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writes:I need answers. I am a pisces woman dating a taurus man. We have known eachother for only a month but have been dating for 2 weeks.we met on ok cupid. We took an interest intetest in eachother.we hacecso much in common with interest and hobbies but some small different inteterest. We even like the same food and have similar food issues like food we cant eat but his issues are more severe then mine. I have ADHD and he has ASPERGERS. So anyways tfying to gst to the point. Before we met he was so axius to meet me. My family told me to wait and i have to be careful. After i met him, he seem very sweet, kind and loving exsept when i wasnt around him when it comes to texting him. He messages me in the morning after he gets off work and before he goes to,beed. I,kept getting bad gut feelings about him but i kept trying to,ignore it. He seemed so sweet at first cuddling and tellinv md he loces you. People have told me thats not good hes already telling me he loves me. Only after knowing eachother for axmonth and telling me he loves me. I didnt say it ascmuch at first because i didnt belive him. Hes done everything that a man does when they are inlove with bug i still,had bad gut feelings. On my favorit horoscope site by pur persoality his most compatible sign is pisces. im pices but mine says virgo. Ok cupid says were 76 % complatible. Its tyat lack of compatbitily. Virgos are more straight forward then taurus.i knew we should of waited but we had xsex recently. He said hes was willing to respect me and wait but his urges were really bad he really wanted to. I told him we shoild wait because we dont want us to burn out. After we did it he was alot more open with me and more comfortable but i still had my doughts. I mighg be pregnaut. Im having all the symtums. I told him about it.he asked me would i consider getting an abortion.i told him no.if i truley am i am going to be a mom. My next peroid is to far away. My last one was on our first date on the 25cor 26th. This weeken resently made me feel my gut was right. He went out of town with some of his guy nerd friends to go to their anime card tourniments. I did not hear from him all that day.i saw him on facebook earlie that morning but he did not tell me good morning. I called him out that late that night.i was so scared he was doinv sometjing. He told me he wantex to talk to me all day and his phone died and couldng find a charger.he told me i had every right to be mad at him and he is going to make it up to me. Then yestoday when he was out of town again with his mom.his mom lives about 2 to 3 hours away.he had an docters apoitment. His docter appiotment was at 6 pm.which is odd. My gut feelings were acting out really bad. I told him about it. He told me i have no reason to feel this way. We got in out first fight. One he said, what little trust i had for him went out the window. He told me that im acting crazy and to get some rest and he will,talk to me tommarow. Well he didnt text me or call me this morning. I worried. He was supposed to bring me flowers and take me out today. He hasnt made it uovto me yet. Hes still at work right now. I still have ferlings for him but i want to call it ofc since its pretty much is and get a job and not rely on anyone and work on me take care of this baby if im truely pregnant and see what happens.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (7 October 2016):
 Okay, OP, make sure you do see that doctor.
I understand that you feel he's too immature, and he may be, but you also seem quite immature, OP.
Getting a job, even if it's part-time to start with, will really help.
Don't think about relationships, for now; focus on going to the doctors to find out if you are pregnant or not and getting a job.
In future, please don't rush things - wait a few months into a relationship and don't allow anyone to push you into sexual acts. Also, always use in-date condoms and start birth control when possible.
Good luck, OP.
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reader, Lovebear92 +, writes (6 October 2016):
Lovebear92 is verified as being by the original poster of the question I have been working on it. I haven't had a comfirmed type when i would be to see a docter.my frirnd im living with is going to schedule an appointment with her docter and you all are right the relationship is immature and we rushed it to quickly. Its still not worling out but i dont wznt to push him out of my life.i want to move on. hes too much of a child. I cant handle his aspergers. I dont want to cut him out of my life completely. I still want to be friends. I will be able to see a doctor next week and im working on getting a job. He needs to also work on his life to.he works and he goes back to college in janurary. I dont want to overwhelm him. Specialy if I am pregnant i still want him in my life.i just hope it gets better.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (6 October 2016):
OP, you haven't said anything about seeing your doctor. You're focusing on the wrong thing - the most important thing is finding out if you're pregnant or not.
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reader, Lovebear92 +, writes (6 October 2016):
Lovebear92 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe have been working it out. I freaked out for no reason. This is my first real relationship
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reader, Lovebear92 +, writes (5 October 2016):
Lovebear92 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI apologize for my english writing. I have been out school for a while now. English is my first langues. My spelling is off. I didnt do well in school. I'm still working on my ged. Maths is my best subject.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (5 October 2016):
You need to see a doctor and find out if you're pregnant, as well as checking for diseases and whether medication would help you. It's unwise to not be in counselling or on medication for ADHD.
