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Archived questions from: October, 2021 (see latest questions)

Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Hi cupids! Should I take him or what u suggest????because of my job

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1143 days ago

31 October 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I like my co-worker hes my type(shy)! Ha I think about him¿like dream of him Should i keep it professional OR??? ... (28 words)

I don't know how to handle my short tempered partner

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1141 days ago

31 October 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm 26 and live at home with my partner and our two year old son. I am currently studying an access course (3 A-Level subjects rolled into 10 months) and constantly feel guilty for leaving my little boy (in the supervision of his father or my auntie and friends) to study. ... (243 words)

Is it weird for a doctor to hug you?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1143 days ago

31 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Is it weird, inappropriate, or flirting for your doctor to share a warm, longish (3-4 second) hug with you and rub the middle of your back up and down at the same time? When I say doctor, I mean general practioner.... (41 words)

I think my husband of 4 years is gaslighting me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1144 days ago

31 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid I think my husband of 4 years is gaslighting me. Short back story, I came to this county to work, had two failed relations,get my husband thru work, dated for 2 years and married. At first everything was fine, then he started saying I am over reacting and I a... (417 words)

Feelings that I don't know how to address

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1144 days ago

30 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi all thanks for taken a moment to read this. I just need some help with a situation I have found myself in. I have a boyfriend we have been together 3 years, we are okay together sometimes. I feel somewhat unloved and not cared for as I should be. I red that when women th... (159 words)

My dad confessed he's been having an affair for 24 years and loves the woman more than my mom

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1140 days ago

30 October 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm 35, and have lived with my girlfriend for the past 7 years now. Moved from California to The Bronx, I'm originally from Huntington Park. I've changed names here for privacy reasons. But it's not me and my girlfriend's relationship which is the issue here, it's Dad's co... (840 words)

I'm married but have to celebrate my birthday alone?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1141 days ago

30 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid My husband is not keen on celebrating bday. He never celebrates even his bday, but I like bdays esp mine. I always do something special for me ony bday, take a trip or buy expensive stuff for me... We planned to do a trip this year and my husband agreed. Sudd... (172 words)

Is a year and and 4 months enough time for a proposal? Am I being that crazy girlfriend?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1142 days ago

28 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend have been together since summer 2020. We’ve been in a happy committed relationship. He just turned 27 this week and I am turning 28 in December. Since then we have made huge strides. We live together, own a dog together, pay bills together, go on vacations ... (221 words)

The attraction I have to this man has caught me off guard

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1146 days ago

28 October 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - A new guy started at my work and we've known each other for a short while now, when we first met we got on like most strangers who meet for the first time. Then one day we were both were working late and got into conversation, that we could of just kept talking, it was ... (370 words)

Why don't I want to give my husband any affection?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1144 days ago

28 October 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I've gone off sex with my husband but I still really love him and am scared he's going to leave me eventually because of it. It's not just sex, I just don't want any kind of affection off him. Off anyone really. No hugging, no kissing, no holding hands. The thing is I do really ... (384 words)

My husband said he believes it is possible he could find the same connection with other women that he shares with me, his wife!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1145 days ago

28 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi and thank you for reading my question. What would you say if your husband or wife asked you if you thought you could find the same connection with anyone else that you share with them (your husband/wife)? Or could THIS connection ever be repeatable in life, with anyon... (634 words)

Am I right to feel confused or have I just totally misread the situation with this guy?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1146 days ago

28 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I can’t figure out if he’s giving me mixed messages or if I’m reading too much into things. A couple of years ago I briefly dated this guy before he called it off as he just wasn’t feeling it which confused me at the time as he’d seemed really keen but I accepted it and ... (620 words)

I'm not sure where I stand with this guy, both sexually and otherwise

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1146 days ago

28 October 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been seeing a guy 22, I'm 33. We clicked instantly with the same interests it made it easy to talk and get into hours of conversation at a time. He said he wanted to go out and we did and had a great time. We talked for hours and it felt very natural. He told me though ... (346 words)

