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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Can a physical attraction develop over time?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1385 days ago

31 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been single for a long time and spent A LOT of this time dating (as in a different date every weekend). I think it's because I'm waiting for sparks and fireworks and butterflies right away, which my friends say is unrealistic. I have dated a few guys previously who I've ... (312 words)

LDR wants someone local

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1386 days ago

31 January 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - The past few years after stepping away from DC. I started finally getting over my ex...and started dating again. I met this amazing 22 year old girl last April, and even though its different country long distance she agreed to start seeing each other and basically called... (569 words)

I cried during a film and he handed me a box of Kleenex

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1385 days ago

30 January 2021 (F) age 36-40 - Hi. Would this bother you? My boyfriend and I were watching a movie a few days ago. I cried during one scene as it reflected a situation I had gone through in my real life. All my boyfriend did was hand me a box of kleenex. He didn't say anything, he didn't comfort me or hug me ... (77 words)

His cooking style annoys me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1387 days ago

30 January 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - When my boyfriend cooks, he never follows a recipe. He will add random ingredients (ones that in my view really don’t work with the recipe) or add the wrong quantities. Doesn’t matter if he’s cooking sweet or savoury, it’s always the same. The result is that sometimes his ... (165 words)

My 14 year old son's friend is gay. Is it ok to allow them to sleep in the same room?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1386 days ago

30 January 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - My son, Justin, and his friend, Chris, are 14 years old. Chris has let his parents, Justin, my husband and myself that he is gay (I don't know if anyone else knows). Justin doesn't care about Chris being gay, as long as they can continue being friends and doing the hobbie... (123 words)

I don't know how to tell a girl that I like her

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1390 days ago

29 January 2021 (M)

age 18-21 - hello im divine from nigeria i dont know how to tell a girl i like her im a very shy person. can someone help me out all my friends have girl friends but i dont im piesed off. help! ... (42 words)

What kind of strategy can I use in dealing with my sister who drinks too much?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1387 days ago

29 January 2021 (F)

- I moved in with my sister about a year ago. (After she broke up with her boyfriend and needed help paying the rent.) For about 8 months she was drinking excessively (4-8 bottles of wine a week). Her behaviour was non-violent (and generally not aggressive), just clumsy and ... (440 words)

Any advice for dealing with an unpleasant coworker?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1390 days ago

29 January 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - There is a person who I work with ,who is a very funny comical witty character but hes can be very unpleasant. all staff say the same that it's just the way he is ,dont take it personally ,that it's just his humour and that hes like that with everyone. He has never once h... (217 words)

My married boyfriend wants me to become his 2nd wife

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1365 days ago

28 January 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi, Aunts! I apologise in the first place that this isn’t going to be a short or “ethical” post (in the opinion of the most). I met my bf 3 years ago at work and he was my boss. We were very good friends and had gotten married recently back then. His wife used to live in ... (409 words)

My ex is angry that I told him I was never in love with him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1390 days ago

27 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex boyfriend left me for someone else in 2017, the girl rejected him and he tried to go back to me. In that same year someone close to me died. He still left. He later proposed I told him had he worked out with the other girl he wouldn’t be talking to me. Now in 2020-20... (187 words)

How do I deal with a very unsupportive partner?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1396 days ago

21 January 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - Hello Cupiders, How do I deal with a very unsupportive partner? I have always aimed for the best for both of us, fitness, finance, mental and emotional health. Lately I have noticed my long term partner has never supported me in my decisions. This hurts me so m... (372 words)

How to attend job interview without boss knowing

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1395 days ago

21 January 2021 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi friends. I have posted here before and I find users here very kind and honest with answers. I want to ask advise about going for job interview. My company has very strict policy. I must apply for leave 4 weeks in advance. Office hours not flexible. I cannot go for in... (149 words)

Ex got upset and called me insensitive. Do I owe him more?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1396 days ago

21 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex had been dealing with a lot after our breakup and after a week of not talking he reached out asking to get dinner because he needed some company after a tough week (death of his family member). I said I couldn’t but that I’m sorry he’s dealing with that and I’ll send ... (179 words)

