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*uckyhelp
writes:Hi everyone, i have a problem, ok....Me and my ex broke up almost 3 months ago after a year and a half relationship because he ended...to be honest i dont even really know why, something about me being clingy and moody and jelous of his best girl mate. Since then i have realized i didnt have to be this way with him, as i should have trusted him at stuff. I have had a boyfriend since the break up which u ended as i wasnt ready or over my ex. My ex and i speak often and get on like we used to when we went out, discussing similar interests which weve always had, but sometimes the discussion of me n him will come up, and he has told me he still loves me and that he has thought very much of asking me back out as he misses our memories, but then remembers why he dumped me. Then like a day later he was bitching about me to my best friend which makes me confused about what he has said earlier about loving me.I still miss him and love him. I think often about how happy we both were, though we werent perfect, but we had a great time together, everyone was upset when we split as it was such a shock. Recently i have thought about telling him how i still feel for him, im wondering if this is such a good idea though.What does everyone think? Thanks ahead x
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (29 September 2009):
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (29 September 2009):
 I think you shouldn't tell him how you feel, as those feelings will change in time. If he wanted to get back together then he would just ask you out and not hesitate. I think the relationship didn't work out and when you are older and more experienced then you will identify why he was wrong for you. Everyone holds on to their memories of their first boyfriend and often that is nice, but you should now move on with your life in every confidence that one day you will meet someone who ticks all the boxes. It may take a while (personally I had to wait until my 30's) but there is no point in settling for something that is not right for you.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (29 September 2009):
 You do what you want to do. If you really want to tell him how you feel go for it.But my opinion is that you should try to get over him. You don't deserve him if he is talking badly about you to his best friend.If you want him back you need to make amends with his best friend. Write a letter saying sorry and explain why you acted that. Maybe try to get to know her and become friends. Then go to him and say sorry and explain again why you acted in that manner. Also tell him about you writing a letter to his best friend and explain you are also trying to make amends with her.If he doesn't take you back then he doesn't deserve or love you. Good Luck!
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