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writes: My wife left me last year. We were together for 5 years married for 3 years. At that time I had nine months of college left. I worked hard in school and my job for her and our two kids. She didn't live with me where I am attending school because it was too expensive. Little by little she started putting a wall between us. Then the day came were she left me. I was trying to fix things with her. We were talking the whole time trying to work things out. I come home during my break in school. She was acting funny. Being really nice. I find a pregnancy test box and ask her about it. She told me she had slept with someone and didn't know if she was pregnant. I became extremely angry. I said somethings I shouldn't have. I eventually cooled down and still wanted to fix things. She would tell me wait until march when you graduate. But I was pushy I didn't want to wait. Then she told me she didn't love me anymore and she doesn't want to be with me anymore. I just can't accept that. I want to fix things. She doesn't ask me for a divorce and I have asked her why? Her response is I don't know. I feel she still loves me and I pushed her into saying something she probably didn't meant. Now with two months before I graduate I have no clue what to do. There is no one who can replace her. I just can't lose her. I don't know what to do. I really need some help.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 January 2010):
I wonder if you working so hard on school and work that she just felt neglected and lonely. I'm not trying to blame you here, because she really has no excuse. I'm just trying to find a reason as to why she would act this way. Tell her you're willing to take things slow to try and fox it, and tell her you know it's been difficult that you've been away. Take it slow and see whether she'll open up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): This is a sad story, i really feel for you. All you can do is let her know how you feel and ask her if she has any feelings left for you, tell her you are willing to take things slow for now, that you will do anything you can to make things better between you both.The situation is made more difficult as you have two kids together. Try to make her realise it would be hard for you to not be there for the kids, although you would see them it's not the same as being there when they wake up and when they go to bed every night. I hope this works out for you bud.
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