Nice but shy colleague?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1136 days ago

27 October 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - Hello, How do I initiate talking with a nice woman who seems very shy? We are colleagues but don't work together and we are quite mature. I know she is divorced and a mother of grown up sons but she doesn't seem to socialise much at the workplace, and is mostly glued to ... (78 words)

My partner cannot handle his guilt

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1147 days ago

26 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My partner and I are so deeply in Love. We fell in love and we left our spouses without having an affair and were honest with them. My marraige had been over for 4ish years although his only 1 year. This was in March (8 months ago) He has so much guilt over leaving his chil... (320 words)

I don't feel like my wife finds me attractive

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1151 days ago

25 October 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I feel very unattractive. Throughout our marriage I’m always complimenting my wife’s outfits, or saying she looks great, or always seem turned on when she just walks by with underwear or naked I’m always giving her the looks haha. But I’ve realized I don’t remember the las... (137 words)

I'm sick and tired of his treatment towards me. It's always about his friends and weed.

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1141 days ago

25 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi and thanks alot So my bf can be very abusive. Verbally abusive. Resorts to name calling at the slightest things. He wasn't like that in the beginning at first he was calm and sweet then he changed alot. Maybe the true colors appeared. When were together it'... (181 words)

My husband and I are going away for Christmas and its really upsetting my family

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1129 days ago

25 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I’ve made the decision to go away to Barbados with my husband for Christmas this year and it’s gone down like a lead balloon with my family. But the truth is every year something always kicks off in my family which spoils the whole holiday and I really can’t be bothered with it ... (820 words)

How do I create an excitement in the initial phase of living together?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1095 days ago

24 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi! Thanks in advance for reading and giving your valuable inputs. I am getting married in a couple of months and I think I'm going through some kind of anxiety- about the wedding, about my decision to marry him (this is crazy and completely unnecessary but I do worry about i... (915 words)

My wife and a stranger having sex

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1149 days ago

24 October 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Ive always have been interested in watching my wife sleep with a random guy. Shes never joked about anything like that so im unsure on how she would react. How do i go about bringing it up without upsetting her?... (44 words)

Has anyone ever had the feeling where they feel alone even though there are people around them?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1152 days ago

24 October 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Has anyone ever had the feeling where they feel alone even though there are people around them? I think I may have done this to myself. I broke up with my gf after 8.5 years and I feel very alone. It has been 11 months and I feel lonely. I have realised I don’t need much.... (653 words)

We can't agree on when to have children. She wants to wait

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1151 days ago

24 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my fiancee have had serious arguments recently over when to have kids. We've been together for 6 years, met in Vancouver. American expats in Canada, been here a few years now. Not got dual citizenship yet, just permanent residency. Lived together for the past 2.5 y... (509 words)

I am unsure what to do with my longterm partner and daughter

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1152 days ago

23 October 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - I care about my partner but Ive felt like I have always carried her, striving for more in our relationship. Fitness, finances, education, her medical issues. She has suffered depression, anxiety, I am suspecting social anxiety now. I have tried to get her to seek help. she h... (223 words)

Am I crazy for thinking this way about my family?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1152 days ago

23 October 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I have had this question on my mind for a long time and I have never really discussed it with anyone. I wanted to see what other people thought. I am a son in a family of five. My relationship with my family is not the best. My parents have always provided... (841 words)

My husband is unhappy with the size of my breasts and it makes me terribly sad in my marriage

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1151 days ago

22 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Iam 42 years old, married for 18.5 years after a long distance relation for 6 years. Iam married to my high school love. My problem is that Iam very unhappy in my marriage - I was a very smart student, extroverted, happy, bubbly and top achiever. I also have a successful ... (412 words)

Feel Like A Toy Should I Leave Him?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1150 days ago

22 October 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been seeing this guy for a little over a year now, we made our relationship "official" a few months ago. We are in a long distance relationship, living in separate countries. He's never really planned anything for us to do together, like watching movies or anything. We ... (367 words)

I'm worried I have outgrown him and the relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1153 days ago

22 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so i asked this question already and dont think i worded it very well. Context: - I have been with my partner 8 years. - We recently got married. - We live with his parents (Mum and Dad - Dad who constantly makes crude remarks and touches my boobs and partner... (526 words)

Am I a narcissist or do these girls just really not like me.

