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writes:Hi aunt's and uncle's So my gf and I have been together around 2 years. She finds things to complain about ALOT. For example I don't see her much , I don't text much , I don't call much in her opinion. In my opinion I find it completely different. We chat mostly by text because of my work schedule. I do call her and we chat on the phone approximately 20 to 30 mins per call which I find it's more than enough apparently to her it's not enough and too short. I find I can't seem to do anything right in her eyes and I have become frustrated with the relationship. She pushes for all my time and its impossible to do that. I have my own things to do as well and I wish she could understand that. I appreciate you reading.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2021): Well, if you're forced to conduct a romance mostly by text and device; it isn't much of a relationship. Romance is an emotional connection to another person, not like a hobby done in your spare-time.
When your work-schedule is too demanding, and your relationship suffers; you have to decide whether you really have time to devote to both your job and still have a girlfriend.
You may have to learn to organize your time better; or set more time aside to be with your girlfriend. If you just don't have the time, stop holding-on to her. I would assume she'd like to see more of you; other than when you're ready for sex. I'm certain you'll always figure-out how to put aside time for that!
Chances are, she'll breakup with you in frustration. Either you don't have time for a girlfriend; or you're just not that into her, and you can't figure-out how to breakup without drama. That's usually why some guys just won't end a relationship.
If you need to let her go, grow a pair and do it.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (29 September 2021):
 OP, Do you find that you and she are overall compatible or not?
I think after 2 years you have an idea if you two fit or don't.
Have you tried to tell her that YOU are not her? That 20-30 minutes per call seem fine to you? That you can text at work but you are MAINLY there to work, not text or chat?
"She pushes for all my time and its impossible to do that. I have my own things to do as well and I wish she could understand that."
So in short SHE has no life outside of your relationship? No friends? Or family she spends time with away from you?
We all need a LITTLE "me-time" or "space" to decompress, some need more time than others. I'm an introvert and prefer spending time in social situations in smaller doses. Even with my family. I might withdraw with a book and a cup of tea, or I go putter in the garden, sew, bake, game or paint. Sometimes the kids (older) might come to hang out and that is fine too.
Other people are needier. And some are just not even aware that we are not all alike. We don't all WANT/NEED constant companionship to be happy.
I think you need to talk to her. But before you do that, have a REAL good think about whether you actually think the two of you are compatible long-term or not.
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