I'm crushing on my chiropractor and want to know more about him

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1391 days ago

20 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid. I see a chiropractor once or twice a month. Last year I was going but stopped because I fancied my chiropractor, eventually I started back up this year and I still fancy him. He seems like a really nice guy and my type, very chilled out and has a positive o... (167 words)

Do his comments suggest he’s not into me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1303 days ago

20 January 2021 (F) age 30-35 - So the guy I like constantly makes comments to me about not liking breasts. He says that he doesn’t like big breasts and ‘more than a handful is a waste’. This is clearly targeted at me because I have really big breasts, is this simply his way of telling me he doesn’t find me ... (116 words)

Why did a married man with a child on the way date me? I had no idea he wasn't single

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1397 days ago

20 January 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - I just want to make sure I'm not crazy. I dated this guy for about a year and we really hit it off. We split and remained in touch. I will admit I still liked him. I moved away and came back in town he told me he had a girlfriend so I backed off. One day a few months later, I ... (208 words)

Why would my friend acknowledge everyone's birthday except mine?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1398 days ago

18 January 2021 (F) age 26-29 - Hi, I've know this guy for over two years. In past we had some kind of a relationship, then he went abroad so it ended. We're still in contact though and last months he texts me almost every single day, we have long conversations, we laugh..I had birthday the other day and he d... (146 words)

How do I respond without putting him off? I'm not sure if he just wants a casual relationship

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1400 days ago

18 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy at work around a year ago for a few weeks - we saw each other around a few times. Nothing more too it. He added me on Facebook the other week and we have really hit it off , chatting non stop, very interested in my life etc ,obviously attraction and good convers... (317 words)

Is it normal to not feel too much excitement?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1399 days ago

17 January 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Is it normal to not feel too much excitement? I used to feel depressed at home, so I managed to find a good career job. I work 8am-5pm. And I often found wasting my evenings doing nothing so I took on another job. So now I work from 8-5, 6-11. And this repeats for a whole week. ... (167 words)

Our relationship is "mommy is the boss" and I want to change it to "We are the bosses"

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1391 days ago

17 January 2021 (M)

age 41-50 - I met my partner about 3 years ago, she has children from a past relationship (8 year old boy and 11 year old girl). We are expecting a baby in the next 2 months. The children are constantly speaking to my partner about what they are going to do/ take charge of and when I try ... (231 words)

Does anyone have any experience or advice in dealing with herpes?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1389 days ago

17 January 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - I recently started dating a girl. I don’t really see the point in casual dating, so my mind is focused on finding someone to marry, that I can be with forever and be happy. So far everything has been great and seems to get better as we get to know eachother more. Usually wh... (512 words)

My girlfriend is lying to me about something so inconsequential but because she's lying I want to end things

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1395 days ago

16 January 2021 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi, This feels so stupid but please read the whole thing. I dislike social media and it annoys me that its done this however it has caused an issue for my relationship. Through out the relationship my girlfriend of 7 months has mentioned the names of her previous partne... (552 words)

Why is my sister so cruel to me after all of these years?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1399 days ago

16 January 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - My sister and I are in our mid twenties. She is 2 years older than me. We haven’t gotten along since I was about 9 years old. This is when I started formulating my own mind and opinions and stopped allowing her to boss me around. She has always acted like a second mother to... (407 words)

I can't stop thinking about him but he has a baby on the way and I think our friendship is over

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1398 days ago

16 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - There's this guy I used to see ages ago and it just didn't work out romantically but we decided to he friend. However, he's got with a new girl and I've found myself being pushed away and he says he can't talk to me anymore because there's mistrust in their relationship. Fast ... (121 words)

Boyfriend's comment have me wondering if I want to continue relationship

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1398 days ago

16 January 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - I am in my early 50s and my boyfriend is 5 years younger. We both have grown up kids. He is financially much better off than me. He has successful couple businesses, owns few houses. I think his worth is couple millions dollars. His living habits are same as mine. We are not... (356 words)

