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Archived questions from: October, 2016 (see latest in Health category)

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I think he's selfish for taking viagra!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2945 days ago

31 October 2016 (F) - I just found out my husband has been taking Viagra. He's 63 I'm 57. What makes me upset is that he should have talked to me about it, and I have not wanted sex for years. Been together 32 years and we've been having sex twice a week for last few ...

We had planned to go to a party but my behaviour seems to have scared him off!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2933 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - i was a fat awkward teenager, and was new to a school where i got bullied by a guy and girl , a lot. But i moved on and let things go.Recently after 10 years the guy got back in touch with me.Initially i did not feel like talking to him, because i ...

I don't want to have anything to do with my family ... ever again!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2933 days ago

30 October 2016 (F) - I want to go far away from my family without telling them where I am going and never ever wanting any contact with them again. I don't know if anyone here knows how it feels to be manipulated by family members till you become a dry well then th...

My mother is draining the life out of me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2948 days ago

28 October 2016 (F) - I can not handle my mother anymore. I don't know what to do. I don't even know where to start to explain the situation. I'll start with what happened most recently. I was supposed to come down this weekend to help her pack and clean her apartm...

Sleepless night. I cannot fall asleep next to my BF. What can I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - I cannot fall asleep next to my boyfriend. I don't think it's a question of habit because we've been together for a year and stay over at each other's places regularly. And usually he falls asleep in five seconds, whilst I suffer through the nigh...

His family don't think my family are good enough. Should I hope that he will accept me? I fear this relationship could leave me brokem hearted

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - Hey everyone! I'm a total mess right now and in a desperate attempt to seek advise I'm here. I was in a very serious relationship with a man for a year and half.I met his family,we were thinking of marriage planning kids and then all of a sudden ...

My sister is aggressive and opinionated. Would it be OK if I skipped Christmas this year and stayed home to avoid my sister?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2949 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - I'm having a dilemma over Christmas Day and I could do with some advice. I have a small family consisting of my sister, mother and grandmother. i didn't get on particularly well with my sister- we only see each other three times a year at family o...

How should I deal with my wife's kinky up and down thoughts? ?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2945 days ago

26 October 2016 (M) - Hello everyone, Thanks for taking the time to read this and offer advice if able. My question is how do I deal with my wife's constant changing thoughts on sex and her naughty behavior. For some backstory, we're both mid 30's, been mar...

Need advice on dealing with a demanding mother

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

26 October 2016 (F) - How can I deal with my demanding mother? I'm a 34 year old married mother of three and yet my own mother dictates my entire life. She's had health problems on and off for the last 7 years and when she was at her worst, I had to quit my job and ...

Boyfriend made hurtful comment about my weight, sex isn't good.How do I tell him?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - I need a bit of guidance. I want to start by saying I'm absolutely in love with my boyfriend of almost three years. He's also been my best friend long before we ever dated. It's like a fairytale right? Not exactly. Our sex life is horrible. It...

Boyfriend won't have sex with me but jacks off to porn

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2951 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Me and my boyfriend havent slept together for months due to his depression and no sex drive and its really starting to get me down as i know hes making time to masterbate to porn...we did try to have sex a few weeks ago but he didn't look happy to ...

Is it wrong for me to get my tubes tied and burnt not knowing what my future holds?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2938 days ago

25 October 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid,I am 45 years old my clock is ticking fast I have been in a relationship in many years I don't have health issues very healthy but I want my tubes tied but the the doctor says no I might meet a man who want a child but I don't want No ...

Can you help? Seeking tips on how to move on when you finally realize that the love of your life is no longer available to you or no longer loves you?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2954 days ago

23 October 2016 (M) - Hello everyone, So I’m the same guy who wrote these two posts. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/mixed-signals-from-my-crush.html http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-fwb-has-f...

I was completely averse to sex in my previous relationship and though I'm better now, I still have negative feelings attached to it. Any words of advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2952 days ago

23 October 2016 (F) - I was with my ex for 5.5 years roughly. About 3 years in, I lost my sex drive. It had a lot to do with being on the pill but we also started having problems which didn't help. For the last year of our relationship, I hated sex, truly hated it, ...

My beloved Bf is returning to the other side of the world. How do I cope with losing him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - I met this guy a year ago, we started dating and have been together for about a year now - I've never been so happy in my life, he completes me and is perfect. But, he's moving back home to the other side of the world - he came over here to travel ...

Why would a guy keep his GF around if he had lost all sexual desire for her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

22 October 2016 (F) - Can anyone especially men please give me some advice..I'll try+keep it brief... Basically would a man keep their girlfriend around in a serious relationship if they had lost all sexual attraction for their partner?... The reason why i ask is I'v...

Nora B, Sharing thoughts on observations about life and struggle

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22 October 2016 (F) - In this day and age when trains stations are crammed with people,coming and going,roadways are congested with traffic. Meeting deadlines maybe at the cost of ones job. Emotions have taken a backseat,love and friendship are something to be ...

