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writes:My husband has a son and wanted to join the military. So we made all these plans to move and pack everything. Before getting swore in he backed out of joining. I was upset because I told my job I was leaving and my family. For months my husband told me we had to move to another state to get away from his parents. He said he has to move to get away from his parents. all his idea by the way. I also kept stating what about your son he said he will have him during the summer. I had my mind made up that’ we had to move and that it would not be that bad. Since he backed out his parents told him what he needed to do with his life. I told him I didn’t not agree. I told him they were very controlling. I also said he’s 30 I’m 28 we don’t need their advice and or input. It has been so much drama with his parents so much. It brings me to tears that it keeps getting worse and worse. I won’t go into details. I can’t take it anymore I want to divorce him because of it. He makes life changing plans then changes his mind at the last minute. He divorced his sons mom because she changed the plans all the time. I’m sad but is it the right thing to do? I feel as if nothing would change. Everything was okay when he was my fiancé but when we got married things worse.
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reader, Alwin  +, writes (28 September 2021):
 "I can’t take it anymore I want to divorce him because of it." ok looks like you've made up your mind. Youre young you can remarry and be happier, go for it, but like someone else said be a little more discerning next time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2021): I think it's very appropiate to divorce him right now before things get even worse or there are children of your own involved in this mess. Your feelings are valid and I know what it's like to have inlaws like yours. Things will probably not work out and you are very young. With that being said, only you can know what is right in your heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2021): Didn't you know anything about this man before you said "yes" to his marriage proposal? There must have been a few clues? If his parents are controlling now, they had to have been controlling throughout the time your were courting.
No, you won't convince a single uncle or aunt here that he was okay before you married him. All of his indecisiveness and maladjustment didn't just materialize out of nowhere. This is usually what happens after a whirlwind-romance, and taking the fast-track to the altar. You don't realize the mess you've stepped into, until you're up to your neck in it!
You're in your 20's, with limited experience. He was married before, and you seem to know the reason his first-wife divorced him. Can't say you didn't really have a head's-up. Surely there had to be red-flags he comes from a dysfunctional-family; unless you didn't meet your in-laws until after you were married. I venture to speculate that you may have thought you could rescue and fix him; or you could work around his bad-points. Well, if my speculations are completely off...surprise!!! He's a master of disguise and deception.
You said you wouldn't go into the details. It would seem the lack, or avoidance, of details is exactly the problem here. When he asked you to marry him, he gave you the bate and switch.
I don't assume you're looking for advice, but you've come here to vent. If your mind is made up; then I guess you've had it.
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