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Archived questions from: July, 2013 (see latest in Breaking up category)

Breaking up: Help and advice

We broke up but when met up again and had sex. I'm confused about what he wants

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4160 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - I dumped my ex about three weeks ago. Let me tell you why, he started saying he doesn't know how much longer we would be together because he doesn't like being chained down all the time. I took that as him saying he wants to see other people. I ...

I lost my friend to a girl, now they're fighting. Are they likely to break up or patch things up? I want my friend back.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4160 days ago

31 July 2013 (M) - Basically I'm just asking when couples start having arguments to the point where they think about breaking up, does that mean they are likely yto break up or will putting wrong to right make them stronger than ever then make them work? I'm askin...

I'm happy but overshadowed by jealousy over ex. How do I get past this?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4160 days ago

31 July 2013 (F) - My ex ended our relationship nearly two years ago. We was together 5 years. We were both at fault, but I own up to doing a lot of bad things too. He has ignored me completely and he showed no signs of any grief or jealousy when I met someone else ...

He won't give me a straight answer about the break up

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4162 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of over two and a half years broke up with me out of the blue recently and he's excuse is that he hasn't been happy and he doesn't know if he can give me 100% in a relationship. But when I ask him questions about what went wrong with ...

What are your opinions on pretending to be happy in a broken relationship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4160 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - I am wondering what your thoughts are for situations like these. A lot of people cannot leave relationships immediately for various reasons...kids,illness, compromises... I am wondering if you guys have ever needed to pretend everything is ...

Ex blew his chances. Whats the next step?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4159 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Me and my ex broke up 2 months ago, due to him being a serial cheat. We had been together for 5 months, having a one month break up in the middle. We broke up due to him both sleeping with someone else and sending pictures and flirting...

What does it mean if your ex continues to wear something you gave them after you've broken up?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4160 days ago

30 July 2013 (M) - If someone you were once with still wears something you gave them when you were together ands still wears it after you aren't. Do you think they wear it because it's a reminder of you or because it's from you, or do you think they don't think ...

What was the meaning behind the message my ex gave me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4162 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - I was inlove with him but had to end the relationship as I was not happy for a number of reasons. Lack of transparency being one of them. We discussed this and he apologised but I was no longer comfortable and became quite despondent. He's last text ...

Stuck in an unhappy marriage. What should I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4158 days ago

30 July 2013 (M) - Hi everyone, I've been married for over 15 years. For the most part it has been a good relationship. I've always been an easy going guy and not a lot rattles me, but over the course of the years I've really felt like I've taken it on the c...

Divorcing, and I feel hurt and anger and extreme regret!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4161 days ago

30 July 2013 (F) - Any tips on coping with feelings of hurt/anger/regret? Husband and I are divorcing-next month we can finally submit paperwork. He feels I'm trying to take every penny I can, I feel he's trying to keep every penny he can. We have a 2 yea...

My ex cheated on me and dumped me, he is now in a relationship and I am alone. How can I get over our break-up?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4163 days ago

29 July 2013 (F) - My ex boyfriend cheated on at Christmas time, lied about it, dumped me when I found out, still denied it afterwards but I have since found out that he is still with the girl he cheated on me with. I so angry that I was the one treated like crap but...

Your Ex Is Sending Mixed Signals

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4150 days ago

29 July 2013 (?) - Many of us may be in recovery from a recent breakup, or you are several weeks into the no-contact period. You broke up months or years ago. There is this dull pain in the pit of your heart. You're going about your life. You relapse and cry ...

What do I say or do to make my ex realize he has to chose between his ex girlfriend and me? I need to move on!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4164 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - Hi I broke up with my ex bf about 3 years ago I still have strong feeling for him but I no nothing with happen again. He now has a new gf and I have started slowly but finally moving on but lately I have been getting messages from him ...

I'm being harassed by my ex boyfriend's new girl. I just want to be left alone. What do I do?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4164 days ago

28 July 2013 (F) - Okay so me and this guy dated he broke up with me things ended pretty badly amd more so in a physical altercation he chocked me etc. but anyway he came to my job one week later with another girl after we broke up and then he started talking to this ...

His new girlfriend news has set me back a bit.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4163 days ago

27 July 2013 (F) - Dear Cupid I haven't been on here for a while as I've been doing so well, but today I feel a bit unsettled because I've just found out that my ex has a new girlfriend. I'm not going to contact him or anything like that, and I wish him well, ...

How strange is it to feel relatively normal so soon after leaving a bad relationship?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4165 days ago

27 July 2013 (M) - I left an abusive relationship about a month ago. In retrospect, I wonder why I put up with the screaming and cursing, the threats of violence, the baseless accusations of cheating, and the infliction of pain and discomfort (e.g., puckering up as ...

Isnt it better to find someone that likes you just as you look rather than getting all buffed for them?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4166 days ago

26 July 2013 (M) - I have noticed that after a break up a lot of people say start the gym to boost confidence and better oneself etc. The thing is though that if you do go the gym and get a good body and attract loads of girls/guys are they not just attracted to you ...

