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writes:I am 21 years old and in college studying to be a registered nurse,recently I met a guy, he's very attractive and he asked me for my number, he texted me the same day asking me to come to his house.i told him no because it seems like he wanted sex right away. After a week of meeting him I finally went to his house.he asked me to be his girlfriend I said yes, after two days of dating he asked me to have sex with him, I am a virgin , I want this special moment to be with someone who love me. He gets mad at me for not having sex with him. The next day he told me to choose either I have sex with him or we broken up so I chose the second one. He told me no problem and since then we never talk. I am heartbreaking. I've been in three relationship,they failed because of that. Should I focus in my school and wait for the right guy to come along or should I give this guy what he wanted and hope for the best. My virginity is really important to me.
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reader, llifton +, writes (25 July 2013):
 Wow, this guy's a serious douchebag. Don't dream of sleeping with him. Props to you for maintaining your virginity and definitely hold out til you meet a guy who doesn't give you ultimatums about sex. That's seriously uncool and very manipulative. You made the right call!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2013): You did them all just right your body is your temple !Good Luck:)
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reader, CMMP +, writes (24 July 2013):
You should be relieved, he didn't want you, he wanted you to have sex with him. You did the right thing.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Exactly, he would have broken up with you after you put out for him because that was all he wanted from you, period. Guys like him are a dime a dozen, be patient, there's good guys out there, you just have to weed them out.
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reader, theres_always_a_loophole +, writes (24 July 2013):
 He would have broken up with you anyway. The fact he gave you the ultimatum shows that's all he cared about, and even more so when he said "no problem", when you chose breaking up. It shows he wasn't hurt at all by your decision which to me proves he would have dumped your right after he got your virginity.
No need to feel heartbroken. The way I see it you didn't waste your time, he wasted his. Laugh at him for it. And he did indeed waste his time because he got nothing.
There are so many better guys out there, you shouldn't even consider ever speaking to him again, let alone giving him what he wants. Just pretend he doesn't exist. You'll thank yourself later.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (24 July 2013):
 dear, he is not worth thinking about you did the right thing and it was very smart of you. He was only after sex and you saw right through him. They are decent guys out there who would feel lucky to have you, give it time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013): If this is the 3rd relationship to brake down because of sex then you have been seeing douches. There are men that'll respect you and wait until you are ready. Hold out and I'm the end it will be worth it :-)
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Oh, I'm sorry that you're hurting over this guy, but he isn't worth your time or your tears! For some people, saving your virginity is special, others don't care. Since its important to you (and it was to me too!) don't throw it away on some jerk who will just toss you aside the minute he gets what he wants. Don't be afraid to stand up for your beliefs. Once your virginity is gone..thats it, you can't get it back so for you it should be something that you can look back on as a special event. Absolutely nothing wrong with feeling that way! Concentrate on your studies and hold your head high. The right guy will come along and respect you. This jerk doesn't deserve you.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 July 2013):
 What an ass. Focus on your school and honey, TRUST your gut. It was telling you that this guy was after sex, and THAT is what he was.
Not all guys are like this, be glad you found out so fast that this guy is NOT a keeper.
You will met a good guy, and TAKE your time - there is nothing wrong with that.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (24 July 2013):
 Don't be heartbroken. The guy is the scum of the earth. He's not worth your heart even having the slightest regard for him. He's a user who didn't care for you.
Don't give up your principles. And do go to guy's houses the first week you're dating them!
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reader, banditsmom1124 +, writes (24 July 2013):
 honey dont even give him a second thought...hes a jerk! hes also a huge creep for giving you that ultimatum...a halfway decent guy would have atleast hung out with you and tried for sex lol. consider yourself lucky you didnt waste more time on him.
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