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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is there anything I can do to smooth things over between my parents and my friend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1144 days ago

30 September 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - When I was in high school, there was a fellow classmate, Justin, who bullied me for being gay. He was downright mean to me. We graduated about 15 years ago. Eight years ago, he got my number from a mutual friend and called me out of the blue. He apologize to me ... (290 words)

I want to see my very ill cousin but I don't think his family will allow it

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1144 days ago

30 September 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Thanks to all who respond to this question. My cousin has stage 4 pancreatic cancer and I would like to see him soon. He has been having a hard go with the chemo. He has told his sister in Vancouver that he is not going through with it anymore. Sadly it seems that the... (348 words)

Unsure whether I want to continue our LDR?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1132 days ago

30 September 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I met a guy online a more than a year ago and we have been together for a year now in a LDR due to COVID restrictions. We have been texting for most of the relationship and have sent voice messages to each other occasionally, but not voice call. At the start of the relationship ... (605 words)

Male virgin's first sexual intercourse

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1143 days ago

30 September 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - If a male virgin has fullsex for the first time with a woman whereby obviously the woman puts her vagina on his penis,if he does not feel anything because his penis is not erect enough, and the woman pulls off after a couple of seconds,would you define this as still losing his ... (53 words)

Amazing guy but underwhelming sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1143 days ago

29 September 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been dating this guy for about 2 months and he's amazing. We laugh together the whole time, we have loads in common, he's fun, thoughtful and I find him really attractive. We just click, it's easy and effortless when we're together.I haven't felt this way about someone in ... (330 words)

Am I been over sensitive?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1145 days ago

29 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Am I been over sensitive? My boyfriend of 5 month is constantly hanging up on me in mid flow of a conversation. We can be talking on the phone and he just says bye I’ve got to go and hangs up. It’s really annoying and I have ended up telling him that I find it disrespectful... (131 words)

My sister's inlaws trashed our apt by the sea and she doesn't want me to talk to them about it

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1143 days ago

29 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Several years ago my husband and I purchased a 2 bedroom apartment by the sea to use as a holiday home. We let our family and friends use it too when we don’t and we don’t charge them anything - they are responsible for buying their own food and cleaning the apa... (523 words)

My married father is having an affair with my wife's sister

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1144 days ago

29 September 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - Names have been changed here to protect identities. I've been married to my wife Tarnya for 8 years now, we've been together since 2007. The main problem here is an issue concerning my dad. I confronted him over rumors that he'd been having an affair with Tarnya's si... (365 words)

My 8 year relationship ended for the second time and I am devastated. How do I take care of my autistic son in this state of depression?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1144 days ago

28 September 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - I am in a great deal of emotional pain and I feel depressed, to the point where I cannot even get out of bed. And I have a son to take care of. I NEED HELP. A few days ago an eight year relationship ended for me. The man I was with was married when we began our relationship... (842 words)

Why was it so hard to tell my mother the truth about how I wanted to be a girl my whole life ?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1146 days ago

28 September 2021 (M)

age - I found myself interested in girl's clothes as far back as I can remember. I rarely went outside other then to go to school and even then, I was laughed at and made fun of. One day when I was about 14, my mother asked me if I was wearing mascara, I had just got done ... (625 words)

Our daughter took illegal testosterone and we don't know how to handle the situation

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1147 days ago

28 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Last night our daughter Sarah who's 17 told us she had a confession to make. We asked what it was and were expecting it to be something really serious or drugs. As it is, me and my husband are not that hard on drugs since we're not really squeaky-clean ourselves in that ... (722 words)

I met a man online years ago but everything seems to be at my cost

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1149 days ago

27 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello, I met a man online years ago but everything seems to be at my cost. He wants marriage at my financial cost. He wants to move here, at my financial cost. Yes, I went to see him several times in his country at my cost I understand there is slim pickings for jobs ... (87 words)

Should I walk away from the marriage and make some saving and build my own home for my children