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1149 days ago

21 October 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - I just recently moved to college and I made some friends. We all live next-door to each other so it’s really hard to avoid them consistently which is why I’ve been trying to salvage our friendship over and over and over again. There’s three of them one of which I have had many ... (615 words)

I love my husband but I don't know if I should be with him

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1152 days ago

21 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello, I am having some really hard thoughts about my marriage and no one seems to understand. I have been in a relationship with my partner for almost 8 years but we got married this summer (August 19th 2021). We live in his parents house. I was studying for 4 years of o... (399 words)

How do I have sex with my aunt in the bedroom

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1149 days ago

21 October 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - my aunt has romantic feelings for me and i feel the same way with her, and she keeps staring at me sexually and it kind of turns me on the way she does that. and i wish that we could make love in the bedroom (with protection of course) and as a teen i would sometimes kiss her ... (98 words)

How do I tell the my brothers/sisters I don't have the money to have them for Christmas?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1154 days ago

21 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid , I'm a single woman and share a Condo with My Mother in her 60's .. Every Holiday for the past 16 years both My Siblings a Older Brother and a Married Sister with 4 Children have never volentered to have a Holiday at their Home. I get My Brother he is a Single ... (233 words)

I miss my crush so much but I probably won’t ever see him again.

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1155 days ago

21 October 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - My crush got laid off due to covid last week and I miss him so much, I feel like I have a big black hole inside me. I wish I could say I was exaggerating but I really am not. I have rarely had crushes throughout my life, so when I have one it is a relatively big deal for me.... (309 words)

My husband wants me to get pregnant by his gay friend

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1134 days ago

21 October 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with my husband for 3.5 years, but we've been together for 9 years in total. The big issue here is kids, we both want them, yet my husband has other ideas about how and it's caused arguments. He wants me to sleep with his friend Phil, who's 28, and a mal... (302 words)

Should I out my psycho ex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1156 days ago

21 October 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Warning this will be a bit long winded. So I was with my ex for 8 months. Not much in the grand scheme of things. When we met he seemed perfect. Although a little insecure. He said his exes had cheated on him and it had left him feeling not good enough. I felt sorry for h... (1133 words)

Am I just Easy?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1153 days ago

20 October 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I’ve spent the past 2 nights with a lad I only met last week. I don’t even want to be in a relationship with him but he was really nice to me after I got fat-shamed by a tinder date in a bar, so to be completely frank I’ve thrown myself at him. Am I just easy? I’d been chatting... (644 words)

My difficult mother hasn't spoken to me since our disagreement

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1156 days ago

19 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a rough relationship with my mother. Growing up, she's been emotionally and verbally abusive, so as soon as i graduated college and found a job, I moved out, despite her objections. (See my previous questions if you want to understand our relationship better) Since ... (265 words)

Our conversations have quickly escalated into sexting

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1154 days ago

19 October 2021 (F) age 30-35 - I approached a guy (call him ALEX) on social media. Alex is the cousin of one of my sister's friend. We didn't know each other then. I wrote to him to say hi. But the convo escalated quickly into about sex. And we sexted. I immediately regretted it because I liked him. Also ... (333 words)

Please help me stop uttering other people’s name during sex

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1157 days ago

18 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - I am currently dating this guy who is amazing inside and out and he satisfied me much in bed as well. But the problem is I sometimes mentioned other man’s name during sex. And yet i have not slept with those guys i have mentioned or any guys that have those names, why? I want... (70 words)

