A
female
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:Went fishing with the husband today and caught our first fish together, cooked it up and ate it. Later in the evening I made a comment about the dog being in my lap and he blew up - "did the dog feed you today?"I live with my husband and his elderly father. I work, he does not - he is on disability. I complemented him many times today and thanked him for the fish. I was taken aback by his comment because I provide for the family - took him out for lunch today after catching the fish. His comment came off as completely controlling. It made me wonder if roles were reversed how life would be. I say nothing about him being on disability, I help him with bills, if he needs something I get it for him - no questions asked. His elderly father is unappreciative and leaves him with the dog 24/7 even though it was the father's idea to get the dog. I think he has resentment towards him and directed it towards me but wouldn't listen to what I had to say regarding that. I want to move out but he is afraid his father will kill himself if that happens, so we stay.I couldn't seem to explain very well why his comment was hurtful to me. He stormed off angry to bed. We don't argue very often so this really caught me by surprise. I know this seems minor compared to other questions on this website, but I'm not quite sure what to do. It just came across as very controlling to me, but maybe I am blowing it out of proportion. Any advice would be appreciated. Thank you for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2021): Girl get out of there by yourself.His dad killing himself is not your problem.If you think he will do it call 911 and he will be put on a 72 hour hold.I feel like you holding your husband up all the time must be draining.I also think you might be used just to pay for bills.Is this what you really want forever???Think real hard.
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