We are being kicked out and need new place to live but I no longer want his mom to live with us

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 1393 days ago

16 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Long story short I have been with my boyfriend since I was 16 years old. We had our daughter at 21 and I moved in with him and his mom. First 2 years I didn't work and took care of my daughter. For 5 years now I have been working and paying rent and my bills. His mom pays rent ... (249 words)

Boyfriend said he didn't like our fighting and needed to think about it. What does that mean?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1403 days ago

15 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My bf and I have had an amazing relationship the past year. Everything is great besides our arguments here and there. We had our first big fight the other night leading to me leaving his place to go home and cool off. The next few days without me talking to him, I picked up the ... (204 words)

My husband's anger and ranting has become unbearable

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1403 days ago

14 January 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - Things haven't been going well with my husband these past few months; lockdown's been very stressful. He's been ranting about everything. Getting up in the morning? He's ranting. Having breakfast? It turns into a rant about the cereal industry Working from home? He g... (481 words)

My boss told me that several co-workers have complained that I smell. I'm clean! How do I take care of this?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 1168 days ago

14 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Not a relationship question...but this place has never failed me when I need help, so here we go. About a month ago, I started a new job. Yesterday, my boss called me into her office and informed me that she has received complaints from others in the office that I smell. Sh... (731 words)

My parents are not accepting that we are moving across the country. I feel badly for hurting them

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1403 days ago

14 January 2021 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey aunts and uncles this is my previous post http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-family-is-mean-behind-my-back-but.html#provide_answer Update we finally have enough money to move out and will be moving to where my husband grew up which is across the country from us now. A... (194 words)

Wife keeps talking to ex-bf even though she knows it upsets me

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 1396 days ago

14 January 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - A few years ago my wife reconnected with an old boyfriend via Facebook. She did not tell me about it, but I found out indirectly. He is married with two kids and he wanted to meet her for dinner while he was on a business trip to LA without his wife. (He lives in San Francisc... (308 words)

Should I keep their affair a secret?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 1404 days ago

13 January 2021 (M)

age - My ex-wife had an affair with one of our best friends. It was very physical, and they exchanged a lot of sex talk and intimate photographs of each other which i still have. When i discovered the affair i copied as much as i could as it went along before confronting her abou... (103 words)

My long distance husband keeps asking for money

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 1404 days ago

13 January 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband and I have been together 4 years. For the most part it's pretty good except for money. He relies on me too much to take care of things financially. I should mention hes been back and forth we don't live together as a married couple yet. I had to pay for his visa ... (220 words)

How do you politely get out of a one-sided conversation?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1406 days ago

13 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm currently living with my adult brother and 70-year-old father due to the lockdowns, and have been since March. Being in close proximity to each other has made some issues really obvious. A huge one is that my dad talks all the time about things that we really don't care ... (492 words)

Does anyone else have experience with anyone with narcissistic rage?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1407 days ago

12 January 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Thank you for any help offered. People are busy so it is appreciated. I have a friend who I have been or now had been friends with for several years. She has been through a bad time of late having lost custody of her daughter due to mental health issues and her drinking.... (456 words)

My boyfriend's strange actions have made me totally lose interest in him

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1407 days ago

11 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay.... I started dating this guy for a year. He lives at home with his Parents he’s 30 he has a son and he’s going through a divorce. This weekend I went to his house. I saw a lot that I didn’t see before. His mom babies him and he just has not grown in life because of... (348 words)

My wife has never had an orgasm with me

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1402 days ago

11 January 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - I am 55 y.o. And my wife is 53. We’ve been married for 12 years. She never has had orgasm via intercourse with me (only via oral sex), but she had more than 30 sex partners before we knew and she had orgasms with many of them including a squirt with one of her exes (FWB). ... (88 words)

Male compliments female co-worker. Does he feel he can trust her not to take it out of context?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 1404 days ago

11 January 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay, speaking hypothetically here. You have a male and female who are coworkers. They are friendly but not friends. They don’t hang out outside of work, but they are the ones who turn to each other with work problems and sometimes personal issues. They have a great deal of ... (317 words)

