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Archived questions from: January, 2010 (see latest in Marriage problems category)

Marriage problems: Help and advice

After a flirting/emotional relationship with someone else, am I finally able to relax in my marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F) - I had a flirting/emotional relationship with a committee colleague and his wife found out several months ago. She snooped on his phone and found some incriminating texts he hadn't deleted and he told her it was just a game between us. She rang me ...

My wife lacks interest in certain sex acts, I like. How do I convince her to keep trying?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5433 days ago

31 January 2010 (M) - My questions are simple, I have been married for quite a while we always have had a good sex life. I know that as you get somewhat older it will slowdown. We always tried different things had a good mix 3 to 4 times a week when younger, now we will ...

Bad relationship with my husbands kids! How can I change things?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5427 days ago

31 January 2010 (F) - Several years ago I got involved with an older, married man. At the time I thought it was simply a short fling, but it developed into a relationship that eventually led to him leaving his wife. I do not feel the need to go into the 'gritty' ...

I got my sis to speak to my wife about sending money to another man. Now she says I can thank my sis for her dirvorcing me.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

31 January 2010 (M) - Hi everyone...im in alot of confusion and disbelief... ok so on monday the 26th my wife used my credit card to send money to some guy names Ivan...so i texted my 2 of my sisters and asked them to ask her what was going on cause i tried texting ...

Given his ex is on the scene should I even be considering marriage?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

31 January 2010 (F) - My fiance continues to talk with his ex. I believe it is her that initiates the contact. I've read his emails to find this out. She says things like, I miss you more than ever and I miss you so much I could puke. It has been 3 years since they hav...

I admit being OTT about hubby talking to another woman, but he says I am nasty and vindictive!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5435 days ago

30 January 2010 (F) - I have recently got married for the third time. My new husband speaks daily with a woman we both know and I asked him to stop. He told me that I was trying to censor him, nothing is going on and that he won't stop contact with her as there is no ...

My hubby said he had an affair to deliberately hurt me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5439 days ago

30 January 2010 (F) - I don't know which way to go, stick it out or call it a day. We've been married 3 years, together for nearly 10, and have three young children together. When I was unknowingly suffereing from depression a couple of years ago my husband set out to d...

Hubby wants the cake and to eat it too!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5435 days ago

30 January 2010 (F) - My husband, out of the blue (after 14 years of a good marriage and a 10 year old child)started having a secret affair with his married colleague. They managed to hide it for nearly an year during which i accidentally discovered and confronted him ...

I really need to spice things up in the bedroom! He refuses to give me oral sex...

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

29 January 2010 (F) - My hubby and I have a great relationship, but need some work in the bedroom department. Two of the things I want the most - to receive oral and to do it doggie style - are not happening at all. EVER. My husband tried oral on me once and did not ...

A gay man hit on my wife, is that ok?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5436 days ago

29 January 2010 (M) - Ok, so my wife is a bartender and she has these two openly gay customers. These customers are always hit on by women, as I must admit they are very handsome, but never show any interest as they are 100% gay. With that being said, one of t...

I am worried about my wife going to a wild hen do with male strippers

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5439 days ago

29 January 2010 (M) - One of my wife's best friends other girlfriend (not a friend of ours) got engaged then married this past summer. My wife's friend told her (and she then told me) that the bachelorette party was way out of this world. It was held at a private club ...

Every time I let him come back and get "sucked" back in because I care about him. Help..what should I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

29 January 2010 (F) - I have been married to my husband for 4 years. This is both of our second marriage. He had 2 kids and I had 4 kids from our previous marriages. We now have a 2 yr. daughter together for a total of 7 kids. This man can be loving to me and the ...

I love my husband but he acts like if I want to be with him I am taking up all his time

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

29 January 2010 (F) - I have been married for two years now and this is my second marriage.. I am trying to learn from mistakes from the first one. For example. My first husband and I did nothing together even when we were at home alone we were in seperate rooms and ...

My wife is being very secretive

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5111 days ago

29 January 2010 (M) - My wife and I have been married for 7 years and we have 3 children. My wife is on facebook and has a lot of guy friends on there and she will not except me as a friend I ask what are u hiding and she says nothing I talk to my girlfriends she has ...

Was it reasonable to push her when she came at me with a hot iron?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

29 January 2010 (M) - I've been married 10 years. On Thursday evenings my wife drops off our 7-year old son at football training and I drive from work to collect him. A few times there has been a last minute change and my wife has texted me but I don't think I've...

How do I cope with my husband leaving me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5440 days ago

29 January 2010 (F) - my husband and me where in phase of separation to live with my inlaws as i never wanted to live but we were living ith them since 6 months, so no tuning with them and so even me and my husband's life also started getting miserable. initia...

