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writes:This is my last post.http://www.dearcupid.org/question/do-you-guys-still-hate-or-forgive-your.htmlMy ex and I are in two different continents which is about 7000 km away. We will never see each other again. I know most people recommend no contact after breakup, but I think it helps me heal and I will have no regret if I tell my ex I wish him the best and hope he's always happy since I've lost all my dignity to him and I have nothing more to lose, so I called. He sounded like he's asleep when he picked up. He asked who's speaking. I said everything I needed to say and he said thank you. He then asked me about the message I wrote to his father. I told him I sent a letter to his house and asked his father to keep it and give it to him and he goes back to his country. He remained silence. I said I had to go. He said ok. Then I said goodbye. I waited for 5 seconds, thinking he might said goodbye too or something else, but he didn't. So I hung up. It hurts that apparently he deleted my number and didn't recognize my voice. It hurts, but I can't really feel how painful it is because he's hurt me so many times. I just wanted this to go to an end and heard him say goodbye. Why wouldn't he say it? Because he doesn't care if I forgave him or not?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): "Why wouldn't he say it? Because he doesn't care if I forgave him or not?"
Exactly.
If he didn't care about hurting you so many times, then why would you expect him to care if you forgive him or not?
Sorry, but I don't believe your motives in calling him were entirely altruistic. Assuming he dumped you, so I suspect your bruised ego wanted to at least have the last word on your terms and his ego wouldn't give you the satisfaction of hearing him tell you what you wanted to hear.
Guys don't hate and guys don't forgive, guys immediately forget that which is now the irrelevant past and go on with their lives.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): Honestly. Yes.
You know, deep inside that its really over.
Once a guy stop to contact you, deleted your number,
Sounds sleepy when you talk to him and pretend he doesn't recognize your voice, Its Over.
Girls can do it, to pretend.
But to men, its different. They are not pretending.
They are doing it because they are no longer interested,
No longer cares. So, if I were you stop agonizing over him and FORGET Him.
It's ok that you love him and let him know it.
After that kiss him goodbye and let him Go.
Just forget him.
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