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writes:I am currently dating this guy who is amazing inside and out and he satisfied me much in bed as well. But the problem is I sometimes mentioned other man’s name during sex. And yet i have not slept with those guys i have mentioned or any guys that have those names, why?I want to know why this happens and how to stop it. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dear Mandy  +, writes (20 October 2021):
 Hi
Oh dear ! A very awkward situation to be in. Rest assured so many people have done this ( many have lost their partners because of it )
You need to be honest with your boyfriend and explain you have no idea why you are saying other men’s names. I also agree with wiseOwlE if you are new into this relationship, maybe hold off the sex for a while , until you really connect with him on a intellectual level. They slowly try sexual encounters with him again , you should’ve by then be emotionally attached as well as sexually, and not calling out any others name except his.
Good luck
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (20 October 2021):
 Nicknames, my dear :)
If you are not in control of your mouth (as far as what you say/yell during sex) stick to a nickname. Babe, honey... whatever.
And also, TRY and use some self-control.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 October 2021): Both my wife and a girlfriend did the same. I'm pretty cool with because I'm doing same sometimes. I do it when I need some extra stimulation at the moment, or I just fantasize about variety. You'll think this is a little weird, we openly use other names sometimes. Married 40 years and open minded.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2021): Get to actually know the guy you're with better, aside from having sex; and HIS name and personality will begin to mean something to you. If you haven't known the guy that long, he hasn't been etched into your heart and mind.
If you're very sexually-active, or become intimate too soon into making a romantic-connection; that person's name hasn't quite registered mentally. You might slip! Maybe you should also focus more on the person you're with, and not compare him to others you've been intimate with. If it wasn't that long ago you were with another guy; you're bound to get names mixed-up. It can happen to anybody! It just shouldn't happen too many times.
He might be a nice, but you need to practice actually liking the guy before you share your bed with him. Give him a chance to push the other guy's you've known out of your head. When you're dating different people close together, it can happen! OOPS!
If you're rebounding after a recent breakup; maybe you just haven't gotten the other guy out of your system yet.
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