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Archived questions from: September, 2013 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

Is this just a lack or courage or a sign I shouldn't end it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4068 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - I'm struggling to let go of a bad relationship and need to know whether what I am feeling is normal? We've been together for over 4 years and I love him a lot, but we've had lots of problems in that time, mainly to do with the fact I've never ...

Would you wish your ex a happy birthday?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M) - She broke up with me and we've been no contact since she greeted me for MY birthday, two weeks after the break up. We've been friends for almost 6 years (on and off) before the romantic relationship. She contacted me only once after the BU, wh...

I hacked her facebook from her phone and found she's talking to a guy!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4069 days ago

30 September 2013 (M) - Hello am I 27 year old male who has been with my girlfriend for the past 5 months. We've been having some problems lately. I looked on her phone which I know I shouldn't have done but I went to her Facebook account and looked at her messages and ...

I hope somehow I see him to show him how much I have changed. And why would he call me after a year of no contact a few days after my birthday?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

30 September 2013 (F) - Hello everyone, Lately I've been thinking if my ex a lot. Not in an emotional way however sometimes I get upset at how things could have been different, wondering what he is up to now, and wondering if he thinks of me. We broke up around t...

How can I contact again my ex-friend and crush and should I? I regret losing him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4055 days ago

29 September 2013 (F) - It's a bit long but that's because i'm gonna try to explain things well so that hopefully you can answer accuraletly... if you could give me your opinion on it i'd be VERY grateful ! So here is the story This guy got interested in me right a...

Yells, screams and is needlessly hostile to me. How do I deal with my BF when he is like this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Needlessly hostile boyfriend, hard to deal with. I'm on my last nerve with my boyfriend, and I feel like I have no one else to turn to. We've been dating for over a year, and we're both 21. This weekend was supposed to be a good, fun couple of days ...

How do I cope with the breakdown of my parents marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - Hi everyone, just hoping for a bit of advice. My mum has just started the menopause and now is saying that she wants my dad to move out. They have been together for over 30 years and while I admit they have had their ups and downs, I have never se...

I think we're on a break. What do I do from here?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4071 days ago

28 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I have apparently went on a forced break by him, not me. We've been together for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. We don't live together and would see each other once or twice a week and then spend the weekends together. We started ...

Do you just let your ex become a stranger?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4070 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - My ex isnt willing to see me with someone new and i dont want to see his either so we defriended each other on facebook (FYI: It was a bad breakup) We are in different countries so we will never ever see each other again. Do you guys just let your ...

How do I respond to this friend who seems to be upset that I've become a happy stay at home mom?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4072 days ago

27 September 2013 (F) - I recently moved overseas with my husband. We hav a baby and i amcrrently a stay at home mom. Iv known this friend since childhood .we went to the same school and she was also my bridesmaid. We were not best friends but we were good friends and she ...

Saw him twice in three months so I broke it off -- and he doesn't understand why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4073 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - Hi, it's been 3 months now and I only met my bf twice. I understood that he has just been promoted from his job and needs a lot of travel. But then during his free time, he wouldn't at least meet me for an hour or two regardless of the fact that his ...

Is it bad I stopped talking to my mom after my parents divorced?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4067 days ago

26 September 2013 (F) - My parents are newly divorced, and I am still recovering from the hellish and nasty ordeal that it became. I tried to keep contact with my mother, but I am afraid of the depth of her emotion. My mom carries a lot of rage and pain inside, and it j...

My ex has been on my mind alot and I want to contact him. Should I?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4074 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - About 3 years ago, I met a man. I'll be completely honest, things weren't always the best and by the end, I was pretty low. He broke my heart. At the time, I was at a very tumultuous phase anyway. I was finishing my undergrad and had no idea where ...

My ex and I broke up and he's moved on but I feel like I'm still at stage 1!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4074 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - My ex dumped me four months ago. He was my first and it was a serious relationship for both of us. We had no contact for 3 months until last month he called and said he missed me and needed me. I told him to move on because it was a bad breakup and ...

"I'll love you even if we break up": why would a guy say that?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4071 days ago

25 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of 9 months had a few drinks on Friday and said "I love you, I'll love you even if we break up". He also said he's decided he's too "selfish" to have a child. I didn't engage the conversation because he had been drinking. He knows I ...

I'm not making as much money so I'm behind on my alimony! Ideas?

This question has 22 answers - newest was posted 4072 days ago

24 September 2013 (M) - i need help, i have recently got married and had a baby with a beautiful 24 year old girl. my ex wife took me for alot of alimony, and i was ok to pay her for the first year she was awarded it for five years. im having difficulties now paying her ...

I lost the love of my life and don't know what to do!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4064 days ago

24 September 2013 (M) - Hey Everyone, Where do I begin? I want to try to be as honest as I can so I'm trying to be fair to both the girl I love and myself. It's been almost a year since I lost the love of my life. And yet I simply can not move on. I have tried e...