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1145 days ago

27 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been married for 6 years and i am 36 years, and we have two children together with my husband. My husband has a child from a previous marriage that i take care of. My husband is 45 and has fairly paying job. We live in a house that is shared by family and the sister of ... (331 words)

My husbands comment seemed very controlling to me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1149 days ago

27 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Went fishing with the husband today and caught our first fish together, cooked it up and ate it. Later in the evening I made a comment about the dog being in my lap and he blew up - "did the dog feed you today?" I live with my husband and his elderly father. I work, he does... (318 words)

How do you put up with a man who you can't ask questions to?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

27 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - How do you put up with a man who you can't ask questions to? How can there be any proper communication? I'm married for 4 years and at first he didn't mind questions. I'm talking basic questions not silly or uncalled for questions. Example: I'm at work he will mes... (103 words)

I find I can't seem to do anything right in her eyes and I have become frustrated with the relationship.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1146 days ago

26 September 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi aunt's and uncle's So my gf and I have been together around 2 years. She finds things to complain about ALOT. For example I don't see her much , I don't text much , I don't call much in her opinion. In my opinion I find it completely different. We chat m... (176 words)

What could make a man just walk out on his wife like that and move in with a young couple?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

26 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm from South Dakota, but have lived in the Bronx for 13 years now, enjoy it here. It's not me who's got the problem in this question, but Mom. Mom told me the other day that Dad's just gone and left her, and left a handwritten note which said: "I've moved on, moved i... (444 words)

My fiance's ex keeps showing up at our house

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

25 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been dating my fiancee for 7 years now and things have been good. We got engaged November 2019, but delayed the wedding to mid-2022 due to covid. No exes to worry about, no drama, until now. Her ex-husband from 14 years ago when she lived in Manhattan, who's sick (... (223 words)

Six years and no proposal. Should I leave?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1065 days ago

25 September 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I started my relationship 6 years ago right away after breaking up with my ex. It was very toxic, he was 6 years older, abusive, controlling, a liar but he also became a replacement for my dad in the sense that he was there for me after every issue at home. He was always ... (822 words)

One of my really good friends just decided to cut me off because she doesn't agree with one of my decisions.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1147 days ago

25 September 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - One of my really good friends just decided to cut me off because she doesn't agree with one of my decisions. I think it's a little extreme and hypocritical. The decision is that I'm meeting someone for dinner tomorrow and may be pursuing a physical relationship wit... (142 words)

Is he freaking out about becoming a dad?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1150 days ago

24 September 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi there. I am 26 and my partner is 25. We have been together for the last five years. We got engaged two years ago, our wedding was postponed due to covid from April this year to April next. We always talked about trying for children once we got married. However, once it was ... (286 words)

Should I be concerned about my partner's personality change too much?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1031 days ago

24 September 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now, but we moved in together in April 2019. I'm 29, he's 28, no real age gap to be honest. We're both "bear"-type men, although not obese, but certainly no gym bunny either; just healthy. Health ain't the issue here, th... (515 words)

My husband was very secretive about applying for a new job and now wants to uproot the whole family

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

24 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm writing in because I don't know how to cope with this situation, despite my job. I'm a social worker in my 40s, with a 13-year-old daughter, and I've been with my husband since he was 22, but married since we were 26. We live in Texas, but my husband applied for a job... (800 words)

I want to divorce my husband because he changes his mind all the time about plans he makes

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

24 September 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My husband has a son and wanted to join the military. So we made all these plans to move and pack everything. Before getting swore in he backed out of joining. I was upset because I told my job I was leaving and my family. For months my husband told me we had to move to a... (287 words)

I lost him in a car accident 6 years ago but I haven't been able to completely let go

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1152 days ago

24 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Thanks for reading I was engaged to to a man who I lost in 2015 due to a tragic car accident. Unfortunately, I was there and witnessed the whole thing. It took me along time not to replay everything in my head. Took me along time to sleep at night. Took me a long time t... (109 words)

