started dating he always wanted to touch me and love on me. later now in the relationship he keeps teasing/taunting me, he pokes me, hits me ( in the arms and legs), he ...

My boyfriend blows hot and cold on me, do you think he wants out of this relationship?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - How do men act when they really want to end the relationship but they don't have the guts to do it themselves? My b/f of 5 years goes through extreme mood swings. One day he'll be sweet and wonderful, and two days later he's yelling obscenities at ...

My partner has gone off sex yet he still masturbates daily!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - My partner is not interested in having a sex life with me. He is under a lot of financial pressure which worries him constantly and living with me also means he has the added pressure of living with 2 children that aren't his own, which he finds ...

She used to be the one that hated me going out with my friends, now it is the other way around! How do I deal with my paranoia?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Hiya, i've been going out with my girlfriend for over a year now. We've had some up's and down's along with some trust issues but everything's been going well lately... Except ; She's always been a bit of a loner, never had a great many fr...

He cant get over his ex fiancee and wont let me in

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5537 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - okay, so my boyfriend and i broke up 4 days ago. This is a really confusing story - so try to stick with me... I moved back to my home town, after living in the city for 3 months, and when i got home, my bestfriend - Whitney* and i hung out ...

Is my relationship falling apart?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - Ok first off let me start by saying I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months, we dated a little before but we have been "official" for 3 months. We started going out back in the summer and everything was great! We saw each other every day and ...

How do I tell him I don't love him anymore?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi everyone. my problem is that ive been with a a guy for many years now. i have put up with a lot for the sake of my children and because i was so in love with him. i thought we would eventually get married and stay together forever that he would ...

I'm in love with my girlfriend's best friend!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5536 days ago

29 September 2009 (M) - I am inlove with my girlfriends best friend and i realy don't know what to do. I once kiss her, which has makes me fall inlove with her more. What must i do?...

I need advice on my relationship with my sister...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I am really just needing some good advice new friends: I am a only child of a single mother. I was a lonely child amd always wanted siblings. I met my sisters at church when I was a teenager and they were 4 and 5. We did grow up togather. They...

What can I do about a boyfriend that hates my past?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5532 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - What can I do? My boyfriend hates my past, I never did something wild, but there was a mutual friend involved. It happened before I met my boyfriend. Then that same friend introduced me to my boyfriend. Then after 6 months my boyfriend asked me ...

How can I stop lying to my boyfriend and regain his trust?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5539 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - I have a serious problem that is causing havoc in my relationship. I have been lying to my boyfriend about money being spent and not telling him about it, taking things like my cell phone without asking him if i can use it and taking him for ...

Why is he so extreme?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Everytime my b/f and I have an argument, instead of us calmly discussing what went wrong and solving it like two mature adults, he starts shouting at the top of his lungs, trying shift the blame to someone other than himself, and then when he can't ...

My boyfriend's brother molested him! Help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5539 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - hi i need help with my boyfriend he was molested when he was n little boy by his brother at the age of 7 to 9 and at the age of 12 he was molested again by a man in the hostel and now he is like a angry bom at work and with me and i really wanne ...

I still love him, should I tell him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Hi everyone, i have a problem, ok.... Me and my ex broke up almost 3 months ago after a year and a half relationship because he ended...to be honest i dont even really know why, something about me being clingy and moody and jelous of his best gir...

Is he feeling trapped and just needs a little time away from me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - Me and my boyfriend broke up about a month ago, it got really ugly and really bad. We both did things that really hurt each other and iv asked him repeatedly to try and make things work because i still love him very much and miss him more than ...

Did he ruin our relationship from the start?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5538 days ago

29 September 2009 (F) - me and my husband have been together for almost 4 years and married for 2. in the very beginning of our relationship he lied to me about still talking to his ex g/f...we live in pa and she lives in fl. i found out that she was still in the picture ...

I can't stop flirting and sleeping with men!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5539 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I am 21 yrs old and have 2 beutifull children with my boyfriend of 5 yrs who i love dearly and who dearly loves me, but I cant stop flirting and sleeping with other men. I flirt all the time online as i cant sleep with the men online, but if i go ...

I've had fictitious allegations made about me at work! Any suggestions?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5538 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - I am totally devastated as a work colleague, who I thought I got on well with, has suddenly reported me to management insinuating some serious allegations about me that have supposedly occurred when this individual and I have been alone together. ...

Why won't he be honest about watching porn, and share it with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5539 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - Okay I'll try to make a long story short. I'm in my early 20's bf is in his mid 40's He "has" ed BUT when we first meet he COULDN'T keep his hands off of me. Now 3 years later he watches porn. Unlike many women I don't mind it, I watch it too BUT...

I want to know where our relationship is going

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5539 days ago

28 September 2009 (F) - ive been seeing this guy for two years and our relationship is okay for the most part when I asked where was I in his life he replied and said that i'm what he wants and needs but he is afraid of losing control instead of being happy if left me more ...