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*xDefineMexX
writes: My boyfriend is really experienced and I'm not. I get super self conscious whenever we do anything and I end up ruining it for myself which is what I'm trying not to do. But whenever he fingers me or eats me out it feel sooooo good and I don't know what sounds to make. I know I sound retarded but Ii want to let him know it feels good and I like it but I just feel so stupid and then I laugh and he thinks I'm laughing at him which I'm not and it just ruins the whole mood.Any advice? Reply to this Question Share |
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reader, XxDefineMexX +, writes (11 April 2009):
XxDefineMexX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyayy! i finally did it and i wasn't scared about my sounds=] i asked him if he wanted to make noises and he just told me that whatever i did was adorable and cute and yayy im really happy now33
thanks so much=]
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reader, XxDefineMexX +, writes (10 April 2009):
XxDefineMexX is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everyone!
i think that really made me have a boost of self-confidence.
i really appriciate it=]
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2009): You have to relax when you are being intimate with him. There are no specific noises that you should be making. If you relax and let yourself get into it then the noises you may or may not make will just naturally happen. You cant force that, that would be faking. Next time you are with him try to not focus on your inhabitions and just concentrate on enjoying what you are feeling and enjoying the closeness with him.
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reader, FroggieGman +, writes (4 April 2009):
There is no "scripted" or "proper response" to love making. Some women react to an orgasm by crying, some by laughing, some make no sounds at all. Just be yourself, If he's upset about your reaction to his actions, then perhaps you are with the wrong guy.
Maybe you should carry stickers and give him a sticker for his forhead is he does good.
Sex and lovemaking should be spontaneous, not following a set of rules of actions and expected reactions.
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reader, fuckedup +, writes (4 April 2009):
Go to craigslist and check out the personals. Hook up with 40 or 50 random encounters. You will put some experience under your belt, and quite possibly pick up a STD or two. That will make it a win-win situation. Your boyfriend will be impressed and tainted with an STD to keep him stuck to you.
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