47 year old man never been kissed, Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1133 days ago

18 October 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - Hello. I am sure you will not believe my story, but I am telling the truth. I am a large 47 year man who has sadly for me never experienced what it is to have a girlfriend or to fall in love or even just walk with a woman holding their hand. I have never even been kissed yet. I ... (157 words)

My husband's friend uninvited him from a trip because they didn't warm up to me

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1158 days ago

18 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid I am an extreme introvert person, always enjoyed being along than in groups. I do not have any problem talking to people one-one but have issues in groups, so mostly I listen while in groups and may be ask one/two open ended questions, that's all the part I do. I... (320 words)

How can I convince him that a single bed for both of us is not okay ?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1159 days ago

18 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Me and my boyfriend live together and he impulsively threw away our king size bed where we could fit with our children. We can't afford a new bed and ended up sleeping in a single bed which is very uncomfortable. The kids still get in at night and I end up pressed up against ... (481 words)

Why have I suddenly become desperate for hugs?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1156 days ago

18 October 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I have suddenly become desperate for hugs these past few weeks, when all my life I have hated hugging and avoided hugging people as much as I could. Even with family members. There’s not one person I can think of who I have enjoyed hugging in the past. I would only hug family ... (333 words)

My boyfriend hired a maid to clean his house now can't afford her and wants me to pay

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1156 days ago

17 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hello and thanks My bf and I have been together for a year. He hired a maid to clean his house and now can't afford to pay her. He asked if I could help. I don't even have a maid. I'm surprised, hes healthy and quite capable of cleaning his own house.I said no of cours... (104 words)

Can someone help me understand why did she tell me about where her daughter was conceived?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1011 days ago

16 October 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi friends, need advice on an incident that recently happened with me. I am a 26 year old single male. Recently I shifted into a new apartment and met a young girl. She is doctor and is very sexy and beautiful. When I had shifted she saw me and invited me for coffee. As that ... (471 words)

I want to help my sister and I don't know how

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 1159 days ago

16 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - My sister Brooke (not her real name) Skyped me the other day saying she's feeling depressed after her husband told her he was gay and had only married her to get into the U.S. from Australia. But this isn't one of those "He's only just realized he was gay and needs support" -... (533 words)

Language barrier, temper, or both?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1158 days ago

15 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Language barrier, temper, or both? I have been dating a man for a couple of years. I speak english , and english isn't his first language. I find he interrupts what I say completely differently than what I mean. Example: today we were texting and usually he has bfriends ... (136 words)

I want him as a boyfriend, not just a close pal.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1160 days ago

14 October 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - A male co-worker has been very close to me. He shares a lot of his private thoughts, fears and vulnerabilities with me. He tells me about things that have happened in his past, and also about his family members. Actually I've never expected a person to open up to me so freely. ... (395 words)

He told me I was fatter than he expected years later

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1160 days ago

14 October 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I've been in a relationship with a man for 3 years now (me: 23f, him 24m). Our first date is a precious memory for me. We were talking online for weeks before we met because he was out of town at the time, and met up at a small restaurant. He was so nervous that he kinda just ... (388 words)

I’m engaged but still thinking about a holiday romance. Do I stay or leave?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1159 days ago

13 October 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I’m 32 years old, and im engaged to a wonderful man, however just recently I can’t stop thinking about a past love of mine and I hate myself for it. We are due to be married next year, have been together 7 years and we are honestly so good together. He's a wonderful man; I... (1184 words)

I just found out my boyfriend use to be a sissy in high-school

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1164 days ago

13 October 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - I recently discovered that my bf of 1.6 years was a huge sissy back in high school like super feminine. I found from some of his old female friends when I attended his high school reunion with him a few nights ago. They even said he never had a girlfriend in her either so they ... (193 words)