Is he rebounding or is he just crazy?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4165 days ago

26 July 2013 (F) - So, my boyfriend of two years and I have recently broke up. It's been a rocky relationship for quite a while but we love(d) each other very much and were one day planning to marry and have kids etc. We could not be without each other. Since we'...

How do I make myself want to get over him?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4096 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - Recently a guy I really liked broke up with me and as much as I logically know I need to move on I can't make myself want to. We were only together for a few months but I really liked him. We got on incredibly well , made each other laugh. He ...

We break up, make up and then he wants to break up again

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4162 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - Ok my bf of about a year and I have been going thru things. First off he really tried to break up with me ON our 1 year anniversary OVER THE PHONE I could not help but cry and plead for him (which I know was all based on instant emotions). We ...

We decided to take a break and now he's not coming back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4167 days ago

25 July 2013 (F) - My boyfriend of 5 months and I broke up on the 15th. He moved back to his city which is 45 minutes away. Awe broke up do to fighting a lot . We decided that we would try to work on things but not be together right yet. He moved back because he said ...

Girlfriend lost weight, changed, left me and started going for meat heads like her trainer.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4167 days ago

25 July 2013 (M) - Hey everyone, I'm 26 and I began dating this girl (22) I met from a friend in undergrad and we immediately hit it off, however the night we met, we slept together. I immediately thought the worst because but eventually we began hanging out more and...

After she moved away, we barely talk anymore because she's always too tired or too busy or talking to this guy! Do I break up with her?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4164 days ago

24 July 2013 (M) - I've been in a relationship for 3 years with this girl now. Last year, she moved to another city with her family. She used to call and message me all the time. After 3months,she joined a college for her further studies. She became friends with a guy ...

He's become all clingy and weird due to his depression and I'm wondering if I should suggest we not speak during my holiday to think things through. Thoughts?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4167 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - Hi everyone. Please bear with me for a bit. I know it is long. The situation is very strange. The man in question is a friend of a friend. We met in March and he was not supposed to be anything but a fling, an one night stand even. I was fine w...

Is it appropriate or inappropriate for your sister to live with your soon-to-be ex husband?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4168 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - Appropriate or inappropriate? My husband and I were having problems. My sister broke up with her boyfriend and requested to live in the house, I said no and gave her other options. My husband and I were on the verge of separation, I didn't think it ...

My boyfriend doesn't seem like he has grown up or wants to make life commitments with me. Do I leave him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4168 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - I have been with my boyfriend for 4 years and in that time, I feel I have grown up a lot and he hasn't changed much at all. I am now 28, he is 27, and he is still showing no interest in wanting to talk about marriage/kids etc. When I met him...

I've already pitched in money for a holiday and now my girlfriend is treating me like crap. I don't think I want to be with her.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4168 days ago

24 July 2013 (M) - About two months ago my girlfriend and her friends (her friends,not mine)decided to go on a vacation and they invited me. We calculated that it would be 500 dollars a person. Everyone pitched in money 2 months ago in order to ensure commitment and ...

Is my ex trying to get back together or does he just want to be friends?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4168 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - I left my boyfriend about a month ago. He didn't understand why and we got pretty bitter every time I tried to explain it. We didn't speak for three weeks. I didn't think we'd talk again. About a week ago, He then tried to contact me, I shot him ...

A month ago he said he loves me, now I see a pic of him with someone else

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4168 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - so i need some insight on what to do.. my ex boyfriend and i dated for almost 3 years..since we broke up we have been on and off..hooking up acting like a couple but not really a couple..i think he has commitment issues he keeps saying we dont wor...

Boyfriend broke up with me for not having sex with him

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4168 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - I am 21 years old and in college studying to be a registered nurse,recently I met a guy, he's very attractive and he asked me for my number, he texted me the same day asking me to come to his house.i told him no because it seems like he wanted sex ...

Boyfriend is withholding affection after argument

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4168 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - My boyfriend and I are both in our late 20's and we've been living together for 3 years. Four days ago we got into a pretty bad argument where I suggested a break up in the heat of the moment (not something I want at all) and he agreed to. I then ...

I can't wait forever for him! Do I move on?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4169 days ago

24 July 2013 (F) - Hi I am really confused and need help deciding. I broke up with my bf. I had everything a girl could want but im scared of getting close to someone. Trust issues.-. But Im ready now and want to get back together. So foes he. But he's in a boys home ...

My husband decided he's really done. Anyone who has been in the situation please advise?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4168 days ago

23 July 2013 (F) - I'm feeling really down. I need some advice or helpful words from someone who has been through this before. I posted on here the other day that I'm going through a separation. I'm having a hard time with it. For a lot of reasons I have to stay in ...

How to deal with this in front of the kids?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4165 days ago

23 July 2013 (F) - I've been with my husband for 20 years (we were both VERY young), and married for 14 years. He is a police officer and I recently found out that he is cheating on me with a female paramedic. The divorce is in process - but how do I remain civil ...

