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writes:Language barrier, temper, or both?I have been dating a man for a couple of years. I speak english , and english isn't his first language. I find he interrupts what I say completely differently than what I mean. Example: today we were texting and usually he has bfriends around, and today he didnt so I said oh maybe their with their girlfriends. He got offended and asked why I said that, and was rude to me about it. To me it's just simple conversation, to him however its insulting. Then he gets argumentative over it. Name calls etc I'm ready to throw in the towel its weekly and I like my peace. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2021): I was with a Turkish man for five years who was abusive and he used this excuse a lot for the fights he used to cause, now I realise deliberately.
He used to say we couldn't communicate properly after he had abused me and put everything down to communication problems.
It was an excuse and now I realise, it had nothing whatsoever to do with it.
Name calling is unnecessary and shows what kind of a man he is if he gets angry with you when you have done nothing wrong.
He won't suddenly improve. This will only get worse.
Leave and save yourself from his crap and find someone who doesn't cause you such stress. OR stay happily single like me. I can highly recommend it! :-)
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (19 October 2021):
 Why have you put up with this behaviour for a couple of years? Name calling has nothing to do with language barriers. It is just a bully's way of trying to control others. This will only escalate with time.
It must be exhausting, trying to second guess how someone is going to understand what you say/write. Misunderstandings are one thing, getting angry and calling you names is quite another.
Walk away and don't look back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2021): Honestly this is the funniest post I have read for a long time. This guy I am sure is from a 3rd world country. Probably he thought you are insinuating that he is gay. Gayness is still a taboo that cannot be approached in some of those places. I would say there is a huge cultural gap between you and him. Find someone who understands you.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (19 October 2021):
 Just throw in the towel, OP
It does sound like a language barrier but also as a guy who seems to WANT the drama instead of asking what you meant by it. He "interprets" it as HE sees fit regardless of what you might have meant, could have meant, or really meant.
He sounds like an asshat. He calls YOU names because he reads more into a text than you said? Yikes, just yikes. He sounds abusive.
Date someone closer, OP
Someone you can spend time with in person. Someone who is WILLING to get to know you, not just "ASS-sume" what you mean and then go off.
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