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anonymous
writes:ok ,,, i've been dating a guy for nine years , we were on and off , but recently we have broken up , bec we think i have STD , at least he thinks i caught it and gave it to him ,coming from my country , such is a disgrace , so i can't go to see actually a doctor unless i'm married , now he knows i have never cheated on him , and have never been with any other guy in my life not even before knowing him , and i'm sure he knows this , is it fair that he would dump me , he knew i had the problem and he actually spoke about marraige , and supporting me to , i spoke to him several times asking him what have i done , he told me he rejects me and canot come near me ! so i don't get it , not having to talk to anyone , i don't know what to feel actually , am i stuiped and there is some other reason , should i feel guilty or should i feel sorry for myself ? all i'm feeling right now is that i'm so down , and i want to move on , but not knowing wheather i'm right or wrong , is really confusing me ! and the fact that i can't really tell what is he thinking is confusing me more ,
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (21 July 2013):
hello,
sorry for your situation. you cant have a STD unless you caught it from him. do you have any symptoms? any itching or burning feeling? I know that your culture forbids sex before marriage but your health is really important and worrying isnt good for your health either.
I wish you the best of luck
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reader, goldie22  +, writes (20 July 2013):
The problem is that you might not have an std, the ard a couple of conditions a woman can have down there that present symptoms simular to one, like thrush for instance and a man can catch it from u. Its a bacterial imbalance not an std. I really dont see why you cant see a doctor? Isit that your embarrased?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2013): If you really haven't been unfaithful then you've probably caught it off him, and he's been cheating on you. You haven't said what the std is, but I know crabs can be passed on by sharing towels so you may have caught it from a family member. If you can't get to a doctor try and self diagnose you can then go to the chemist and get some treatment. Stds need treatment so you may need to tell your mum so she can go to the doctor with you.
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reader, kellyO +, writes (20 July 2013):
 Hi Anom,
Really sorry you are in such as situation. For now your health should be your top most priority.I think is important for you to got for a medical check up and treatment for the STD.I am not saying you have it but just to be safe. Since it isn't allowed in your country is it possible to go for treatment outside the country maybe to a neighboring country instead.
If the test result is positive and you have been 100% faithful to him as you say there is the possibility that you might have cut it off him? How will you that make you feel? He isn't worth going back to. I know it is hard but your best bet is to be strong and move on from him. Guilt should be out of the question and you haven't done anything wrong.Look for opportunity to re-start your life away from him and it all.
Big Hugs
Kelly
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reader, goldie22 +, writes (20 July 2013):
The problem is that you might not have an std, the ard a couple of conditions a woman can have down there that present symptoms simular to one, like thrush for instance and a man can catch it from u. Its a bacterial imbalance not an std. I really dont see why you cant see a doctor? Isit that your embarrased?
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