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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Friends category)

Friends: Help and advice

Shall I tell her how I feel, or move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3665 days ago

31 October 2014 (M) - This is my first time even attempting something like this, so I'll try to make it brief! I have a very good Dutch female friend of mine who lives across the Channel in the Netherlands. I've known her for at least 2 years, ever since I was a st...

How can I get my partner to drop his friends without making an ultimatum?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3665 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - I don't like my partner's friends and it is pulling us apart. 18 months ago we made friends with a couple that live close by. The friendship began with dinner once a month at each others homes. After only meeting a handful of times my partner was ...

His ex best girl friend is back on the scene- should I be worried

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3665 days ago

31 October 2014 (F) - Hello people- another question for you. Been with my boyfriend now For a year and a couple of months- we live together at his mums house and are very happy until yesterday- he has a week of work (i don't) and he went to a shopping centre yesterda...

I'm tired of dealing with my friend's manipulative husband

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3665 days ago

30 October 2014 (?) - I'm not sure how to handle this situation with my very best friend. (I'm her very best friend too) The problem is that she tells me she doesn't give a crap if her husband gets mad at her but her actions don't match her words. Every time we want to ...

I always resented her for leaning on my boyfriend

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3666 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - I don't know what to do. My boyfriend (of 2.5 years) made a female friend about a year ago who has a lot of emotional issues. She is depressed and cuts. He has always been there to support her even to the degree that it has pissed me off because she ...

I like the girl I'm dating as a friend but not as a girlfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Ive been going out with this girl for about a month now and she's really nice, very sweet but I don't get the nervous butterfly feeling when I'm going to see her and when we don't don't see each other I don't want to see her I know that sounds bad ...

Why is he being so dodgy about this friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3666 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Hi all I need some advice. I recently found out A is coming back from US and visiting my bf whilst I am overseas. I have never met A and I know my bf met her through camp. A is currently studying in US. My bf initially kept it from me but somehow it ...

Is it normal for a woman to be completely addicted to her man?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Hey everyone, I have been lately observing 2 of my friends and how they behave in their relationships, and I have been wondering a lot about whether this is the right way for a couple to be. The 2 examples (especially the 2nd one) are rat...

He's 14 to my 15. He had a Gf but broke up. Should I keep talking online to him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - There’s this guy at my school in the year below me and I've had my eye on him for a while (just thinking he's cute and what not), but when i found out my friend knew him i made a move and found out he had a girlfriend. We talked for a while an...

Should I go with girl A? But what can I do about Girl C's jealousy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Hello DC, it's been a little while. I need some help. Girl problems, as usual. Pretty wordy, this one. Sorry. There's a girl, let's call her Girl A. She's new to my life, but when I met her, I knew something good would happen. I had asked her ou...

Am I being a bad friend? I have a crush on her ex. But she has said that she likes him, but will never get back with him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3665 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I have recently had sex with a guy and I'm starting to really like him, however he is one of my closest friends ex boyfriend.. I told her I kissed him once at a party and she didn't seem bothered at all but she also told me, weeks after that, that...

Why couldn't he be nicer to me? Should I ignore him, just as he did to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I am attending a course at university. I go to this course once every week with my friend. There is a guy that I like. Today in the end of course this guy talked almost all the time to my friend and not to me and also he gave his number to my fri...

Is my Boyfriend more likely to cheat because 4 of his friends are cheaters?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Four of my boyfriend's friends (both females and males) have cheated on their partner. Does that mean he is more likely to cheat?...

Slept with my ex whilst drunk, but he's dating my friend.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - Hello, Around 9 months ago, I got drunk and slept with an ex boyfriend. It was a complete mistake - the relationship ended badly and it was one of the first times we'd hung out alone since we broke up. Ended up having way too much to drink, gettin...

Should I stay away from her until she's officially divorced? Right now she's separated.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - So, this is a new one for me... There is this girl that I got acquainted with recently. We really hit it off well and have a lot in common. We do seem to connect well on an emotional level and she says that I bring out the best in her and stir ...

He's controlling and abusive. What's the best way to handle this situation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Been with my partner almost five years, we have a four year old son together. For the last two years our relationship has been very rocky. It has been an unhappy relationship for me, since being with him he has stopped me seeing family and frien...

How do I rise above the bullying and develop confidence in me and deflect bullying?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3648 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid I feel unsupported in life. I experienced poor treatment from my dad from the beginning of my time and my mom has never really praised me that much; I felt that both my mom and my dad saw the worst in me, unknowingly. They didn't se...

