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Archived questions from: November, 2012 (see latest in Family category)

Family: Help and advice

Maybe I shouldn't have gone looking for proof. Should I now ask my Mom if it's true about her former job in pornography?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4401 days ago

30 November 2012 (M) - I just found out that my mom is or used to be a porn star. Although, I've heard about this from my cousins who I meet once a year on thanksgiving. Naturally, I thought that was lies, and figured that they were just trying to mess with my head. The...

My Bf claims I'm not a REAL girlfriend. Is he right, wrong, or something else?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4404 days ago

30 November 2012 (M) - I have been with my bf for 2 1/2 years. I'm 22, his 23. He was a sweet guy and totally loveable in the beginning. I'm studying full time and I'm working part time and I currently live with my parents. I pay rent and bills and I'm getting my car s...

I was supposed to see a therapist. Is it time I now considered this option again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4404 days ago

29 November 2012 (F) - Hello all agony aunts and uncles, I need your advice yet again! Long story short, I moved hours away from my finance to attend college. I was good for the first semester, but then I got really depressed (randomly) and withdrew from the fall sem...

I'm so confused. I feel so bad for his son and wish he cared about him more but I don't want to be unsympathetic to my boyfriend.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4405 days ago

28 November 2012 (F) - Hi. I wrote before about my boyfriend who has no contact with his son and there was a pretty clear response from you counties and uncles, that his behaviour is no good. Especially moving were responses from those of you whose fathers were absent. ...

My daughters are jealous of the time I spend with my boyfriend.

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4405 days ago

28 November 2012 (F) - Ok, here is one for ya. Been in a serious relationship with a wonderful man and things are great except for my two girls (ages 19 and 20) from a previous marriage. I thought it would be his 11 year old daughter that would be a problem, but no... My ...

I feel like I am competing with my boyfriend's own mom. She is insanely jealous of me. What's going on!? Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4405 days ago

28 November 2012 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half. I feel like his relationship with his mother is unusual (mostly on her part). When I first met his mother I thought she was very nice and apparently she thought the same of me. I am a very ...

Trying to Impress everyone? Find ways to make yourself happy first. You can't impress everyone.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4387 days ago

27 November 2012 (F) - Not really sure why I'm writing this but it is in hopes of expressing myself because I feel if I keep trying to impress everyone, I let myself down. Because I know I can’t always get everyone to like me, not everyone is going to and that’s complete...

Cheating father--do I tell my mother?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

27 November 2012 (F) - I am 25 and live at home with my parents. My father has always been somewhat "shady". He stays out u till late many nights and him and my mother have had argued on and off for many years. When they are going through a "fighting stage" (usually after ...

I hate my boyfriend's mother.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

26 November 2012 (F) - Okay so I've been with my boyfriend for about a year, I am 15 and he is 17. The major problem for us is that I absolutely can not stand his mother. I don't want to say hate, because that is a powerful word, but it is definitely getting there. I ...

What am I dealing with? His drinking problem or something else?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

26 November 2012 (F) - please help, my husband of 14 years has had a drink problem for years which has got worse over the past 3 years [he has been drinking 3/4 of a liter bottle of vodka a night and gets "out of it" does stupid things like texting/messaging girls/wo...

His ex attends the holiday gatherings with his family, isn't this disrespectful to me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4405 days ago

26 November 2012 (F) - So I began a relationship with a guy that ive known for many years.Early in the relationship we moved in together and I started having second thoughts.So I told him him we were done.I regret it but I spent the weekend with my ex and yes I had sex ...

What would you do if this was you?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 November 2012 (F) - Hy. Let me ask you this : what would you do if you had a family but never took a family photo with them, if you had parents who live in the same house but fight everyday, if your friends are 'not.so.good.friends' , if everybody just throws dirt ...

