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30-35,
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writes:Ok first off let me start by saying I have been with my girlfriend for 3 months, we dated a little before but we have been "official" for 3 months. We started going out back in the summer and everything was great! We saw each other every day and never got in any fights or anything. This was great, and finally as the summer started coming to an end, we started thinking about me going off to college. She's still a senior in high school but I'm 300 miles away at college (Freshman). The first time I came home was awesome, and I have been back like 4 times including last weekend. But last weekend something was different. We seemed "distant" from each other. It's like we both felt weird. Normally we were so comfortable around each other...and very sexual also. This past weekend seemed weird. We had sex for like 5 minutes and both weren't even remotely horny. I know something is up, but don't quite know for sure what it is. Recently she started trying to talk to her ex and clear stuff up because they ended on bad terms. They were on and off for 2 years. He was a complete jerk to her and has nothing to offer her and I have everything... I treat her like a princess, buy her stuff, hold the door open for her, tell her she's gorgeous, etc... and I still feel intimidated by the fact that they had something for 2 years. She told me that there is no comparison to what we have and what they had. She said her and I have so much more. I am so much better than him. She loves me more than she ever did him. This is the stuff she tells me. However I don't know if its true or not. After this kind of awkward weekend, today she texted me talking about a "break". This came out of nowhere and I suddenly started freaking out. I said if she wanted to break up with me just get it over with and said I didn't want to be led on and she said she loved me and didn't want to break up with me and that she could still talk to me the same. But I still don't get why she is so confused. She said breaks always ruin relationships, but she still might want to take one. What is your take on the situation? Is my relationship falling apart? What should I do?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (29 September 2009):
Yes, it is. She's got in contaact with an ex, which is a very bad sign. It sounds like you're just going through the motions. You're at college and she's miles away. She's not ready for a relationship like this. Let her go back to her ex and you go and find yourself a girl at college. End it. Go out with college friends and have some fun, let your heart heal adn when you're ready you'll find a great girl. Don't sit and wait for this one. She's going to hurt you.
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