We sincerely love each other but I don't want to be taken for a mug.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

28 January 2010 (F) - My husband has been texting a woman he's become friendly with. I only found out when he accidentally didn't delete them the other day. Call it 'women's intuition' but something made me look at his phone and there they were!! He is saying they wer...

I got married when I was 14 and I've never experienced an orgasm!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

28 January 2010 (F) - i need some advice well the thing is im married im 18 years old i know is stupid, i got married when i was 14 and my husband was 18. Wellthe thing is that we went over things that was makeing us apart and we came to the conclusion that its SEX! the ...

He told me to quit my job to save our marriage, should I?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

28 January 2010 (F) - Im a mid twenties woman who has been married for a few years, we have two kids. Ive been uneasy in the relationship . WE finally talked about the possibility of it not working out, and he told me to quit my job, it wasnt really an ultimatum. but ...

Have I wasted 5 yrs of my life with this man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

28 January 2010 (F) - I've been living with my fiance for 5 years. He's 50 this year and i'm 47. At the start he said he wanted marriage and would ask me on a weekly basis but now he seems to have changed his mind. When i approach the subject he either says i'm starting ...

He's a good guy, my parents love him, but I lost interest one year in.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

28 January 2010 (F) - ok let me start from the begging. when i was younger my parents didnt let me go out at all. i wanted to go out and have fun with my friends at the mall and parties, i would beg to my parents to let me go out but they would make up excuses. by the ...

My husband has no desire to have sex with me...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

27 January 2010 (F) - My husband does not desire to have sex with me, a few years ago. We have it , like every 3 months, if I ask. When I'm naked, he does not even look at me, not looking bad. Some extra weight, but man always looks at me, when outside. I do have a ...

I want to marry another woman

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5442 days ago

27 January 2010 (M) - i am 38 years old business man. i married 9 years back and i have one child. these last few months back i fall in love with another girl and her age is 25 years. for my business that girl is very important, i love her and she also love me so ...

We're getting married but we have issues

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5442 days ago

27 January 2010 (F) - Ok where to start I’m 21 years old I got with my first boyfriend when I was 12 my mother allowed him to move in with me, once I had sex with him at 13 he started putting his hands on me I stayed with him for almost a year only because my mother ...

My husband wont say "I love you"

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5433 days ago

27 January 2010 (F) - My husband has never said I love u in the 10 yrs. We have been together. I asked him why when we first were together. He said when he has said it in the past that all went to hell after that. Well 10 yrs later and I still can't get him to say it. Is ...

I want to have my cake and eat it too

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5433 days ago

27 January 2010 (F) - I am married and have had a crush om a co worker for the last 7 months. I have been quite good at hiding my feelings from him til recently when we have spent a lot of time together at work. Working one on one. I let it slip about my crush on him ...

I can't stop loving her but I am setting myself up to getting hurt over and over again, what should I do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

27 January 2010 (M) - I am having difficulty in Switching off love?.. I have been in a relationship with my wife for 11 years we were 17 when we started dating and she was pregnant at 18 and gave birth to our son, we only got married 3 years ago. She was my best and...

Will his children ever forgive me for breaking up their family?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

26 January 2010 (F) - About a year ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. Well, shortly after that, a family member of his (whom I've always been attracted to but never thought anything would ever happen because he was married) contacted me to consol me for my ...

Do husbands always lose interest when their wives age?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

26 January 2010 (F) - I'm so panicked now... When I read this posts ,it looks like there is an epidemic, of marriage goes bad almost like scheduled ,for 20 -25 years. I keep reading about husbands ,who goes off sex, and losing attraction,or just simple luck of love. Me ...

Does he love me? Or what the heck is going on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

26 January 2010 (F) - Good Day all.Well you see my husband is very rude these 2-4 days. i did nothing wrong at all but he is rude towards me when he wakes up, during the day and after work . he is a bit friendly late at night but he doesnt say goodnight, hold me anymore ...

I feel like I'm living with a stranger in the house, so I have turned to online affairs so I can live a fantasy of my own!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

26 January 2010 (F) - Been married for 3 years - we met over the internet and I flew half way across the world to be with him. We got married and have a child (an infant). However, it's been weird between us. We do argue a lot - however, we always seem to be very formal ...

Obsessed with my wife's past...

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 5229 days ago

26 January 2010 (?) - I have been married to my wife for 14 years,we have three children and on the whole we are happy. I was 19 when i met my wife and she was 23 and we got married two years later. Before i met her i'd only slept with one other woman and my wife tells ...

Will I ever be able to save our relationship and myself from this horrible mistake?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5443 days ago

26 January 2010 (F) - I have made the worst mistake of my life. I cheated on the love of my life. We have been together for 3 years and married for 6 months. I feel so guilty. Especially since in the beginning of our relationship we went to therapy because I caught h...

