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writes:I don't know which way to go, stick it out or call it a day. We've been married 3 years, together for nearly 10, and have three young children together.When I was unknowingly suffereing from depression a couple of years ago my husband set out to deliberatly hurt me (his words) and embarked upon a three month afair. He ended it when I found out. I know what he did was wrong, but I was a wreck and he needed some affection. We moved on, but I still can't trust him, and don't think I ever will. I love him, he's a great dad, but he makes me unhappy. It's a cliche but I just want us be the way we were ten years ago. One minute we're laughing the next at each other.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 January 2010):
For a man to go out of his way and hurt you really says so much about him. It says everything you need to know in truth. He set out to hurt you, to cause you pain, when he should have been there for you. If you want to save this, you need to both go to counselling and get all your feelings out. Truth is though, he set out to hurt you. I don't think he's worthy of your time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2010): This sounds very similar to my situation. I denied my husband love and affection due to the menopause, which like you I didn't realise I was doing at the time.
He had a texting affair which I discovered and thought it had stopped as we declared undying love and fell in love again.
8 months later I found he'd bought a secret phone to keep in contact with her, purely business related according to him!!! He was showing me his bills on his proper phone to 'prove' nothing was still going on hahaha.
Anyway, we're still together and on that roller coaster like you, euphorically happy one day and tearing each other apart the next.
I have asked for advice on here and had some very good replies, basically saying forget it and move on or get divorced.
I'm still clinging on to our love and marriage. My husband shows his remorse every day but I will never forgive or forget.
I keep wanting details and question him whenever I think he will respond. Have you had or asked for details from your husband?
I wish you luck cos it's CRAP!!!!
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