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*ikram Rohaj
writes:i like my classmate very much..she is usually want to talk to me,whenever i start any talk to her..but i dont usually talk to her...sometimes she she looks at me with very innocent eyes ...so please help me , how can i start talk with her everyday and how i can continue with her Reply to this Question
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reader, husasm +, writes (16 May 2011):
just take care and flirt sometimes lightly
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): There's a few steps. First you have to meet her even if u don't have a conversation you have to get her to notice you. You can't start a relationship if she doesn't even know ur alive. This can be accomplished simply by sitting next to her in class once in a while or even making small talk(asking how are you doing in class or do you like the class?) or even picking something up for her if she drops something. You must make sure you don't chase her around too much for example if in college making sure u sit next to her in class before you're in the friends zone(this is only at the start. And it is because most girls won't like a guy straight from the get go unless she thinks he Is really attractive, I and my kind have to work around this lol). After she knows who you are as a person make sure she knows your name(best done the first time you meet(shake hands, it's ok to shake a girls hands just don't shake like she is a guy, hard grip with arms straightened all the way is a no no). This make take a while to accomplish however do not worry if you're really into this girl it's worth the effort right?once you become friends it is ok to sit next to her and smile if you see each other, at this point it should be no problem starting a conversation, this is when you need to kick it up a bit because if you don't you may get stuck in the friends zone. If in college ask them to study with you after class or in hs you can randomly meet her at her locker before or after class. When she feels comfortable with you find out of any important day of hers like bday etc you can bring her something like a cupcake just to let her know you where thinking of her more than just when you are with her(in hs you can buy her bday balloons even if it's not her bday and bring them to her in the morning that way everyone in class will think it's her bday and sing to her in each of her class periods. Most girls will enjoy the attention and you will score major points because everytime she gets sung to or asked about the baloons she will think of you. That and her friends will think you are sweet and tell her about it. This may not be advisable in college because the balloons will just emberrase her since she may not know all the people in class so I don't recommend that for this situation) next after you have done something for HER and she liked it comment to her on how she looks pretty(you're pretty, I like your outfit, really good hair style etc) this will begin to build up eventually and she will notice how you feel. If she likes you after seeing your personality from conversations, and she enjoyed the things you might have done for her she will show you more affection whether it's going out of her way to talk to you, teling you so, or even show you just by how she looks at you.
Few more tips are try to look your best, I know you want her to like you for you but by not looking your best it may toss you out the running. I don't mean change your face by this I mean dress clean shower wear deodorant, just make yourself look like she can stand by you and not want to stand ten feet away.
Have pattience, not everyone looks like a model. However your personality may out shine that fact. Just don't give up after a week because this prosses takes time a month and a half atleast.
Also if one day she is not to friendly towards you before you are close to the end of your attempt, it's ok she might just have a bad day or even pms . She is a person and has emotions too just give her space untill SHE wants to talk, don't pressure her and don't become discouraged. Good luck to you hope you get your mate
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2010): There's a few steps. First you have to meet her even if u don't have a conversation you have to get her to notice you. You can't start a relationship if she doesn't even know ur alive. This can be accomplished simply by sitting next to her in class once in a while or even making small talk(asking how are you doing in class or do you like the class?) or even picking something up for her if she drops something. You must make sure you don't chase her around too much for example if in college making sure u sit next to her in class before you're in the friends zone(this is only at the start. And it is because most girls won't like a guy straight from the get go unless she thinks he Is really attractive, I and my kind have to work around this lol). After she knows who you are as a person make sure she knows your name(best done the first time you meet(shake hands, it's ok to shake a girls hands just don't shake like she is a guy, hard grip with arms straightened all the way is a no no). This make take a while to accomplish however do not worry if you're really into this girl it's worth the effort right?once you become friends it is ok to sit next to her and smile if you see each other, at this point it should be no problem starting a conversation, this is when you need to kick it up a bit because if you don't you may get stuck in the friends zone. If in college ask them to study with you after class or in hs you can randomly meet her at her locker before or after class. When she feels comfortable with you find out of any important day of hers like bday etc you can bring her something like a cupcake just to let her know you where thinking of her more than just when you are with her(in hs you can buy her bday balloons even if it's not her bday and bring them to her in the morning that way everyone in class will think it's her bday and sing to her in each of her class periods. Most girls will enjoy the attention and you will score major points because everytime she gets sung to or asked about the baloons she will think of you. That and her friends will think you are sweet and tell her about it. This may not be advisable in college because the balloons will just emberrase her since she may not know all the people in class so I don't recommend that for this situation) next after you have done something for HER and she liked it comment to her on how she looks pretty(you're pretty, I like your outfit, really good hair style etc) this will begin to build up eventually and she will notice how you feel. If she likes you after seeing your personality from conversations, and she enjoyed the things you might have done for her she will show you more affection whether it's going out of her way to talk to you, teling you so, or even show you just by how she looks at you.
