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reader, anonymous, writes (22 September 2021): There is no normal. If you both enjoy it there is no harm in it. Consider masturbating at the same time so you both get off.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (19 September 2021):
 "Normal" is difficult to define when relating to many things in this life, sex not the least of them. Because everyone is unique, what is "normal" to one person may not be to another. A friend confided in me, when she was rather tipsy, that her partner, with whom she has been for many years and with whom she still enjoys a very active sex life, likes her to play with his testicles while he masturbates himself. Is this "normal"? Not to most of us. Is it "normal" for that couple? It would appear so, especially as she has absolutely no objection to participating in this.
Your husband obviously gets a thrill out of you watching him masturbate. The question is, do YOU get a thrill from watching him or do you dislike/hate watching? Nobody should be coerced into doing anything they do not want to do, including watching someone else masturbate. If it is something with which you feel uncomfortable, then tell him you are not comfortable and don't wish to watch. If you don't mind watching - or even get turned on by it - then go ahead and enjoy. Don't worry whether it is "normal". Only worry if you don't want to participate but feel pushed to do so.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 September 2021):
 The question is not "is it normal"?
The question is, DO you want to watch him do this? Or not? Is it part of your sex life or more "random" occupants?
Are you two fulfilling each other sexually? Maybe he knows you are not as into sex but would like you to "participate" by watching? Or he is hoping you find it arousing?
Do you two TALK about sex? Have you asked him why?
I have so many questions here.
Is it weird? A little. Life isn't a porno.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2021): Typo correction:
"What he likes, or what you like, may be unique to either of you as individuals."
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2021): I'm sure you'll get some opinions; but he's your husband, and he doesn't have to be like anybody else's husband. You chose each-other, and whatever goes-on in your bedroom is strictly between the two of you. What he likes. or what you like, may be unique to either of you as individuals. Whether others do it is irrelevant. Normal, is what's normal for you.
Considering what so many wives come here to DC about; that's quite benign comparatively, and relatively tame.
If you're uncomfortable with it, then maybe it's up to you to just say so. You can compromise, and do it to please him; or you can be honest, and tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. I'm assuming that's why you're asking? Whether it's "normal" would probably take a survey or a poll to determine. It's quite safe to say that it's not unusual.
You don't have to do anything just because a lot of people do it; you do it if it fits within your personal values, and if you enjoy doing it. If you don't, you ought to be close enough to your own husband to tell him how you feel about it. If you determine that it's "normal," will that make you like doing it? Isn't that the essence of your question?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2021): It's one of those things you don't talk about, but yeah. We do that. A lot of kinky conversation ensues. Try doing your own thing. Bring a toy. Or just watch. Enjoy.
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