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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:I'm 27 nearly 28 in December, and I've never had a relationship with a woman. I used to be the gamer guy who played too much up till I was 26 and I had enough and wanted to change my life. The thing is I only really started asking women out only just after I turned 27. Mainly due to my weight but was at a stage after going to the gym for 2 years (was 20stone at 5"9 now 13 stone with a bit of muscle) that I became a lot more confident in my life in general.I've had a few dates now and some were going places where it gets to the stage people start questioning and asking about pasts ect. Well with me I have no past with relationships... and this shocks them and they normally give excuses to not meet any more or just not reply.I guess a guy with no relationship experience at all is a red flag to women, as at my age... something must be wrong with me right? I don't know, everything up to that point goes well and it just wants to make me lie to them now.I'm needing some advice as it's getting to the point of really starting to make me feel depressed about it. I'm trying to meet women somewhere around my age range. The women I've been seeing are the normal 'nice girl' type and not the loud 'party girl' type. I did this as more my type but also as I'm a introvert and maybe they would be the similar and be more understanding of my lack of past... but they still have loads more 'experience' than me. Which I knew would be the case and I can deal with it... but them with me and no experience it's a deal breaker... it can only get worse it seems if that's the case.It has only been 10 girls and only 8 of them seemed to have 'flaked' for this reason but it just seems kind of a problem to me now. Maybe it's too soon to say but every day I get older now seems just another bullet shot my way and makes the dating game harder for me.I know I should be truthful but I feel like I'm at a point where I have to fake it to make it. Could write lots more but it's getting a bit long now so I think I'll just stop here. Any help would be much appreciated.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (27 October 2014):
 If this is what you need to get girls interested do it. You are being genuine in a way because you want a relationship and the only way to get a relationship fast is to lie. You just have to find a girl who is not obsessed about your past because you would have to build lies upon lies and it's hard to keep up. It doesn't even have to be an elaborate lie full of details. Just say in high school you went to prom with this girl and you went to movies and arcade together. Then one of you moved away to college and never heard from each other again. Just something like that is better than saying you had never dated. And then you could say you dated here and there but haven't met the right one yet.
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