How can I escape this loneliness?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

21 October 2016 (F) - How can I get out of my depression. For the last 7 months Ive been hit with several bad episodes (it's been a rough year) - my relationship ended (it was a short one but still affected the way he acted towards me) he was not a caring man. My work ...

I’m disgusted by his personal hygiene!

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

20 October 2016 (F) - I need to start by saying my boyfriend is usually wonderful. He is very sweet, generous and loving. But that just isn't enough. I feel so guilty to admit it, but he disgusts me. He always smells bad and doesn't brush his teeth or shower unless I ...

We haven't been properly intimate in four months. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2959 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Having a huge problem with my boyfriend of 2 years in that we havent been properly intimate for 4 months..It used to be a big part of our relationship and now its nothing and its left me feeling ugly and very insecure!his reasons for not been ...

Should I distance myself from my Bf AND my Mother? Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?.

This question has 25 answers - newest was posted 2945 days ago

19 October 2016 (F) - Was this abusive behaviour by my boyfriend, or not?. I have had an on/off relationship with my boyfriend for a year. Yesterday, I was out with him and I called my mum to pick me up. I got upset because my mum started shouting at me on the phone. ...

What's the best way to tidy up down there?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 2960 days ago

17 October 2016 (F) - Im worried i have too much hair down there that when my boyfriend sees it hes going to be put off. Im quite young but im getting to that stage in my relationship, i dont care for your judgement about my age, where my boyfriend is touching me. But ...

I suffer from OCD and obsess over every little thing, lately the fact that my ex dumped me. What can I do to help myself?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2962 days ago

17 October 2016 (F) - Does anyone have any tips on moving on and rising from a situation - to be frank I have been diagnosed with OCD since I was a young girl now I'm (31) and I feel like my whole young adult life has been a big obsession and worry cloud. I either worry ...

STIs. what is the best way to raise a discussion with my BF about a recent result given to me by my Doctor ?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 2960 days ago

16 October 2016 (F) - I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend now for 3/4 months. We are currently long distance but it is working fine. A month before we started dating I got an STI test and it came back negative, I also didn't have sex in between that test and ...

How could he have issues with my weight and yet have such mind blowing sex with me?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 2953 days ago

16 October 2016 (F) - I'm looking for some perspective on a recent situation I experienced that has left me a bit confused. I dated a guy for about 5-6 months. During the entire relationship, we got alone EXCEEDINGLY well. I have never dated anyone as attentive or ten...

Can this ever work after shock test result?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2963 days ago

15 October 2016 (M) - Advice on risk-taking and dishonesty.. ----- A couple (A and B) meet around a year ago through a dating app. They clicked instantly, went for dinner the following night and slept with each other. A had had a test a few weeks before they met...

I am unbelievably shy and it's impacting on my social life!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2918 days ago

14 October 2016 (F) - I really need advice... I am unbelievably shy and it's impacting on my social life. I am pretty confident at work where I interact with parents and staff in my school. My friends suggested I go on dating sites as I was low about not meeting a...

I've never been catcalled and don't know how to feel about this!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2956 days ago

14 October 2016 (F) - Hello, I am a cute (ish) woman of 29, and I have an awesome boyfriend loving and sexy and caring etc etc. I'm not unattractive, I promise. I'd give myself a solid 7.5 out of 10. Not overweight or acne scarred, and described by friends as petite w...

Do I ask how my former student is doing? I don't want to overstep any boundaries!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2957 days ago

14 October 2016 (F) - Thank you in advance for all that take the time to give their advice. Not a relationship question however I really would like some opinions. Last year I worked briefly with a student during their last year at school. That same student lived directly ...

How can I get over being mistreated?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

14 October 2016 (F) - Earlier this year I was in a short term relationship a couple of months when I met this guy through friends of mine. Within two weeks the man asked me to be Ina relationship and even though we were both sexually attracted to each other - I didn't ...

I didn't trust him and it has affected our relationship

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2965 days ago

13 October 2016 (F) - I need some advice.... I have been with my partner for just over 1 year but we have known each other for about 3. Generally we get on really well. We both work shifts and sometimes don't see each other for a week at a time. He is 10 years older th...

Depression, drinking and having to go on holiday abroad

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

12 October 2016 (M) - I live with my parents, and i'm currently on medication for depression. when my parents have had holidays, ive been able to look after myself and have behaved. I'm seeing a pyschlogist at the moment who is helping me through my troubles. I asked he...

Am I being mistreated? Is this emotional abuse?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 2957 days ago

11 October 2016 (F) - My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 2 years. I don’t know if this is emotional abuse or if there is something I can do to fix the problem. This morning I had gone to make a shake for him and when I poured the material inside ...

