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writes:We where having too many fights, he couldn't see a problem, so I left. It was bitter. After three weeks on no contact, he called me. I missed it and text him asking what he wanted. He said to know how I was, I told him good and said nothing else. He tried calling me again later. I missed it again and then text him asking 'what do you wanna know now?' I know it was nasty, so I sent an apology a few days later. I've heard nothing back.Should I try and contact him again to talk? He obviously wanted more than to see how I was going. I miss him horribly and would take him back in a heartbeat if he could tell me he was going to change. So, would it be a bad idea to call him an try to talk? Things just don't feel over between us. I guess I keep running it in my mind that perhaps he was going to right so,e wrongs with me, and I just shot him down...therefore I feel the need to try and contact him. I may just be too optimistic, but it just doesn't feel like all is lost between us. What should I do?
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (24 July 2013):
Hi there. I guess the breakup really depends on what kinds of things you used to fight about.
Were they serious things - big issues?
Or, were they tiny little things that were hardly worth arguing about?
Many times, couples argue over very tiny things, like misunderstandings.
And so one person makes a statement, and the other person isn't quite sure what they meant, and rather than ask a question to clear it up, they simply make an assumption instead.
And then decide to take offence to what was said.
And so they have a go at the other person for saying what they did, and an argument pursues.
When it could have all been avoided by asking one or two simple questions.
Maybe this is what was behind all the arguments.
It's possible, I suppose.
What seems like the best course of action now, would be for you to stop all contact, and wait until he calls you.
And this includes if he calls you and you are not there at the time.
If he really wants to get in contact with you, he will keep on trying UNTIL he finally gets onto you.
Even if it takes a week or two!
So just give him some space, to have a think about things and sort it all out in his own mind.
And wait UNTIL he does decide to call you again.
Let him chase you.
Let him pursue you.
NOT the other way around.
Because in the end, he you might chase him right away altogether.
And that is clearly NOT what you want.
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