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*hynasome
writes:I am really just needing some good advice new friends:I am a only child of a single mother. I was a lonely child amd always wanted siblings.I met my sisters at church when I was a teenager and they were 4 and 5. We did grow up togather. They are both adults now.The oldest sister is the one im having issues with. We have always had a rocky relationship. I will admit that she was my favorite, and i know its not right to have a favorite siter but she was because she reminded me so much of myself when i was younger. She loved me very hard as a child and I do feel that I pushed her away. The younger sister was always close to me and we never had any issues until she became a adult.I dont think I ever really loved the oldest one the way she wanted me too. We were all very close but there was always tension.Now that they are 19 and 20 our relationship has been rocky as adults because I am trying to let them grow into the women they are but for me it is hard to see them grow up.The oldest sister wanted to be my sons god mother when I was prego and i let her thinking that my son would mend both of us to love eachother more and better. We got into a big argument over something trivial and I told her she cant be my sons god mother anymore and I said she wasnt my real sister. I was upset and hurt at the time but for her I think that was it and she doesnt want to be in my life anymore and I dont know what to do. I have sincerely apologized to her and have been trying to make contact and shes sooo mad at me. She wont talk to me at all. I know the things I said was hurtful and i take full responsibility for my actions. She wont have anything to do with me and im hurt and feeling rejected and unloved and im going thru some personal things in my life that I did share with her after the fight and she wont talk to me or support me thru this hard time.I would never not be there for her if she as going thru something. I have always been down for her whether she hurt me or not.I have tired being the bigger person and now im just putting myself out there to get hurt and rejected.I guess my question is what do I do? Do I leave her alone and hope he comes around? If she does come around will I want her in my life by then?
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reader, chynasome +, writes (29 September 2009):
chynasome is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thank you so much for replying.
I think I will do that.
Great advice!
Chyna
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reader, chynasome +, writes (29 September 2009):
chynasome is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI guess I need to clarify this a little more.
I think im probably a hard person to get along with because i did grow up as a only child and i am kinda introverted so i guess i can shut down myself.
She is the same way.
I do feel that my personality can come off strong and she cant deal with confrontation and her way to deal with it is to shut down.
I just love her so much and I want her back in my life.
Do I want her to be my sons god mother?
Maybe... if we can resolve our issues because i just feel like i cant really talk to her as a adult or she will get upset over certain issues that i address.
i dont know... i can go on and on about this situation...
please i need some advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): Send cards with photos of your son and talk about him and how much he msises her
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