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30-35,
*issatomcbrightside
writes:I'm currently having an issue getting over someone and I do not know why.I met this man about two years ago. He would come in to my place of work and talk to me quite frequently. I thought he was very sweet and charming and so when he asked for my number, I obliged. We started to go out to make plans together but I informed him that it had to be strictly friends because I was trying to get over a past infidelity with my previous boyfriend of 5 years. He knew about this and was very respectful for about a year and a half. He didn't try to make a move on me at all. Finally, I felt I could trust him. We began to get more serious. After we did the deed, he got very strange. He was very distant and was not longer sweet to me. Just to be clear, I asked him if he was keeping his options open or talking to anyone else and that I would have understood if he was. I just wanted to know where I stood. He promised me that he was not and that he really valued our relationship. I found he had a dating profile and when I asked him about it, he made it private and told me he would "delete it." To this day it still exists.It was then I also began to notice strange texts that he said were from his sister, but the name that came up on his phone was absolutely not his sister. I really trusted him, so I did not question it. He told me he had plans to go see his sister for 5 days in another state. I thought nothing of it until he claimed he left his charger at home and that he wouldn't be able to text me. I thought it was strange, but I tried to stay positive. I soon noticed something strange. He had a new follower on one of his social media sites. She was tagging him in posts about going to the movies and spending the day together. He never even left the state. She had come to visit him.I of course confronted him when he "returned" from his trip. I couldn't hold it in and I confronted him via text. He denied everything and told me that I was crazy. He told me goodbye and ignored me for a few weeks. I begged for him to please talk to me and explain why, but he told me nothing he could say would make me feel better. He is still seeing this other woman. He occasionally will message me something stupid like a funny picture or a dumb question like "do you know whose number this is?" I have talked to him here and there, but it never really goes anywhere.It hurts so bad that I meant nothing and that he didn't even fight for me. He became the guy he promised he'd never be and just let me fall. I know he is not good for me so why am I still so hung up over him? I'm so confused and upset I don't understand any of it. I know what he did to me was wrong, so why can't I just let him go? Why do I still want to talk to him?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 September 2013):
 I have no idea why you want to talk to that lying creep. My guess, is that you still see him as this "perfect guy" you though he was and you hang on to hope that he WILL be that guy for you. That YOU can change him. You can't.
Personally, I would un-friend/delete/block him off all your social media, block his number and STOP talking to him.
He is NOT the guy you thought he was. He never will be.
Accept it and let him go, not for his sake but for yours.
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reader, missatomcbrightside +, writes (24 September 2013):
missatomcbrightside is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt has been almost four months since all this. I haven't seen him, just texted maybe 6 or 7 times.
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