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writes:I am totally devastated as a work colleague, who I thought I got on well with, has suddenly reported me to management insinuating some serious allegations about me that have supposedly occurred when this individual and I have been alone together. These are all fictitious. I am putting on a very strong front at work, but inside I have become very nervous and am worried that I am going to be unable to be in a room alone with this person or any other person again for fear of them making fictitious allegations.I am struggling to come to terms as to why someone would be so vindictive as to potentially destroy someone's career for no apparent reason. I am determined not to be the victim here and remain strong but I am finding it so hard.I feel like my reputation could be in tatters because of this person. Why do they do it?I have been getting the support of family and friends who seem so shocked by it all that they don't know what to say.I wondered if any of you guys knew of a website (preferably UK based) where people who have been subject to this type of vindictiveness can go for help and support from others who have been through this type of thing as well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 September 2009): I am the original poster. The individual is female. She has never fitted in to the office despite our every attempt to involve her. She has been rude to me many times and I suspect she thought I was about to expose her as she does very little work and is always late for work and from lunch, and so she decided she would take things even higher. She would be next in line if I were fired. I don't know that they would get any compensation but she did seem to press me for a lot of information about a work colleague who was recently suspended on full pay for 4 months and said 'oh, he'll probably get a job with more money now'.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (29 September 2009):
The post below has it right. See a lawyer and have him draft up a letter that you will sue if anything happens to you.
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reader, Jayney Y  +, writes (29 September 2009):
 You don't really give enough information. Is it male or female, and what possible reason could they have? Would they be next in line for your job if you were fired, or would they be able to get some sort of compensation? I would stand up for myself and defend my reputation, and I would do it by seeing a lawyer and having a letter drawn up to the person making the allegations, telling them to cease immediately, then I would forward a copy of it to the management where you work so that they realise how seriously you're taking this. Then I'd breathe down the instigators neck at every opportunity, until they wished they'd never clapped eyes on me. Good luck :)
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