I'm being told I'm the father of a baby but she won't do a DNA test

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1151 days ago

24 September 2021 (M)

age 22-25 - A girl I had a one night stand with says she’s pregnant with my baby and has been harassing me for weeks but we used a condom when we did it, so I don’t see how it could be mine. We slept together about 2 months ago after meeting in a club. It was just a very typical hook-up. I ... (392 words)

Do I confront my cousin or leave it?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

24 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - In 2019 my husband and I got married. We had a very lavish wedding costing us around £50,000. We both worked extremely hard for a couple of years and made lots of sacrifices to be able to pay for it- we didn’t have any handouts. My cousin got married 2 months after u... (425 words)

Any advice on how I can totally let go during sex and show him how much he means to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1063 days ago

24 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello all, Just looking for some advice on my new relationship. I'm a 33 year old female and my partner is a 24 year old male. We've been together for around five months. I've never been in a relationship with a younger man before but he's very mature for his age and... (409 words)

What is a deal breaker for you?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1154 days ago

23 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello Dear Cupid, I would like to know, in your opinion, what is a deal breaker for you? I understand that being in a relationship should be about feelings, connection, and love. Money or materials should not play a big part in a relationship. However, I can't seem to find a b... (262 words)

I've been having meaningless sex since the breakup. Is this normal?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1153 days ago

23 September 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I feel pretty bad admitting this but lately I've been so cut up about my breakup and missing affection that I have been actively seeking out people just to spend the night. I'm not interested in another relationship right now and I am really picky for this. I know I'm good ... (289 words)

We broke up 4 years ago so why do I still think of him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1154 days ago

23 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello So my ex and I were together on and off since 2012 until 2017. I say on and off because we had HUGE issues alot of the time. He didn't trust me whatsoever so that was the main reason we were off and on. Not to mention he was emotionally abusive. Also would call ... (124 words)

Our LDR went from being fine to him saying he couldn't do it anymore

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1153 days ago

23 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I started a long distance relationship in June 2021 I am in northern california and he is in southern. We had met through a gathering at a restaurant in LA when I was down there in April 2021. We started talking often and right when we decided to see eachother he got COVID19 in ... (774 words)

Excited by the thought of anal sex but would it just hurt?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1096 days ago

22 September 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - Heyyyy, advice please lovely’s. I’m really intrigued by the thought of anal sex and want to try it with my new boyfriend. But is it actually worth it or will it just hurt? I have a really high sex drive as it is and love to experiment, but anal is one of the few things I’m a... (272 words)

Did I get Ghosted?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1153 days ago

22 September 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - Backstory: Woman (42) approached me at a club and I got her # that night. Since, we've exchanged text messages and I've noticed she tends to take a while to respond unless I catch her undivided attention. She has already agreed on a date, but we just haven't linked up yet. ... (179 words)

Should a guy have sex with a girl when still dating or before marriage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1152 days ago

22 September 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Dear cupids,i need advice.I've been on several blind dates until i got a girl i wanted.BUT she's asking for sex, must i?... (22 words)

I had an emotional affair and now my whole family has turned against me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1151 days ago

21 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I have made a massive massive mistake, I feel like I’m the past 2 years my husband of 20 years and I stopped looking at each other in the way we used to, our sex life was none existent and we where living like room mates, cue a lockdown lift meal with work people and before I ... (282 words)

Part of the thrill is the danger

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

21 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - After two break ups this year I feel like I need to be on my own but I find myself for the first time wanting to engage in things I hadn't previously. I'm not sure if it's a dangerous mindset that I'm in right now that I just don't care. But I downloaded tinder. Met up with two ... (138 words)

Should I change my plans for her son's 18th birthday?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

21 September 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - The question I'm needing help with is this: is it okay to NOT go to my girlfriend's son's 18th birthday celebration? Here is the background: I have been in a relationship with my girlfriend for about 10 years and, therefore, have been a part of her two boys' life for a... (346 words)

