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writes:I met this guy a year ago, we started dating and have been together for about a year now - I've never been so happy in my life, he completes me and is perfect. But, he's moving back home to the other side of the world - he came over here to travel for a couple of years and now it's time for him to go back to his life. Please give me advice on how to survive him leaving me. How can I cope when the man I love is leaving and I will never see him again? There is no chance of a long distance relationship - it's too far. I don't know what to do, what should I do to prepare for him leaving me?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (26 October 2016):
 Is it possible for you to move to his country? Have you spoke to each other about ways you could possibly make it work? If you can't then the best thing to do is end things and drop all contact. It will be hard but it does get easier.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2016): Are you sure he feels the same about you? Let us face it, a young man comes from other side of the world to study or for training away from his family and friends and he is suddenly thrown into a culture that is completely elien to his,he is lonely and homesick then he meets someone who dispels some of the lonliness and fear, he thinks he is in love but when the times is up and he is ready to move back to his family and to his environment he goes. This one senario, another senario he might have other commitments in his country or his culture is so elien to yours simply he cannot take you to it.My advice forget him and consider it was a long holiday romance. Sorry for being so harsh.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2016): I am a believer in following your heart.
If you love each other, there is always a way. And you will find it.
You don't have to say goodbye to the man you love.
I just don't want him to be the one that got away and you will regret it forever. You can do something about that now. Before it's too late and you watch this special love you have shared fade into a distant memory.
Sit down and talk to him.
Make it work.
Love is always worth it. And it always finds a way.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (23 October 2016):
 This might sound like a Disney movie but if his love for you is as strong as your love, apparently, is for him, then love would find a way. If he has been in the US for travel reasons then it would appear he is from a country where travel to the US is fairly easy ....
The world is a small place, and getting smaller, how can it be too far for a long distance relationship while you and he do what you need to do to be together again?
HOWEVER, if you are sure there is no way to maintain the relationship far better now to end it quick, like pulling off a sticking plaster, grab it by the end and pull it quick. The hurt from pulling a plaster off slowly is no more or less than the pain caused by pulling it quick, it just lasts longer, a lot longer.
Quickly end it, don't drag out the farewells, and get back to living your life, setting your goals without him being part of them and doing what you need to attain those goals.
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