I do still love him and think about him but I'm confused by his words!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4074 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - I love this guy, and he tells me he loves me. We have been together for 6 months now. All this while we've been together,i thought we were a couple until last week wen i text him that it was better we broke up since he said i was hurting him. I ...

Why do I still want to talk to him after what he did?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4076 days ago

24 September 2013 (F) - I'm currently having an issue getting over someone and I do not know why. I met this man about two years ago. He would come in to my place of work and talk to me quite frequently. I thought he was very sweet and charming and so when he asked fo...

He didn't celebrate my birthday. Am I overreacting if I break things off?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4074 days ago

23 September 2013 (F) - I have been dating this guy for about a month now. As far as I know, we have been seeing each other exclusively. Things have been going well this far until my birthday yesterday. I had a birthday dinner with friends scheduled for the day before my ...

I'm seeing another side to my boyfriend after moving in together. Should I stay in this relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4054 days ago

23 September 2013 (M) - Hello, so I have been dating this guy since January and we really hit it off well, never fight, never argue, and always have a good time. We always say things like we'll spend the rest of our lives together as well, so I am extremely invested in ...

She asked him to cheat but I don't know what to think!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4077 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - Im going out with a boy who'd ex is also one of my friends. He dumped her after a huge arguement and she recently told me that she still has feelings for him. Just a week ago she wanted to break up with her current boyfriend. She didnt want to do it ...

I ended it because I was afraid of how strongly I felt about him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4077 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - I am trying so hard to forget about this man i am very much attracted to. But the more I deny I have feelings for him, the more I keep thinking about him. I think I am in love with him but I am not so sure. The last time I have spoken to him was 3 ...

How can someone just give up on someone you claim you have great love for

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4077 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - My ex and I of 3 years broke up offically about 3 months ago. We were on and off for the last year of our relationship. I heard rumors of him dating someone new but I didn't know or really want to know because it was so devastating to think he could ...

He hasn't called after a fight

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4076 days ago

22 September 2013 (F) - My boyfriend (5months) and I had a fight the other night. The exact details I can't even remember. Basically we were suppose to meet up on Thursday because we haven't seen each other for a few days so I was waiting to hear from him when he got home ...

Three of us are friends. She dumped him but now I like the guy.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4078 days ago

21 September 2013 (F) - So to try and cut this story down. Last year my friend was dating a guy who I had been friends with for a few years previous. Anyway they broke up last year, she dumped him by text, which kind of put me in an awkward situation, I felt needed to have ...

Boyfriend's mother is dying and says he is letting me go.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4079 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - so my recent boyfriend of the last two months told me that he thinks i should move on because he has a lot going on right now with his mom's failing health. I don't mind being there for him regardless of how much he has going on. What should I do? ...

How do I act around my ex? I still love him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4078 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - My ex boyfriend and I broke up after a fight and mostly because he said that I have jealousy problem and feelings are in the middle. Both of us cried during the breakup. We had minimal contact . After 2 months, we met up and ended up having sex. I ...

I am scared to leave him after he said that he would kill himself.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4076 days ago

20 September 2013 (F) - im in need of advice. i been with a guy for over 6 years and is been a roller coaster, i sometimes was happy sometimes wasnt, we dont live together but that was the plan to move in together, we met in new york but his choice of living was florida ...

My ex hates me because I said hi and his girlfriend didn't like it?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - Hi all, I just need to get a bit of a rant out of my system. So I dated one guy for about two and a half years and we eventually broke up, nothing harsh really just the fact that we didn't get along as well anymore, and we remained acquaintances ...

He says he no longer loves me-- how can I change his mind?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4079 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - This will be long, so bare with me.... I am 32, my boyfriend 35. We have been together for almost 4 years and live together. I have two children, both with special needs, from a previous relationship; they are not home on weekends. Our relationsh...

Why did my ex stop talking to me? Did he go back to the other girl?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4080 days ago

19 September 2013 (F) - My ex-boyfriend broke up with me a year ago because he felt the long distance was not working. We were good friends for more than a year before getting together, so I still text / facebook him once in a while, but he doesn't really respond. He has ...

I'm interested in a guy, and he likes me, but he had a one night stand with my friend!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hi all, would really appreciate some advice. Around three/four months ago my relationship of three and a half years started to break down. Its slowly been starting to die for the last year but I guess we didn't want to face it. Therefore when t...

Getting mixed vibes from this guy who ended things then reappeared. Any advise?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hi all, just looking for a bit of advice. Posted not so long ago as I had just started seeing a guy who had recently got out of a relationship. We met on a night out and from then he was texting me and we met up a few times. He would message every ...