I'm 19 and my mother is still super strict.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4407 days ago

25 November 2012 (F) - I'm 19 and my mother is extremely strict what should I do?...okay so here's the deal. I'm 19 and living at home. But don't worry I pay for my food and my rent. I depend only on myself. I'm responsible and really mature. But unfortunately my mother ...

Six months later I'm still grieving at the passing of my grandfather and feel like people think I should be over it

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 November 2012 (F) - i know this isnt a relationship question but i'm still grieving over my grandpa's death and dont know who to turn to about it. i havent had a nice year, i lost my horse suddenly, i became ill with anemia and then close to a year ago my grandpa w...

Family dinner with the guy I'm dating. How do I make it less awkward?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 November 2012 (F) - I would like feedback and advice to my issue because I seem to be stressing over this more than I need to. I am a 25 year old female and about to graduate with my Masters. I have been dating this man who is hardworking and has a big heart becaus...

He thinks he should "be alone". Does anyone have any advice or insight about the way he broke up and why after 11 months?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

25 November 2012 (F) - We're both 44 and divorced. We've been dating about 11 months. We get along well, enjoy hanging out and his kids really like me a lot. All is going well. We tell each other "I love you". While my house was being finished I lived with him and t...

Is this healthy? is she game playing? My Controlling girlfriend keeps giving me ultimatums or threatens that we'll break up

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4409 days ago

25 November 2012 (M) - I have a girlfriend and I'm soon to be divorced with my estranged wife. My girlfriend has been acting weird lately.... She gives me ultimatums to do X or we break up. When I don't do X, she gives me the complete silent treatment and ignores all ...

Why doesn't my boyfriend have me over at his house?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4409 days ago

24 November 2012 (F) - Hi... ok in the summer I went on a date with my bf into town and on the way home I got off at his stop but he was like 'your not coming round my house' in a jokey way and I was like I wasnt going to but why? and he said 'my house is a complete ti...

We love each other but her mother says we can live without each other

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4410 days ago

24 November 2012 (M) - Am 27 year old i meet this girl 6 mounth ago we both love each other but her mother don't want to see me at all but say that she can live with out me what can i do nt to lose her and what to do for her to love me more than befor pls help...

How do I get over my married lover who is also the father of my daughter? I've tried, but it's so difficult.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

24 November 2012 (F) - MY daughter's father and i broke up 9 months ago. I'm still not over him. We have a 15 month old daughter together, he is married and is having another baby. I know you might think what do i want with him? It's not that i want him its more so i c...

If his one night stand with my cousin was ancient history why lie about it? Was breaking up the right thing to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

24 November 2012 (F) - Did I do the right thing breaking up with him? I've been seeing a guy in another country for 4 months now. He's 35 and Im 29. I recently found out from my cousin (also in the same country where he lives) after seeing his picture on her black...

Will my family and friends accept my potential lesbian partner with whom I have an age difference of 31 years?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

24 November 2012 (F) - Ok first to start off, I am 22, a senior in college and I am single. I have been single for awhile but even when I was with other females they didn't spark any interest in me besides sex. Recently a friend of mine told me to make a profile on Plenty ...

My family are putting pressure on me to get married

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

23 November 2012 (F) - Please help? My grandma is very old (in her seventies) and called me an "old maid" (I am 25!) In her day girls were married by 17 or 18....and she said if I don't get married soon her blood pressure is already high and she may have a heart att...

I feel like everyone likes my sister more than me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4410 days ago

23 November 2012 (F) - So I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 months ago but we still texted each other off and on until about 3 weeks ago... The last time I talked to him was because of his best friend telling me that he had a concussion. I started texting him to see if ...

How can I help my hoarding mother? She blames me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

23 November 2012 (F) - Hi guys, I could really use some help. To cut an extremely long story short, its come to my attention that my mother, who cares for my grandfather is no longer "able" to care for either him or herself. Its been this way for a years, but has gotten ...

