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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have been friends with my husband since before he married his first wife. I actually was at their wedding. My husband used to tell her he loved her all the time. Their marriage only lasted 6 months (well their actual living together.) They were married 6 years. He loved her very much and tried to kill himself after they split up. So I understood his not saying I love you when we were first together. Now after 10 years I would think he would see i'm still here.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (27 January 2010):
Some guys find it hard to say those little three words, especially if they've said them before and it's gone wrong. The point is, if he's showing you loves you, then he loves you.
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (27 January 2010):
 When last did you tell him you loved him?? Maybe he feels embarassed saying it? So, take the initiative and everynight when you say goodnight to him - say to him "I love you" and every morning when he leaves for work do the same.
I dont understand what you mean by "He said when he has said it in the past that all went to hell after that" can you please explain further?
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (27 January 2010):
This is not normal. He knows you need this reassurance yet he is witholding it for some reason. Maybe you should consider couples counseling. Just to enhance what you have. But if you don't want to go and he already shows you his love and committment then perhaps you just have to live with this.
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reader, JayL  +, writes (27 January 2010):
I don't think it's normal.. However some people tend to change over time.. It's not as "New" as it once was.. If you've talked to him about this and he isn't giving you an answer then I honestly have no clue what to tell you.. 10 years is a long time to throw away..
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reader, heather108 +, writes (27 January 2010):
 Many people are not very good at saying how the feel so if he is a good husband in other ways maybe you shouldn't put much importance on this one thing.
Just remember, actions speak louder than words.
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