Two guys. Which date to cancel? Considering the circumstances?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Hey, I seem to have gotten myself caught up in a very odd situation. So, let me start off by saying that I had my boyfriend for 4 months, then we broke up, except it wasn't a clean break up. We decided to stay friends, although I only agreed to that ...

How do I get my ex back? Or how do I move on? It's 70 days since our break-up

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4080 days ago

18 September 2013 (F) - Two months ago, The love of my life walked away because of my bad attitude. It's been about 70 days since I've seen or talked to him. How do I get him back? or How do I accept what has happened and move on? Its been a hard journey. All I d...

Did I make the right decision? Long distance relationship - decided to cut contact temporarily

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - For the last almost 2 months, my boyfriend was on a different continent for a work commitment, so there was an 8hour time difference between us. The first month or so was ok, but he was very busy, both with work and he never seemed to miss out on p...

His toxic ex won't respect our relationship!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4080 days ago

17 September 2013 (F) - We've been together 3 yrs, we just got engaged recently and plan to be married soon. We both were married before for 18+ yrs. My ex is only I the picture due to our 4 kids, his ex is in the picture because she can't live without him in her life. ...

All I really need to know from you is do you think he can love me if he's done that? And does he want to be with me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - I assume you will all tell me to get rid once youve read my question but what I really want to know is can he love me if he did this? Do you think he really wants to be with me? So ive been with my boyfriend since feb, neither of us were looking ...

He got in touch with his immediately after we split, now we're back together and this bothers me!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4081 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - About 3 months ago my boyfriend and I broke up because I felt that he wasn't as affectionate anymore, more importantly that he had started initiating contact with his ex- girlfriend. I still miss him after 2 months, so I made a move and we got back ...

Is there ever an instance when abuse and fear of your significant other is justified?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4083 days ago

16 September 2013 (F) - I am wondering if there is ever an instance when abuse and fear of your significant other is justified. My boyfriend thinks I cheated on him even though he knows it's not true. He bases this on my ex still contacting me(my ex loves in another...

My best friend and my ex are dating just 3 days after we broke up!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4084 days ago

15 September 2013 (F) - I had a boyfriend that i was really, really in love with. He was the first in everything for my life, I thought of him before myself. We had great time, he was my first kiss actually which is weird for me because i am not attracted to how a person ...

Why is my ex's girlfriend telling me I'm evil and ugly?!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4082 days ago

14 September 2013 (?) - It's been 3 yrs!! since my separation my ex a cheater!! I am in a good place emotionally and it seems that my ex's current girlfriend is on facebook under a fake account and messaging me calling me ugly and how my ex is happy and at peace. Funny ...

I know I need to let her go because of how she treats me, but I'm in love with her and scared to be without her!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

12 September 2013 (F) - This past week and a half my girlfriend hasn't been acting the same and shes done nothing more than push me away, she picks fights for no reason and no matter what i say i'm a monster, there is no making her happy anymore and when i ask her whats ...

From breakup depression to gambling losses. Advice?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4086 days ago

12 September 2013 (M) - Exactly a year ago, I broke up with the love of my life. Our relationship was very toxic due to her very rough past. The breakup was a total devastation for both of us. She took on drugs, I was very depressed n couldnt function properly. 3 months l...

I've fallen for him now but it seems he is no interested in me or not wanting to be my friend. Please help me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

12 September 2013 (F) - A guy blocked me because he said i wasn't in love with him which was true i called him several times but to no respond, i then sent him an sms he called later saying "lets be real, i was faking, so were u, lets just be friends'. We were friends, i ...

Should I contact my ex? Please help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

12 September 2013 (M) - I left my ex last January. She moved to be with me from another province 2 years ago. Things were not working, but I loved her very much. After months of still spending time with her bc she had no friends or family here, and her crying and begging, ...

Why do women gets so attached and men just seem to be able to completely forget about women? I just don't understand it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4087 days ago

11 September 2013 (F) - Why are men so different to women? Why do women gets so attached and men just seem to be able to completely forget about women? I just dont understand it! I was seeing a guy from work for a few month! It was brilliant! So much chemistry, fu...

Lost my boyfriend and my best friend, I should just let go, shouldn't I?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4088 days ago

11 September 2013 (F) - I had a few posts here and i appreciate the advice i got. This is my last post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/broke-up-with-ex-4-months-ago-and.htm Ive been reading a lot about how to move on. I kept myself busy too, but its extremly difficu...

GF left me for another guy wants me back the NEXT DAY after having sex with him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4088 days ago

11 September 2013 (M) - gf of 1.5 yrs dumps me over txt saying she needs time to "think about what she wants". shows up 3 days later drunk on my doorstep crying admitting she F***ed some dude at her gym but it meant nothing and she wants me back. i tell her to F*** off....