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writes:i am a 32 year old female who has two kids i live with a man that is twice my age he is loving in every sense of the word but has hurt me by cheating in the process i lost a baby i was carrying i love him but hate his touch i recently met someone and have fallen in love with that person immensly but he is financially unable to give me the life that i currently live but at times i dont care about that just want to be happy i have my kids and i worry that i wont ber a good parent if i leave their father to be witha person who would not be able to give them the quality life their father would what should i do?
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reader, chick989  +, writes (22 December 2009):
i am in a similar situation - my boyfriend is broke, although i don't have children to think about. i'm 18 and am in love with my boyfriend of 50 yrs old. i was wondering if you could give me some advice and share your experience of an older man. how old were you when you got together? how long have you hated his touch? do you think you still love him? how did you meet? people go on and tell me how i'm wasting my life but i would be so grateful to hear your experience as you know what age is like first hand.
my boyfriend and i fell in love at first sight, the love or age between us is not a problem (reading your post im afraid it's only a matter of time before age bothers me), however money is. he used to lavish me with gifts (he took out a loan for me but now its all gone).
you say you want to leave your older man for the guy without money. i know i'm young but one of the main reasons for me liking older men in the first place was the money, is that what attracted you? my current boyf as i said has nothing but he's the nicest person on earth. however, we always argue, he can't keep me in the life style that i am used to, he doesn't buy me anything, take me anywhere anymore because of his financial difficulties.i like being made a fuss out of but his lack of money makes me feel worthless. when a man is down about money he usually brings you down with him.
if you really are unhappy with your older man then leave him, already at such a young age i know what it's like when you can't trust, it does your head in. if you did go for the guy who hasn't much money would it bother you that he couldn't provide for you or are you happy being an independent woman? as for your children, is your older man the actual father? if so he should have to give some sort of maintenence. money is not happiness but you certainly can't do much without it. he used to tell me we'd live on love but i want more from life than sat around watching t.v, i'm young and simply want more.
i'm happy and comfortable with my boyfriend but there are just endless arguments about money.
i hope i've managed to help in some way.
if you could share your experience with an older man it would really help me out as i have really been questioning it lately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): WHat do you mean financially unable to give.... Is he jobless? Is he going to live off you? If he it stable financially I don;t think quality of life matters so much. You can set aside your money for your children and contribute equally to the household.
Or are you saying you make no financial contribution to the house?
IN that case you should go with the less rich guy because to kids a loving but poor father better than a rich but abusive one anyday.
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