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writes:I really need some help. I have cheated and lied to my husband. And he does not trust me at all.o%! And I know that he will leave me if he can't trust me, we have 2 children together. I love him so much and don't want to loose my family. How can I regain his trust? Why can I make him believe that what I say is true. And I really care for him. Please I need serious help before my marriage ends in divorce!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): You have got a chance of saving your marriage,but anyone will find it difficult to trust someone who cheated then lied. If you care for him and you cheated,could you really be sure you wouldnt again if there was no chance of being caught? Hope it goes ok for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Sorry being harsh,but i have been cheated on and once trust is broken the odds are,that your marriage will go downhill. Cheating is a choice. Lying is the quickest way of losing his respect along with trust. Could anyone trust someone who`s told lies to them?
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Cheating is the biggest betrayal in a relationship or marriage. Lying,especialy if he knew you was will probably kill any hope of building trust back. You may just about survive this but lying will also mean he wont even trust your word anymore. Its unlikely to ever be what it was.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): You just have to beg his forgiveness and wait for his trust to build up again by being very honest, loyal and faithful. Basically be the things you should have been anyway. Theres no magic cure. If he still loves you and wants to stay with you, he will. But he probably wont ever feel quite the same about you, its hugely damaging to cheat and lie to someone that loves and trusts you. I hope it works out ok for you both and you can save the marriage.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Tell him it was the worst mistake of your life. Show him how embarrased you are.
Tell him to at least give you the chance to prove to him what you are saying is true. That you will literally do whatever it takes. Even if it means taking crap from him for a while, because honey you earned it.
Why did you cheat?
Only do this if you really love him and are sure you won't cheat again.
But understand his trust might never be 100% restored. Just keep after him in a loving way. Don't give up. Even if he does divorce you. Still tell him you love him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 January 2010):
Sit down with him and tell him you will do whatever it takes to prove to him you love him and that you regret hurting him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): Do you love him or is it fear of being alone? I love my husband and would never go anywhere near cheating on him. Unfortunately its likely he's ever going to feel the same again and you will have to accept it or let him go.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (26 January 2010):
The best thing is to ask him what he would like you to do to prove that you mean what you say. Tell him that you are prepared to do whatever he says.
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