I love him but I hate him. Where do I go from here? Its officially over but I still have feelings

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2966 days ago

10 October 2016 (F) - I don't know where to start but Ive lost so much over the past year and the losses still keep coming. I'm 38, two sons (18 and 15) and divorced for a little over a year. My sons are great...my oldest is a freshman in college out of state and my ...

How can I gather the pieces from an abusive past?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 2970 days ago

10 October 2016 (F) - How can I grow to love myself? I'm a 31 year old woman that on the outiside seems to have the artificial stuff- good jobs- looks - family- love but inside I'm hurting. I would say sadly the only thing I am missing is the guy. I've been with o...

I keep thinking about the past. How can I change my responses so that I can live in the present?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2917 days ago

10 October 2016 (F) - How can I stop living the past? I feel like I am never present I'm always thinking ahead or thinking backwards . When I'm in a relationship I'm always thinking of the next things ahead and always worrying to the point where I never enjoy the ...

I am sure my boyfriend is battling depression. How do I help someone that doesn't want to be helped?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 2969 days ago

8 October 2016 (F) - Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and have only recently come to the conclusion that there is a high possibility that he is dealing with depression. Since December 2015, I have noticed a serious decline in per...

How can I ensure, if I see the Doctor, that the Doctor will not tell my mother that I took a morning after pill?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2968 days ago

7 October 2016 (F) - Basically I took the morning after pill a couple of days ago, I went to boots and spoke to the woman there, getting the pill for free, the woman asked if I had a GP and I said yes but she didn't ask for my Gps details she just took my basic ...

Should I break up with him ? He is emotionally unavailable to me.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2972 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend from last two years.He was my first serious relationship. His ex cheated on him...after 1.5 year of that cheating episode..we started dating.I never had any honeymoon phase with him. He was very aloof..he was le...

Should we move to get away from this woman? How else can the situation be resolved?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - My husband is a very handsome man with beautiful eyes and he has many admirers. I am nearly due with my 3rd child and we are both really excited about the new addition to our young family and a little anxious while we wait for the big day. The on...

Do I get back with him and have a baby?.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2958 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - I really am starting to worry about the future now and what decisions I should make. There have been lots of things that have happened over the last few years that is very difficult to talk to anyone about, so I came across this and thought, it ...

How do I change the impact my parent's (especially my mother) behaviour has on me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - My problem is my mother. I have reduced contact with my parents (I phone them twice a month and see them twice a year) because they regularly upset me with undermining comments. They have given me 'advice' (bullied or manipulated me) which has ...

How do you tell your partner you might have a STD ??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

6 October 2016 (F) - I am recently divorced from a serial cheater. I'm ashamed to admit that a couple months ago I met my ex and in the heat of the moment, we slept together. I didn't really think anything of it beyond a stupid mistake, but after speaking with my ...

Do you think he is selfish? Why does he have double standards over intimacy? Or am I overthinking?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

5 October 2016 (F) - Sorry English is not my first language. I am dating my boyfriend from last 1 year. My problem is related to our intimacy. When the first time we got intimate he asked me will you please give me a blow job i want to go down on you but you are havi...

How can I reach a state of acceptance that the one I love does not love me?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

5 October 2016 (F) - Hi there, confused to say the least. i am 19 and love a man who is older (about 15 years older) and this male constantly treats me wrong. Doesn't show any respect, love or loyalty. I believe i am very possessive with people and things and it's not ...

Is it over or do I need to let things cool off?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 2973 days ago

4 October 2016 (F) - I need answers. I am a pisces woman dating a taurus man. We have known eachother for only a month but have been dating for 2 weeks.we met on ok cupid. We took an interest intetest in eachother.we hacecso much in common with interest and hobbies but ...

Does prior promiscuity / lack of self care mean danger in a relationship?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

3 October 2016 (M) - So.... a couple meets on tinder. They like each other, go for "the test". Turns out person A has an STD but makes out like they were just "unlucky" to have contracted it. Person B accepts and tries to move forward confidently. Person B had a clean ...

Girlfriend diagnosed with bipolar disorder! Break up?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 2974 days ago

3 October 2016 (M) - I've been dating my girlfriend for a year and recently she found out she has bipolar disorder. Now I understand why she has always been hot and cold with me, I'm thinking about breaking up as I'm not happy anymore. She' taking BP medications but ...

My partner is afraid of my penis size... and her sister is a little too interested!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 2968 days ago

1 October 2016 (M) - I'm married over 3 years, love marriage, never did intercourse with my partner until married, knew her 6 years before marriage, we both want more of it but I have a 11.5inch n 5 inch fat, she is scared every time, I am ashamed of it, I haven't taken ...

I'm having a tough time with being single. How can I stop feeling so lonely?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 2977 days ago

1 October 2016 (F) - I have written here before and I'm having a difficult time being alone- I have realized the pat friends and boyfriends I have had have all been toxic but have filed some void. Lately I have tried to keep busy and be alone but it's driving me nuts- I ...