Few more tips are try to look your best, I know you want her to like you for you but by not looking your best it may toss you out the running. I don't mean change your face by this I mean dress clean shower wear deodorant, just make yourself look like she can stand by you and not want to stand ten feet away.
Have pattience, not everyone looks like a model. However your personality may out shine that fact. Just don't give up after a week because this prosses takes time a month and a half atleast.
Also if one day she is not to friendly towards you before you are close to the end of your attempt, it's ok she might just have a bad day or even pms . She is a person and has emotions too just give her space untill SHE wants to talk, don't pressure her and don't become discouraged. Good luck to you hope you get your mate
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2010): just say hi when you see her or talk to her about the class
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reader, goldi456 +, writes (16 August 2010):
I think youhave to be friendly with her forsaying jokes and inciddents try to saying i love you with the jokes than when she says yes you are lucky if she says no thansaid her its only a joke.than try to avoid her for 2 to 5 days than said him again i love you this will work for me always. GOOD LUCK
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reader, flirt_master +, writes (8 July 2010):
Start with friendship, remain absent for a day and then ask her about the topic covered on that day and to help you understand it, or ask for notes. Then ask for her phone number. It may work.
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reader, Florence Grey  +, writes (4 April 2009):
 just be yourself around her.
smile at her jokes and look for openings into conversations.
don't over do it though and just look like your laughing manically - this can be a real turn off!
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reader, babe'z +, writes (4 April 2009):
just start talking to her more and more about everyday things and life or even like ask her question's about your school work and stuff then as you's become more friendly be bold and tell her how you feel about her if you think their's a chance she may feel the same but if you think she's not interested then maybe forget about her x
hope i could help xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): ok. so it seems you likes her. Just casually go on talking to her. make her feel she is special, give her a loads of attention. if possible , ask her out. And get to know her in a better way, before deciding to keep her as your girlfreind.
whenever you see her. stare and smile BUT dont look like a creep. keep talking to her. ask for her number. message her sometimes. and keep the contact.
BEST OF LUCK.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): Start with, i dont understand this, can you help questions in class or hi, how is your day compliments and work your way into confident talking between the both of you if u are made to be, it shouldnt take long before shes butter in your hands
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): i think first you should try to be her friend and then hopefully she will get to know you even better and start to like you more. if you want to start talking to her more you need to make sure that your appearing friendly and easy to talk to. If she looks at you remember to smile at her. hopefully then she will think your a nice guy and she may feel more comfortable talking to you. it could be that she is shy so generally try and be a nice guy around her. shell notice you more and may start conversations with you. Maybe give her a compliment by telling her that she looks really nice today or say something nice about the way shes dressed. You could also try and find out what she likes or what her interests are and try and start a conversation about it with her. For example what tv shows she likes.if you know she like prison break for example,you could say something like "did you watch prison break last night? it was really good". alternatively you could talk about it with someone around her but loud enough so she can hear and she may join in the conversation. good luck with evrything..!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): why dont you pay her a compliment. tell her she looks really nice today or compliment her on what shes wearing. or why not ask her about the work in class or perhaps ask for help with homework. it will get you talking and so you'll get to know each other better. maybe she is shy or maybe she doesnt know you like her. Girls like to feel wanted or liked. If she looks at you then remember to smile.you will come across as friendly and approachable and easy to talk to. just generally try to be a nice guy to her and be a positive person around her. then she will notice you more an so shes more likely to start a conversation with her. another thing you can do is try and find out what she likes or what shes into and then start a conversation with her about that. or you can talk to somebody next to her about that topic hoping that she will overhear what your saying an join the conversation. you have more chance of her becoming your girlfriend if you become friends first. .. i dont know what else to say, your question wasnt very detailed but good luck with her!!!
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