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22-25,
anonymous
writes:Hi. So im a bi girl, and i love this other girl, SN, with all my heart.Now, she found out some time ago, when we were still good friends. When she found out, she avoided me for two weeks, but then we sorted it out and we were good friends again, even though she knew i still love her. But now, after ages, she started being realy mean and horible towards me. Now she has decieded she hates me, yet wont tell me why, and i dont know.The thing is, i love her with all my heart. She wont even look at me and it breaks my heart every day. I cant get over her, Gods know, ive tried everything, so i dont know what to do. Its killing me inside.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (22 October 2014):
Dear OP,
I think your friend is being very unfair for hating you and not telling you why, so you don't have a chance to sort it out. I think that you need to move on, or you are breaking your heart again and again. Ignore her! Avoid her. There's nothing you can do to make her a nicer person. All you can do is to go your own way, and find somebody who accepts you the way you are. In my teenage years, I had to change friends a few times. This is a time where interests and friendships can suddenly change. To be rejected, to reject, to change from one group of friends to another is a natural process that can happen.
I'm bisexual as well, and I know it's sometimes hard to separate friendship from love, especially when it comes to other women/girls. They grow close to you and at some point, friendly love can develop into something more romantic. But if you want to stay "just friends" with someone you are really in love with, you will suffer every day. Especially when your friend falls in love with someone else or starts to feel uncomfortable around you.
I'm sorry for you, OP. I also was in love with my best friend once, it really hurts. But you need to move on from this, even if it's painful. Force yourself to fill the gap in your life with new people and new encounters. You will get through this. The first cut is the deepest (meaning that the first heartbreak is the worst).
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