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writes:We are both in college and have been seeing each other for a month now but I feel like he thinks I am boring because I don't really party and smoke like he does. I like to party once in a while but not every weekend like he does. He has a lot of friends and I am sorta by myself. I mean I know a lot of people but I don't really have a group that I hang out with. I play sports so I get easily tired and dont feel like going out and partying at night. Like last night, he called me at midnight when I was sleeping and asked me if I wanted to come off campus and party with him. Neither of us has a car so it would have taken me an hour to get there by bus. Does he think I am boring? What should I do? I don't want to lose him. Reply to this Question
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (4 April 2009):
Not everyone likes partying.
He can have his life and you can have yours. If he called you it was just because he missed you and wanted you to be with him.
He's not going to think you are boring.
I mean I bet you wake him up at 8am to come and see you play sports so fair is fair.
Show him that there is more to life than partying and that he can live the best of both worlds with you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, FroggieGman +, writes (4 April 2009):
Lose him!!! I'm not a drinker nor am I a smoker. I know people that do both, have done both and many of them are now dead because they did both.
You are a normal healthy college girl, you're "jock" and believe me that is a good thing. You do NOT have to get drunk and smoke to fit in, and if you try to "fit" in, what are you forcing yourself to fit in to? Let him go, his lifestyle is much different than yours. You will find another with your same goals and values. I graduated from college in 1998 with 2 degrees and I attended no parties, smoked no cigatetts, and never got drunk. I had a few friends and a few girl friends.
Good Luck.
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