Am I overthinking this? My friend wants me to accomodate her friends at my home. I don't know them and feel uncomfortable about her request.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Friends question. I got a bit bewildered to day by friend's request. She is my very good friend, I know her for 15 years. They have this friends a couple from a different city who comes on vacation to our part for New Year's Eve and stay for ...

Do I tell him that I have a crush on him and that I love him? I don't want to ruin our friendship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I dont know what to do anymore. I am head over heels in love with my best friend and we have known each other since we were 6 years old. I now live in a different country from him and we dont see each other a lot. We might see each other at christm...

This man hardly knows me, so why does he keep on asking me out? I feel conflicted due to our mutual friend's illness

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3665 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Why does this man keep asking me out? This man is friends with a man that I like. The man I like has been seriously ill lately (he had an operation recently and was in hospital for a few weeks). This man has asked me to go out with him a few time...

Still mourning my ex who passed away due to suicide. How can I move on? And what to do about the crush I have on my tenant?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3668 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Lost my boyfriend a year ago through suicide. People are telling i should move on cause we were not married. In my heart i still miss him a lot. Recently ive discovered that im having a crush on my tenant, which is when my late boyfriend died i...

Met on holidays. Is it too early in our friendship to get him a birthday present?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3669 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I met this guy on holiday, he's in the army and is posted in Germany. But comes from the same place as I do. Just after I met him he was being deployed to Afghanistan for 3 months, we spoke everyday and he'd ring me sometimes too. After his ...

Can you help calculate the maths to perhaps arrive at which guy is the likely father?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 3667 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - This is kind of embarrassing but i just want an opinion im fairly sure i know the answer would like some opinions though. I am 6 mths pregnant. at the time of falling pregnant i slept with 2 guys. im fairly sure i know who the dad is but was w...

How do I get over these lingering feelings for J without losing him as a friend?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3662 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - It might be long, so please bear with me. I'll start off with some basics. I am currently 20 and my boyfriend is 21 years old (we'll call him K). We've been together for almost 3 and a half years, since my junior year in high school, and his...

My fiancé has been hiding our engagement because he's afraid of what his friends will think!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I just got engaged about 2 months ago. Since becoming engaged, he has told me that he thinks the word "fiancé" is stupid and he's not going to say it…so he continues to call me his girlfriend instead. He is also ...

Unhappily married. Is this younger man interested in me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Is this younger man interested in me? I am an unhappily married woman who is re-considering her options. One of the main reasons I am still married is for my 2 young children. My husband suffers from a mood disorder, depression and anxiety. In ...

Do I tell Friend A what is going on? What about Friend B's partner?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm a pretty liberal person, so am not trying to be the morality police, but am worried about my friends and am being burdened by this knowledge. One of my friends (Friend A) has been in a casual but exclusive relationship since January, with th...

At 27 is my lack of experience with girls and no dating experience a red flag and an impediment when trying to date girls?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - I'm 27 nearly 28 in December, and I've never had a relationship with a woman. I used to be the gamer guy who played too much up till I was 26 and I had enough and wanted to change my life. The thing is I only really started asking women out only ...

Should I somehow try to take this to the next level? Or leave things as they are at present?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm currently a college freshman studying abroad, and there's this guy who's a senior, also from my country, whom I met back in May, when he finished his junior year and flew back to our hometown. It turned out that he lives at a 5-minute walk from ...

Will my Bf care that I lack close friends? Been studying and establishing a career.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I've always been an independent person but I'm wondering if my boyfriend would be concerned that I have no close friends. I graduated this spring and have been working since. I enjoy my job which mainly involves communicating with customers an...

Why was this girl so rude and tried so hard to dominate the conversation and make me feel uncomfortable

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3670 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - All of my boyfriend's friends live on the opposite coast, where he grew up, so I don't get to meet them often. One of his friend's came out to visit our area with his girlfriend last week. I was so excited to meet them. I had heard all about this ...

I'm hesitant about approaching girls. How do I build the confidence to talk to girls?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3669 days ago

25 October 2014 (M) - I have found I have no drive to approach girls. I am 23 and never had a gf or been with a girl. I complain and get upset about it but I have no drive to really DO anything about it and I don't know why. The saying goes: if you really care abou...

As an adult how do you make friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3671 days ago

25 October 2014 (F) - do you ever run out of things to say in conversation? ie friends? new friends? how not to do this? what's a good way to get to know someone and keep being a good friend without being too intrusive or running out of things to talk about? ...

