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writes:I had been talking to a guy for about 6 months, and although we live about 2 hours apart we would talk almost every day. I'd visited him a few times where he lives and we had a lot of fun. He then told me he wanted me to be his girlfriend so I asked him to come visit me this time. We made the plans and out of nowhere, on the day he was supposed to come, he avoided all contact with me. I was really upset, but told him that I would let him come the next day and he agreed - apologizing in the process. The next day came and he avoided all contact with me again - completely. I was so upset that later that night I got a little tipsy and wrote him about 15 times in a row... Embarrassed, the next day, neither of us made contact. But the day after that, he sent a kissy face emoji to my phone. Uhhh, what? So I responded and we began talking again like nothing happened. Now, this weekend has approached and we made plans for him to visit today... you guessed it, he didn't respond to me asking what time I should expect him or anything after that (he has read receipt so I know when he reads his texts). I decided that I couldn't take the rejection again and ended it - deleting him from all my social networks, and deleting his number from my phone so I wouldn't be tempted to go crazy... I don't understand his behavior at all. I wish I knew, but he never told me why he froze up when it came down to coming to visit. I've asked him if he's dating anyone else or interested in anyone else and he has always said no, that I'm the only one... so can someone please shed a little light on my situation? And should I ever try to get in touch with him again after saying, "Goodbye"?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks, you're probably right. Thank you for your response :) I'll just let it go
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013):
It's very difficult to really say what is in his head .. We can guess though.. I think he said the word ' girlfriend ' as a way of getting more out the relationship sexually and then when the step came to visiting your place .. He shuts down as this is too much pressure and responsibility ..
I think ' goodbye' was the best move you made . This won't change and my advice ' move on sweetie ' x
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