This hasn't B been a serious relationship, which is why you need to be mature and responsible about this and see your doctor immediately.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2016): If he's the father of your child, he has no choice but to provide child-support; whether he wants to be with you or not. Contact child-support authorities if he doesn't man-up to that responsibility. It should be voluntary.
He has to think about it? Well, lets help him make up his mind. He got you pregnant. At the present do not have a job and very little work experience. He coerced you into having unprotected-sex, now you're pregnant.
Well, the law requires that he provide for his offspring.
He just might take flight in avoidance of his financial responsibility.
Honestly, I'm not quite sure how much you have it together; but if you are pregnant, you must make sure he helps with the upbringing and financial-support of the baby you've both created.
Apologies or no, the baby didn't do anything to him. He should not be let off the hook; since he immediately brought sex into the relationship when he hardly even knows you. You seem very childish and naive, and I think he took advantage of you.
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reader, Lovebear92 +, writes (5 October 2016):
Lovebear92 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo im mo taking medication for my adhd. Mot anymore. Sorry i guess i left stuff out. We were both virgins and this our first real relationship. He woukd be the father. Hes the only one i have been with. I have a strong fear hes going to cheat or he is spending tine with another woman. I have alot of family memers that love me alit and ard supportive. Well sometimes that are
. Sometimes theu make plans to see me or help me out but they sometimes dong fullfill them somthing comes up. I,have worked before.Im working on trying to get another job. I want spend some more time away from my house and maybe find and find an anime club something and makefriends.maybe that will,help. If not i will consider seeing a counsler.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (5 October 2016):
I'm sorry, OP, but this really isn't a healthy relationship for a baby to be brought into. Please see a doctor and get family support to help you navigate this.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2016): Stop judging his character based on some stupid horoscope reading! Would you want someone to judge you that way? Do you think it's fair?It appears you're a very insecure person and it's difficult for you to trust someone. My argument is that he had never done anything to break your trust. So what if he is going to comicon or some nerdy childish event with friends. Kudos to him for driving a few hours to accompany his mother to her Doctor's appointment. Why are you taking positives and turning them to negatives? Stop that. Enjoy time spent with him, open your eyes and heart and truly get to know and love him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2016): Is English your second language? It was a real challenge making sense of some of your post.
If you are pregnant, how about a bit of backstory on who the possible father is? Have you actually taken a pregnancy test? Are you aware of the possible side-effects of your medication on your pregnancy; if you are on prescription medication for your ADHD?
You really shouldn't judge men by Zodiac signs. You should judge them by their actual character and behavior. That's a little far-fetched and you have to show a lot more maturity before becoming a mother. That's a huge responsibility.
The description of the guy you're involved with sounds more like a character on a situation comedy. I think you really need to concentrate on your possible pregnancy and getting your act together. Motherhood is very demanding, and a child will be completely dependent on you for his or her welfare and well-being.
If you are bringing a life into this world; that innocent little being needs the only parent he or she may have to be prepared and sensible. Not off on some questionable online romance with some odd-ball you just met, and depending on Zodiac descriptions of how people should behave. Signs of the Zodiac do not predict nor define human behavior. You have to experience and witness human behavior to draw any conclusions on what kind of person they truly are.
You have to be able to figure-out and discern the behavior of the men you meet online. Listen to warnings you're given, they make perfect sense.
Are you regularly taking your meds and according to prescription? The erratic behavior is a bit suspect.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (5 October 2016):
Please see a doctor about pregnancy and diseases - contraception and protection *must* be used *every* time. You let him rush you into sex, but you don't have to - it's not your job to satisfy his urges.
Please don't try to handle this on your own; taking care of a baby is hard work and I don't mean to be rude, but you don't sound ready.
Take it slow with men and it's nice to read horoscopes, but they shouldn't be relied on to make decisions about people.
It sounds like this is an unhealthy relationship and everything went too fast, so I'd suggest letting go, but telling him if you are pregnant.
Please don't put off going to the doctor and getting family support, OP.
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reader, Lovebear92 +, writes (4 October 2016):
Lovebear92 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe finnally talked to me. I applogized to him.hes realky hurt that I told him i hate him. He said he still wsnts to be with me and he has to think about it.
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