I have cheated and lied to my husband, how can I rebuild his trust?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

26 January 2010 (F) - I really need some help. I have cheated and lied to my husband. And he does not trust me at all.o%! And I know that he will leave me if he can't trust me, we have 2 children together. I love him so much and don't want to loose my family. How can I ...

My wife has cheated on me but I want to save our marriage

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

26 January 2010 (M) - My wife left me last year. We were together for 5 years married for 3 years. At that time I had nine months of college left. I worked hard in school and my job for her and our two kids. She didn't live with me where I am attending school because ...

We are constantly at loggerheads and I don't know how to fix it!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

26 January 2010 (F) - if its not one problem its another!!! agian me and my husband are in a crunch... he says i dont treat him with respect and i say he doesn't treat me like the women i am... lol....how can i make our relationship better so we are closer and so i am ...

Trapped into marriage and wanting to get out

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5427 days ago

26 January 2010 (M) - Hi im a 31yr old man who is going through the hardest time of my life at the moment,these are my problems. 9yrs ago i finished my apprentiship and had enough cash to head overseas. At this stage i meet a girl that i was very clear to about my plans ...

How can I bring up the 'separation' conversation with my wife?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

25 January 2010 (M) - well it has been a few months now and I have seen a lawyer and a counselor I think I am ready to have the seperation chat with my wife of 5 years we have been together for 9. I just wanted to ask how does one approach the other on this? Even though ...

Wife had anal sex with another man, how should I react?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

25 January 2010 (M) - Mod note: had some language and sexual content not suitable for younger aunts and uncles, changed to make it... more friendly. I went to a party with my wife and I forgot to eat beforehand, well I got drunk and passed out. I woke up a couple o...

I want to try cunnilingus but my wife isn't interested. Any ideas on how I can bring her around?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5410 days ago

25 January 2010 (M) - Hi, I want to try cunnilingus but my wife thinks its 'dirty'. The problem is it really turns me on. What do I do?...

Have I gone too far being spiteful over my husband's affair?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - I have done something really stupid. In a fit of rage over my husband's affair with a work colleague (and very drunk) I sent some emails designed to get her into bother. Although it did achieve that purpose it has also got him into a very precarious ...

Is height a problem when it comes to a relationship? Should the man be way taller than the woman?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - Hi everyone! I'm 5'5 feet tall and my husband is only about an inch taller than me.whenever i stand next to him i feel like i'm bigger than him! or we are the same height.he's thin too.and im average.So even when posing for photographs,i tend to ...

I'm happily married so why cant I stop thinking about an old flame?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - Hi everyone! I'm 22 yrs old and married.there was a guy who really really loved me back when i was in school!but i didnt have feelings for him at all.i was not attracted to him.lets call him Ash. At that time, my ex wanted another chance as...

I never want to kiss my hubby anymore, could this be because of the pills?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - Hi guyz,i hav a problem;since i got married(3 months ago),my urge 4 kissing has completely gone,i never want 2 kiss my hubby anymore for no aparent reason.am confused since before we got maried i used 2 love his kisses.could it be the contraceptives ...

My hubby treats me like dirt, is his behaviour right, doesn't he love me anymore??

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5435 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - Hello everybody. i ill apriciate it, if Men and Women answerd me please . im very confused well see my husband tells me im sick and tired of you i need my space i have no privacy i want to be single i can afford to live on my own. a couple of hears ...

How can I make my husband leave his hobby alone for a night so we can have sex to bring back the spark in our marriage?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - Okay , all the lady's and Men please help me. ima keep it simple wich is the best way to bring that spark back in our marriage. If my husband tells me he is sick of me keeps on talking in an angry voice, never talks to me at all. How can i ask a ...

Should I do this to save my marriage? Or is it blackmail and should I call a lawyer?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5419 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - My husband and I have been married for 16 years this March. During the second year of our marriage, his business tanked and he needed money fast. A friend of ours, Jeff, generously offered a full no-interest loan that allowed my husband to save ...

I have to pretend to be satisfied with my husband during sex and I feel really bad for doing this!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - Hi, Im married since a year and half, my husband loves me a lot and I have satisfy him sexually.... My problem is, I really love to have sex with m hubby and its me who always start first, when he starts to kiss and all I feel so good but after w...

How do I get my husband to realize all the things I do for this family?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5444 days ago

25 January 2010 (F) - i am 22 years old and am married to a man who treats me as if i should be scrubbing the floors when i am not working full time or taking care of our two year old daughter or throwing up from being 6 months pregnant. we got married three days after i ...

Can low testosterone/depression make you think you no longer love your partner?

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5260 days ago

24 January 2010 (F) - Following extensive cancer treatment (testicular) including chemo and surgery my H (age 39) has now been told he has low testosterone althouygh his last reading was 10 and his LH levels were up. 10 apparantly was considered normal even though he has ...