Would it be such a bad idea to call him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4169 days ago

23 July 2013 (F) - We where having too many fights, he couldn't see a problem, so I left. It was bitter. After three weeks on no contact, he called me. I missed it and text him asking what he wanted. He said to know how I was, I told him good and said nothing else. He ...

My long-term boyfriend is not the one for me. How do I go about breaking up with him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4170 days ago

22 July 2013 (F) - I am 28 and feel like I want to end my 4 year relationship, but I'm so scared of hurting him I've been putting it off. I have been thinking this for a while but ignored it thinking it would just be a phase, but I know now it isn't. But to him it ...

We broke up, but he's still the one I talk to - will I ever get over him this way?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3927 days ago

21 July 2013 (F) - Hello. I'm a 16 year old girl. I was in a relationship with this guy but we kind of 'broke up' when I had to move away last year December. We still kept in touch and all through skyping but then it got lesser until a point when we just messaged ea...

Why wouldn't my ex say goodbye? I just want everything to go to an end.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4172 days ago

20 July 2013 (F) - This is my last post. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-you-guys-still-hate-or-forgive-your.html My ex and I are in two different continents which is about 7000 km away. We will never see each other again. I know most people recommend no con...

I broke off a bad relationship, what can I say to him so that we can be on good terms?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4171 days ago

20 July 2013 (F) - I broke up with him about a month ago because he was mistreating me, yelling too often. I know I broke his heart. We had a bitter breakup, he got very cranky and both of us said we didn't want to speak again. After less than three weeks of no ...

Part of me hates him, part of me loves him. What am I supposed to do?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4172 days ago

20 July 2013 (F) - I broke up with my boyfriend 3 months ago, we were together for 2 years. We broke up basically because we weren't getting along for a long time and he refused to communicate his issues. I didn't want to break up with him because I loved him, but I ...

I know we can't be together so how do I get over him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3191 days ago

20 July 2013 (F) - I really need advice. Me and my ex boyfriend met 2 years ago in the summer of 2011 we formed a relationship which lasted around 2 months. We ended things because he got a job in a different country and we both mutually because we felt that we could ...

He would make plans to come visit and then totally avoid me the day he was supposed to come! Why?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4171 days ago

20 July 2013 (F) - I had been talking to a guy for about 6 months, and although we live about 2 hours apart we would talk almost every day. I'd visited him a few times where he lives and we had a lot of fun. He then told me he wanted me to be his girlfriend so I asked ...

He broke up with me because he thinks I gave him a STD

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4172 days ago

19 July 2013 (F) - ok ,,, i've been dating a guy for nine years , we were on and off , but recently we have broken up , bec we think i have STD , at least he thinks i caught it and gave it to him ,coming from my country , such is a disgrace , so i can't go to see ...

Girlfriend thinks she's selfish and might break up to "save me"??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4173 days ago

19 July 2013 (M) - my girlfriend is going through a really hard moment and is "threatening" to break up with me.... her mom found a lump in her breast, and had it checked out and it was ok, but in the process, my girlfriend started to over think and get really scare...

How do I define the relationship I now have with my ex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4173 days ago

19 July 2013 (F) - I really need advice. I broke up with my lesbian partner of 3yrs in February. We were having issues and she couldn't forgive me n move past it so we broke up. A couple weeks later I'm in another relationship with a woman I met online. I didn't fall ...

LDR problem, I love him dearly but not sure if he loves me, and don't know what to do. Should I keep on waiting?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4174 days ago

18 July 2013 (F) - I met my Aussie boyfriend 2 and a half years ago. He first flew here and chased after me after 2 months of talking. I was very smitten. We had our ups and downs in our LDR and 16 months forward he flew me to Aus for the first time and took me ...

Unresolvable boyfriend: should I wait and see if he comes back or shall I forget him once and for all?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4174 days ago

18 July 2013 (F) - I returned to my ex at the beginning of this year after being separated for 13 years, we were in our late teens and he was my first boyfriend and back then too many people got involved in our relationship. We never stopped loving each other and ...

Is he really making sense or am I downright stupid?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4173 days ago

18 July 2013 (F) - Ok so my Ex and i spoke about the problems we had, we also had sex he wants to take baby steps in getting back together i don't know why am starting to feel like its a game he's playing because he is still communicating with the girl that he ...

Should I carry on until he leaves and let it die out or do I tell him it's wrong?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4170 days ago

17 July 2013 (F) - Dear aunts and uncles, I think I'm in deep with this one. Someone I met through work recently started talking to me a lot more than they used to. We had a flirty relationship at work but he was like it with everyone so no one took it too seriously...

Would writing to him help me get over the breakup?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4174 days ago

17 July 2013 (F) - My ex of 4 years dumped me out of nowhere. It's just too harsh for me then. I keep myself busy and move on and I think I'm doing better though I still cried to bed some nights. I think I forgive him in my heart and wish him the best. Does anyone ...