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writes:I've always been an independent person but I'm wondering if my boyfriend would be concerned that I have no close friends. I graduated this spring and have been working since. I enjoy my job which mainly involves communicating with customers and providers across the world instead of people in my building. The last year of college was spent busy studying and working, relaxing during the downtime I had. My closest girlfriends have hardly communicated during the past two years which I understand is part of life. We've all taken different directions and sometimes our schedules don't match. I do hang out with old coworkers occasionally, however our lives are so different now.I have many friends who I meet up with a few times a year, and each time it's like we've never been apart. We have the greatest time and I'm happy. But there's no one that I talk to often enough or am close enough to introduce my boyfriend to them. My bf and I have been dating a couple months and I'm worried that when the time comes, he'll introduce me to his friends but I can't do the same.Another concern of mine is that I have no one to be my maid of honor or bridesmaids when the time comes. I feel like I'm one of a few people who are like this.Any advice? Would guys be bothered by this? I once though it would be strange to date a guy without friends but well, I'm that person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello,
Thank you for your advice. No worries, I'm definitely not planning marriage anytime soon or bringing this up to him. I've just been concerned about being friendless in general. I like being independent, and being around coworkers during/after work, or classmates at school, anytime else I like my alone time. It hasn't bothered me yet until I realized I won't have anyone to invite to my future wedding, or share the joy of my engagement / wedding planning one day. But hopefully when the time comes I wouldn't care so much. I guess I could do without an engagement party if need be.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 October 2014):
 No, he wont care. And after just a few months of dating it is waaaaaaaaaaaaay too soon to be worried about not having a brides maid... You and him should be dating for at least 18 months before you even think about marriage. And in that time, who knows what friends you will have made or re-connected with. Anyway, that's something to worry about when that time comes around. Worrying about it now, at this stage, just makes you sound really broody, haha. No, he wont care, and please don't tell him your concern is not having a brides maid, because that's jumping the gun and might (probably will) scare him away. It's way too much, way too soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2014): No he wouldn't be concerned if he likes you, and you have a nice personality and you don't criticize,gossip, lie..etc.
Being independent,hard working,serious, ambitious, are all good traits for which you should be praised.I am sure once you start work you will have plenty of friends as long as they can like and trust you.
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