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writes:My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost a year. We recently broke up for like 3 weeks and then got back together. During the 3 weeks, she was seeing another guy quite frequently, hooking up with him several times. And now that we're back together, I've asked her to stop talking to him. However, she continually texts him everyday and night. She insists that I just need to trust her and that they are just friends. Am I wrong for asking her to stop talking to him? It bothers me that she talks to him so much. Should I just trust her?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 April 2009):
When you say "hooking up" what do you mean?
If you mean they just hung out then this could very easily be a friend and you need to give her some trust. However, you could tell her that it bothers you and then just pamper her and make her forget this other guy in other ways. ;o)
If you mean she was kissing him and having a more than friends relationship while you were not together then I think you have a lot more to be worried about. It's a bit disrespectful for her to be flaunting a relationship with an ex in front of you.
Talk to her and tell her calmly how much it bothers you. If she is not willing to at least back off a bit from this guy for the sake of your relationship then you will know you are not a high priority in her life. If you don't want to be with her anymore that would be understandable.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, francy  +, writes (4 April 2009):
well, trusting her depends on how she treats you. if she treats you the way you want yes you should trust. am so curious about what caused you guys to break up. hope it is not cheating but if it is cheating then trust should be gained back after some certain things... i mean you need to go through some few processes before you trust each other again.. oh jah, i think it is not right to stop her talking to him since the were going out for while , the best thing to do is to advice her not to go beyond the limits of friendship in their chats other wise they will end up going out again...
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