Do I keep saying no or give him another chance?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

23 November 2012 (F) - Hi. Me and my ex split just over a year ago, i left him and took our daughter, i couldn't handle his lies, and drink problem. We'd been together for over 4 years. Im dating other men now, he dated a lady but heard he messed that up too. He goes ...

How can I deal with this? He's blocked me off all his social networking sites because apparently I "moan" too much

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

23 November 2012 (F) - I am 19 years old and have been in love with the same guy since I was 13. I've never been with another man and we have never been friends always more but on/off as he often goes with other women. I'm so close to him and his family and for a strang...

How do I break the news to my Very Conservative Indian parents that (a) I am pregnant and (b) he is determined to marry me because he loves me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4411 days ago

23 November 2012 (F) - Dear Cupid, I am kinda in a sticky situation. Took a home pregnancy test twice and both turned out positive. I am an Only child to my highly emotional, overprotective, highly opinionated Indian Parents from conservative background. ...

I'm worried my girlfriend's past makes her a slut

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4402 days ago

22 November 2012 (M) - Hello im a 21 year old guy and my question is im worried about my girlfriends past, I know its the past but some people don't change. I've been talking to thhis girl for a lil over two years I met her on a site, I've never had a real girlfriend just ...

I need help badly. I'm emotionally torn. Missing my Bf after his father said things that put him into a boys home. My health's been affected. How can I cope better?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4414 days ago

21 November 2012 (F) - Well, me and my boyfriend are very serious. I know I'm in love. Well my boyfriend's dad and him always fight and sometime fist fight. When they do his dad usually hits first, this time my boyfriend hit first because his dad called me a "fat...

I don't like the way my elderly parents treat my Bf. What can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4408 days ago

21 November 2012 (F) - My parents are in their 80's. Although my BF of 2 1/2 years is loving, successful, employed, and financially secure yet they act very cold and aloof around him. My guess is because he has long hair (IT/science guy). They NEVER ask about him an...

Am I overreacting? How can I deal with this issue? He regards his family as a higher priority over our relationship.

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

21 November 2012 (F) - I am in my late twenties and my boyfriend is in his mid thirties. We have been together for 4 years and discussed getting married. One of the issues I have, however, is his relationship with his family. Every Tuesday, he has dinner at his paren...

Is this rude behavior for his adult children to not respond to invitiations to visit for the holidays?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4413 days ago

20 November 2012 (F) - My fiance's three adult children never respond to his invitations to visit us over the holidays. He has e-mailed them, texted them, left messages on their phones, but they never respond. Communication is sporadic at best. The two sons are single and ...

Some of his family are trying to ruin our relationship!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4414 days ago

20 November 2012 (F) - ok i need some advice. i been with my fiance for 5 years know and let me start by saying that he has a big family both from his mother and father.when we got together we both came off from previous relationships (me a boyfriend him with his ...

Life has been hard...what should I do now?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

19 November 2012 (F) - So, life isn't great. I need some advice on what steps to take in life. I'll make it as short as I can. I'm a 17 year old female and I am from the UK. So, when I was born my mam and dad where together but not married. My mam had anoth...

Am I really the bad guy here??

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

18 November 2012 (F) - I have two relatives that got pregnant on purpose knowing they had no way to support these babies.. Then to top that off they got pregnant again. They both have two kids living off the Gov for their housing and every other benefit they can get ...

I'm in love with a man but my family is planning an arranged marriage for me with another man

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

18 November 2012 (F) - Hi.I m a bit shy gal nd love a guy onli9.I m unmarried nd never been in relationship wid any guy.Just he is d first guy of my life nd my love for him is deep.But d problem is dat we r from different country,same religion.He is indian nd me paki.I ...

Do biological fathers step out of their children's lives when a stepfather is on the scene?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

18 November 2012 (F) - My boyfriend is always talking about us having beautiful children together. Is it OK when he has no emotional connection to his 14 year old son? He used to take him presents and take him out but the boy's mother apparently used him as a pawn to get ...

