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writes:So I broke up with my boyfriend about 3 months ago but we still texted each other off and on until about 3 weeks ago... The last time I talked to him was because of his best friend telling me that he had a concussion. I started texting him to see if he was alright and stuff but we eventually stopped because of a lack of interest I guess?Anyway, he's sort of friends with my sister and he's always texting her before me... The first text said something along the lines of "Hey I hope you're doing great I love you! kay have a nice life bye" and then after he said that to her he texted me with " hello, hi, hope you're doing great bye" Then yesterday he texted her happy thanksgiving and didn't text me anything. I'm jealous but I don't know why because I refuse to talk to him or date him because he's so immature. I suppose I'm being immature right now but it just really bothers me... My sister is really popular because she's really funny and pretty. I always feel like the people that like me will like her better... This is a horrible insecurity but one time a guy that said he was in love with me changed his mind and became obsessed with her... To get back on topic my sister said that my ex just really hates her because she's mean to him and he tries to kiss her ass for approval... Is she just trying to make me feel better? I honestly don't know what to do and I'm getting kinda depressed because so many people have stopped talking to me... Maybe I should change something about me? How do I get rid of my feelings?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2012): Thank you, your answers really helped me calm down.I just need to focus on myself and not other people...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 November 2012): Naw, not only is your sister not better than you, trust me she's not, she may seem that way but she has her own worries and personal issues OP, but this guy sounds like he's using her to get to you because he knows she'll tell you this stuff.
You said it yourself he's immature and those texts were very childlike too weren't they? Blah-blah-blah bye, k, totes xxx. Kind of crap, what is he 12? It sounds like he's trying to piss off both of you, it doesn't bother your sister but it's working on you, so you need to try and stop letting it bother you and see it for the pathetic little game it is.
The only thing you need to change is your mental state, your self-belief and your happiness OP. It's not really that your sister is better OP, it's just you not being happy with yourself at the moment so work on changing that. time to talk to someone you trust, your sister sounds close to you or maybe one of your parents, sit them down and tell them how you're feeling. Tell them details you've just told us, maybe it's just reassurance you need or maybe there are things in your life you need to do to make yourself happy again. but for now don't worry about little Mr. passive aggressive, he's a child trying to annoy you, just ignore him.
OP nobody is as bad as you think you are.
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reader, closercinta  +, writes (24 November 2012):
first i wnt to congratulate you for being honest to your feelings. You are a lady, so you can only respond to love from guys. If they dn't show it then you dn't have to fall for the wrong person. For everyone thats born into this world there are those who love you genuinely and unconditionaly. Change things about urself because u want to be a better person not because you wnt to impres smone or gain their attention. The later is wrong. Advice u to read good books and they wil get rid of those feelings. Just love people and it wil naturaly come back to u. Thats al for now. Bye. Emmanuel.
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