How do I deal with this unfair situation going on in my family?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1153 days ago

21 September 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My fiancé and I are planning a wedding for February. We are both in her 40s and not sure we ever thought this would happen. My parents offered to pay for the wedding or offer up some thing. Today though I got a different story My brother, who is two years younger, also go... (212 words)

How many people would find it impossible to tolerate someone in their home being rude and obnoxious to them?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1153 days ago

20 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My question is this: How many people would find it impossible to tolerate someone in their home being rude and obnoxious to them? I find I have a quick cut off point where I don't want to tolerate rude, obnoxious or threatening behaviour. I understand that people have prob... (222 words)

How do I get him to show more initiative and text me/ask me out again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1154 days ago

20 September 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I went out with a guy I met online today, and I think we both had fun. He seems like a shy/awkward/nerdy guy, so I ended up planning our date. We were together for about 3.5 hours. We split everything. He's definately an improvement to a lot of the guys I've dated before, bu... (277 words)

Our breakups cause me extreme anxiety

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1154 days ago

19 September 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - My girlfriend of many years and I can’t ever seem to resolve any conflicts very well. This means that almost any time we argue she gets VERY angry and very mean and seemingly wants to punish me. Most of the time an argument ends with her saying something like, “Delete my ... (339 words)

Did I do anything wrong for leaving my dad's company? Is there anything I can do to help repair my relationship with my dad and brother?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1155 days ago

19 September 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - My dad owns a welding company and I been working for him since I was 16 years old (I started out as cleaning the bathrooms and stuff like that and I went to trade school to become a welder myself). I love the work and my dad always told me that he was going to sell me the ... (367 words)

I want to confront him and I don't know how. Please help?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1155 days ago

19 September 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I have this guy friend with whom I used to talk every day - be it text or call. We even met a couple of times and the last time we met, he opened up about a lot of things. It was a good meeting and I definitely felt a lot closer to him. But off late, he hasn't been replying to ... (111 words)

My husband of 3 years is not talking to me for past 4 days now.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1155 days ago

19 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid My husband of 3 years is not talking to me for past 4 days now. He talks only when he need something essential from me, do not respond when I talk. Eats if I cook, refuse to sit with me, sleeps on the same bed but pushes me away if I even accidently touch... (277 words)

Is it a normal situation for your husband to ask you to watch him masterbate?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1155 days ago

18 September 2021 (F)

age - is it a normal situation for your husband to ask you to watch him masterbate?... (15 words)

I can’t seem to ‘forgive and forget’ for what my partner has done in the past

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1156 days ago

18 September 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I can’t seem to ‘forgive and forget’ for what my partner has done in the past and it’s really affecting my mental health and our relationship. We’ve been together for 8 years and have a 2 year old son together. We’ve been through a lot together. I have lost my mother, my ... (368 words)

My husband is always irritated at me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1156 days ago

17 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid My husband of 3 years gets irritated at me at even minor things. I understand people fight or argue but in our relationship there is no arguing, he shouts at top of the lungs to leave him alone and shuts down. Will not talk to me for 2-3 days. With both of us worki... (254 words)

My boyfriend seems to be addicted to online games, but won't admit to it.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1159 days ago

15 September 2021 (F) age 41-50 - Hey all. Thanks in advance for your help. My boyfriend seems to play a lot of online games. I think they are useless and a waste of time. He plays one particular online game every single day and sometimes for hours. I would rather get back to real life and do things together. ... (161 words)

Are online "dalliances" with other people meaningless? Or are they unacceptable in committed relationships?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1159 days ago

15 September 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Do you think that if your partner has an online account (Snapchat) you did not know about (but found out about) where he "harmlessly" chats/flirts with women (often younger!!) whenever he feels like it is cheating? He never meets them in person. It is a strictly an online ... (183 words)