I feel ashamed that I have let him have such power over me. Please help me!!!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4416 days ago

17 November 2012 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 8 years. I know he is probably a good person, but he makes me so sad most of the time. He literally critiques almost everything I do. Just to make sure I wasn't crazy, which he frequently tells me I am, I started ...

I feel I've lost so much. How can I get my life back on track after breaking up? Life's really tough for me right now.

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4370 days ago

17 November 2012 (M) - Please ladies explain this to me. I'm on my own for the first time in my life and I'm 36 now. Two long term relationships, 2 children and I'm ashamed to say with both women. The first I thought was love. The second I walked out on in the mi...

Second time around dating her. How can I deal with my feelings of paranoia that she will lose interest in me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4417 days ago

17 November 2012 (M) - Hello Everyone I come here asking for help :/ ...you see there is this girl i am now dating for the second time. And the way i feel about her is much more different than the way I've felt about any other girl in my entire life.. Even while I w...

Child's father's wife is trying to raise my child!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4415 days ago

16 November 2012 (F) - Hello, My problem is with my child's father's wife. I don't mind her being a part of my child's life because that is his child. The problem is that when it comes to communicating with him about our daughter, she speaks as though she is the father. I ...

My brother in law is on drugs and we want to help, but he has said he is in love with me. Would inviting him here help or make things worse?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3636 days ago

16 November 2012 (?) - My brother in law has went off the deep end with drugs. He's lost his job, no money, his mom and brother kicked him out. He's alone and messed up. My husband (his brother) and I want to help him. I've called around to rehabs and im trying to find ...

Is he gambling? Having an affair? Something's wrong and I know he's been lying to me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

16 November 2012 (F) - I think I'm at my wits' end with my husband. We've had issues for a few years now (he was emotionally abusive towards my children and I), and went to counseling for it. He was told to get on meds for his temper. He did. However, that was back in...

Should I bring my boyfriend to my house for thanksgiving? He cheated and my family will probably be mean to him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

16 November 2012 (F) - So, it's almost the holidays and my boyfriend is coming to my place for the holidays. But, I'm going to my cousins house for thanksgiving dinner, and he's not doing anything considering his family doesn't really do anything. But, my family knows ...

Parents have been divorced for 10 years. Now my mother wants my father to sell his house to divide the money and give me something for a future downpayment. Is this appalingly unreasonable?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 November 2012 (F) - My parents immigrated to this country in 1999. When people say that immigration either makes the family stronger or tears it apart, they cannot be more right. Unfortunately in my case, my mom divorced my dad shortly after coming to this country. I ...

Cousins love - can it work, even though I'm married?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4418 days ago

15 November 2012 (F) - Basically, I fallen in love with my cousin. He tells me he feels the same and wants to spend the rest of his life with me. We didn't grow up together and I only met him once when I was a teenager - we live in different countries and I am now in m...

How can my husband and I handle the drama with his ex-partners and his children? It's becoming a problem

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4420 days ago

15 November 2012 (F) - I married to the most wonderful man I've ever known. We both in our 30's and are both Born Again Christians. He has fathered three boys before we met. I gave birth to one son during my first marriage. We got married in February this year a...

I'm being torn over which parent to spend Christmas with! I don't need this!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4420 days ago

14 November 2012 (F) - After a tough year getting divorced I am now facing a dilemma over Christmas Day. My immediate family (Mum and Dad and Sister) live 2 - 3 hours drive in different directions to me. Both want to see me on Xmas Day but... they have fallen out yet ...

How do we tell our parents that my 17 year old girlfriend is pregnant?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4420 days ago

14 November 2012 (M) - I really don't know what to do with this situation. I'm 21, in my last year at undergrad (pursuing my PhD), and have a 17 year old girlfriend back home who, after a very passionate end-of-summer date in August, is now three months pregnant. And she ...