He lied to me and now I can't just forgive and move on

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3671 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - I really need help. My boyfriend and I had been friends for a couple of years before dating. He had asked me out several times but I always declined. Mostly because I was in an on and off again relationship at the time and did not want to get him ...

Lately things have been different but I hesitate to ask if he's interested in me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3668 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - So I have a good friend who I used to have a FWB relationship with a long while back. But then I started having feelings for him but when I asked if he felt the same he said he just wanted to be friends. After that we were a little more distanced ...

My friend/room mate doesn't like my boyfriend

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3672 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - hey guys, I'm having troubles with my roommate. She has been a best friend of mine for about 5 years. recently we decided to rent an apartment together. Everything is ok except for she hates my boyfriend of who i have been dating for 2 years. ...

Does my coworker like me as more than a friend?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

24 October 2014 (F) - There's a guy that I work with and we always joke around and hit each-other in a friendly way. So I told him as a joke that we have a very abusive relationship. He's like not relationship. And I was like yea...abusiveee....and he says friendship. ...

I think my friend is trying to get pregnant by another friend of mine without him knowing -- do I tell him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

23 October 2014 (F) - Hi people, Im in a very very awkward situation and any help would be greatly greatly appreciated!! (everyone is 22 Y/O) A little background: My friend who I will call Jane and I hav been friends for a little over 6 years. She and her Boyfrie...

Do I have the right to be mad at her for reading my diary?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 3672 days ago

23 October 2014 (F) - So i have this friend who i was really close to but now she has done something that i don't think i can forgive her for. We are both holiday reps working abroad and for the last six months we have shared an apartment. She has always been my best ...

The girl I have a crush on now hates me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3674 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - Hi. So im a bi girl, and i love this other girl, SN, with all my heart. Now, she found out some time ago, when we were still good friends. When she found out, she avoided me for two weeks, but then we sorted it out and we were good friends again, e...

Sleep-over: Just friends or more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

21 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, Background: I met a guy at a concert. After talking and dancing the whole night, we exchanged #s. Then, we sent flirty texts to each other and finally met up last Sunday for afternoon drinks, which turned into a fun night of hanging...

He said he liked me and was going to ask me out but then asked out another girl instead!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

21 October 2014 (F) - So I have been talking to this guy, and he was honest about liking me and this other girl, he told me I was the one he chose and how it was going to be me, and then he asks out the other girl and I really started to fall for him and his been my ...

Is my friend straight or what?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3675 days ago

20 October 2014 (M) - Okay so my friend an me been friends for bout 3years he knew I was bi/gay but didn't care I'm in the closet but he's embrassed to bring me around other people (they might think something) but one day we asked of he can do oral an we did an we fooled ...

A friend thinks I have a crush on her ex but I don't

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Ok, so i have a crush on this girl 'S', but she knows and now she has decided she hates me. There is another girl, 'A', who is one of both mine and 'S's best friend. Now she thinks i have a crush on her and told a couple of people this, includin...

I can't forgive my boyfriend's spinelessness

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - I am not normally one for holding grudges, but I just can't seem to see a way past this. Last year my boyfriend whom I've had a long distance relationship with for four years, took me to his hometown to meet his closest friends. They were all ok, ...

How do I stop the feelings for my friend? She doesn't feel the same

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3672 days ago

20 October 2014 (M) - i have been friend with a girl for over a year now. when we started chatting and talking we made it clear that we will only be friends and i was okay with it because it is certain that we cant marry so there is no point in having a relationship, so ...

My best friend said its either her or my boyfriend!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3675 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Please help! I recently fell out with my best friend of 11 years. the reason we fell out was a little to to with alcohol and alot to do with our boyfriends! basically me n my friend used to see eachother every weekend we went to university toget...

How do I negotiate this issue? Don't want to feel I betrayed my roomate nor her Bf.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - My close friend and roommate has been dating a guy for several months now. I don't know him that well, but recently he has been sending me texts and facebook messages asking how my close friend acts in relationships. For example he sent me if he ...

Been single for 9 months. So why am I attracted to Players and Commitment Phobic men?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3676 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - i find myself stuck. Iam really attracted to good looking men who are commitment phobic/players. I've tried dating the nice guy and i get really bored and not at all interested. Ive been single 9 months now and i just want a good relationship. sick ...

Wondering what might have been. Do you think he regrets that he was rude to me? Or has he moved on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3676 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - I met a man last year who expressed interest in me. To say we met at the wrong time is an understatement. When we met, I worked for a bully boss and helped take care of my ailing grandmother. Very stressed out during that time. I have since f...