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writes:I'm 15 and I broek up with my boyfriend about 3 moths ago because I had issues with the doubt that I was possibly not IN love with him and we've remained friends and I think I'm finally ready to move on and I tihnk I've fallen for someone, the thing is I highly doubt us is a relationship would work.He's 15 like me, has serious family issues, drinks copius ammounts (not good at 15!) and has depression. He's a really good looking guy but because of the drinking his breath often stinks of booze. WE're friends and he's told me why heis so messed up (being bullied for years at primary school, his dad makes him feel he's not good enough and was going to leave because he wasn't "clever" enough (even though he gets fantastic marks at school) and he's always saying he's in love with me etc. but I'm worried if I started a relationship if we broke up he'd be even more depressed. I don't want to hurt him but I really like him. He's not the best conversationalist but it works when we're together and alone. Sometimes I'm not even sure what I see in him since he's moody and ignores me sometimes when he's feeling down.15 is too young to care for a potentially serious boyfriend with actual depression. He's really attractive to me and when I imagine us kissing it's amazing- i know it would be. Despite the alcohol his jumper always smells soo good when he hugs me. It's really confusing. What should I do?
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reader, Farm Girl  +, writes (9 December 2009):
 You said it yourself, 15 is too young to care for someone with depression. A drinking problem is nothing you want to get mixed up with either. Your age has nothing to do with it, it never becomes easy.All you would be doing is setting yourself up for lies, cheating and deception. Along with that you stand the possibility of becoming the victim of beatings. You will become the reason he drinks! You will become at fault for everything that goes wrong in his life.It will become your fault that he has family issues.It will be your fault that he can't find a job.It will even be your fault when his car has a flat tire! In time, you may even start to believe it. Take it from a girl who's been there. Laying in bed with the side of your face bruised up all red, blue and purple and your eye swollen shut is no fun. Especially when all you were trying to do was "be there for them".I realize that this may sound harsh, but I'm just being honest.My suggestion to you is run! Don't walk, RUN!
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