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writes:I left my boyfriend about a month ago. He didn't understand why and we got pretty bitter every time I tried to explain it. We didn't speak for three weeks. I didn't think we'd talk again. About a week ago, He then tried to contact me, I shot him down. Today we finally spoke. We had a good conversation, joking around. He talked a lot and seemed a little nervous. He tried to find reasons to meet up, which didn't work out so he eventually just told me we should catch up soon. What do you think he's up to? Just wanting friendship or trying to get back with me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2013): A month isn't a lot of time go get over someone. He still has feelings and he's trying to get along. He's probably hoping you'll take him back. Don't play him along. You know what going on.
People who try to be just friends shortly after a breakup are just clinging on out of desperation. They don't want to give up. You'll know he hasn't gotten over you if he gets upset if you try to date someone else.
Don't be cruel and drag him around by the heart. If you don't want him as more than a friend, break contact for a while.
Before you do, tell him he needs time to get over you. You plan to move on, and you don't think he has had enough time to get over the breakup. You need him to be comfortable with you seeing other people. He'll swear he can, but that will not be the truth. Don't dangle him on a thread. It's too soon to just be friends.
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