Why does my wife close her eyes during anal sex?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1404 days ago

11 January 2021 (M)

age - I have noticed that my wife closes her eyes during anal sex. They are open during vaginal sex. I don't think it's because she hates anal because she agrees to it, and often has an orgasm a few minutes after anal, when we have switched to something else. What do you think? Does ... (64 words)

What has happened to men today?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1393 days ago

11 January 2021 (F)

age 41-50 - What has happened to men today . Before anyone tells me that women can also be bad people yes I’m aware of that but I absolutely cannot see anything in the scale of the way men behave . I’m yet to see an industry primarily using the abuse and degradation of men and boys fo... (300 words)

My girlfriend has too much time on her hands and its driving me crazy

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 1407 days ago

10 January 2021 (M)

age 36-40 - Hi there I wrote before about my girlfriend always wanting to talk on the phone and text. I had a discussion with her and she said she would try not to be so clingy. Unfortunately that didn't go far. Today she said I don't message much after 9 pm and why? Well I work... (157 words)

My boyfriend rarely will perform oral sex and when he does he's terrible at it

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 708 days ago

10 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey everyone! Can we talk oral for a hot minute? I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, we’re very much in love and have a very healthy sex life. However I can count the times he’s gone down on me on my hands, and each time is because I’ve asked for it ...And w... (261 words)

I can't stand my teenage kids anymore!!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1408 days ago

10 January 2021 (M)

age 51-59 - I can't stand my teenage kids anymore. All they do is expect everything and act entitled and I've had enough. I'm out of work right now and cannot afford much my wife works but doesn't make alot of money. I'm thinking of just letting go and not do anything around the hous... (72 words)

Everything I do in life is wrong especially when it comes to men

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 1409 days ago

10 January 2021 (F)

age 22-25 - I feel like everything I do is wrong all my life, especially with males. Even in Elementary school boys were basically separated unless they were relatives. There were a few times where we did normal things but even if I just sat and listened to boys talk or be silly I was ... (890 words)

My boyfriend finally proposed after 15 years and now I'm not sure if I want to marry him

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1408 days ago

10 January 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Please could I get some advice on my love life? I'm so torn, basically i've waited years for my boyfriend to propose, in fact i'd more or less given up on the idea and emotionally exited the relationship but now he's suddenly decided he wants to tie the knot. Bit of ... (430 words)

My boyfriend has stayed friends with all of his exs on social media

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 1410 days ago

9 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm looking for advice and trying to figure out if I'm being paranoid or not haha. Okay so me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years, live together, have a dog and want a family. We are in love and happy most of the time... Except when it comes to social media and our ... (138 words)

He proposed I said yes but I don't want to marry him!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 1410 days ago

9 January 2021 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of a year proposed. I said yes because his family was right there. I don’t want to marry him and I’m freaking out because I’m not married. He’s just not what I want....I don’t know what to do . He’s also still married to his first wife I told I did not want to ... (85 words)

I feel like the man who left his wife for me is regretting it. Can anyone tell me what to do?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 1407 days ago

8 January 2021 (F) age 41-50 - My married boyfriend left his wife for me. We were having an affair for 8 years prior. He moved in with me in November. But instead of feeling happy about this new beginning like I am, he acts hot and cold. One day he is loving and attentive and the next he's moody, emotionally ... (108 words)

Trouble with a friend who borrows money and won't pay it back

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 1406 days ago

8 January 2021 (F)

age 36-40 - Hello So, my friend seems to have money issues. I don't mind helping out sometimes but recently I found out after I borrowed 200.00 a mutual friend also gave 200.00 so I sort of expected mine back. However, she said shes broke and needs it. Also acted insulted that I ... (140 words)

How can he go from being gay to having a relationship with a younger woman?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 1406 days ago

7 January 2021 (F)

age 51-59 - Okay can someone please help my confusion here please? I have been friends with a guy for over 20 years just friends as I'm married with kids and he is or I thought was gay. However a year ago this girl entered his life younger, pretty, blonde and I know him well enoug... (320 words)